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I'm no genius at love, but I've forced myself through 4 years of bad relationships in high school and 3 in Jr high school. I'm always ready to give some advice to the younger gen especialky since its all fresh in my mind. I'm also a swingin' evil genius. Thats always good for a good time.

Should I wait for the right time or just dive in?

Q.   I am 13. Me and my girlfriend have kissed already. But she doesn't seem to want to makeout with me. I know not to rush her. And I'm not. But we have a strong realationship and we love each other. Should I wait for the right time or just dive in?...

A.   16 March 2009: Dude, you'll totally be able to tell. It'll feel a lot more natural than it does now. Give it time, you've got plenty of it. ... (read in full...)

There's no limit to love, right?

Q.   Hi (: first off thanks for answering this, or even reading it haha. Okay so I'm 13 years old, but I guess I'm mature for my age. Me and my friends sometimes add people we meet on our social networking site, and they're not pedos or anything, at ...

A.   14 March 2009: At your age i'd probably keep it pretty chill and slightly affectionate. Don't rush into anything head on and be smart about things you know? Other wise good luck to you sis! ... (read in full...)

I don't know how I feel about my bf anymore

Q.   hey everyone in dear cupid land... im really conufused.... i dont know how i feel about my bf anymore.... me and him have been together for almost 9 months (he's 17 nearly 18 and im 18 nearly 19). we get on really well and he always tells ...

A.   14 March 2009: Can't beat him? Buy another controller and join him! It'll be a real shocker if you just start playing Street Fighter with the kid and he can't tell the diffrence. If that doesn't work, turn off the box and sit his sorry gamer butt down. Most of u... (read in full...)

I Like this guy, alot. but I'm not sure if he likes me.

Q.   I Like this guy, alot. but im not sure if he likes me. we've been best mates for a long time and we do flirt a little bit. My best friend told me that she also likes him but i havnt told her how i feel. he told me he doesnt like her and recently...

A.   14 March 2009: Now I think you might just wanna talk to your man/best buddy, or whatever you think he should be classified as. Maybe you don't have to blurt everything out at once, just tell him you feel uncomfortable. He'll listen, but he might not entirely pick ... (read in full...)

How do I let her down gently?

Q.   Okay I am only 18 so don't accuse me of being some pedo old man lol, but I was on my way home back from college and it was raining really heavily, but I saw this school girl walking by the side of the road - and there was steep grass banks either ...

A.   14 March 2009: It was nice of you to roll up and do the save the day superhero thing bro, we don't have enough people in this world that do kind things and want nothing in return. And you don't have to start anything romantic with this girl, just be friends and ... (read in full...)

Just wandering.. are guys & girls really that different?

Q.   Hi Cupids! Started seeing a guy about a month ago and we have had several lovely dates and get on really well. He phoned me last 2 nights ago and said he wanted to see me - I am meeting him tomorrow again. Just wandering.. are guys and girls...

A.   14 March 2009: Tough call sis. Sounds like this bruddah could very well be thinking the same thing that you are right now. After all, if you enjoy spending time together and he likes you, he's probably just a little nervous of sounding too clingy. Give the bloke a ... (read in full...)

Senior? Sophmore relationship?

Q.   I really like this girl at my school, but im worried about the age difference. I am a senior in high school and she is a sophomore. We have been talking when we get a chance in between classes and have been getting along really well besides some ...

A.   13 March 2009: No sex involved? Good clean fun, sounds harmless to me. Ithink you'll be fine bruddah. Treat her right, think smart and be cool!... (read in full...)

I need a REAL man's advice for my guy's 25th birthday

Q.   Hey all you red blooded males out there, i'm wondering if what i'm going to do for my partner's 25th birthday is going to be enough. i'm a bit tight for cash but i really want to do something that will make him really happy. he said no ones rea...

A.   13 March 2009: WOW. Would you talk to a girl for me? You know how to treat your man sis. If he likes games, maybe buy one and play it with him? Sounds like he'll be stoaked!... (read in full...)

I need some self-esteem!

Q.   Helloo there. I am aware that what i am going to say might sound like an average teenage girl but it is realy staring to get to me. I am 15, soon to be 16. I am 5ft 5ish and weigh 9st (126 lb) I know this might not seem a problem to some peopl...

A.   13 March 2009: Keep in mind Im not a teenage girl, but Id love to help. I think the first thing you should do is tell yourself well done. Diet change and exersize routines are hard to start and stick to, so well done sis! Stick to it, and maybe eat several small ... (read in full...)

Can a girl get back their virginity back?

Q.   can a girl get back their virgin after she stop having sex for 3 yr? i had sex my ex bf, and i about to marry with other man after 3 yr. can he know that i am not virgin?...

A.   12 March 2009: Virginity is more of an ideal than a body part. You can have it rebuilt surgicly, however it doesn't give you your first time back. Just be honest with him, you two ARE getting married after all. ... (read in full...)

I want a relationship but am unsure if she is serious about me. What do I do?

Q.   i met this girl in school and iv knowen her from year 7 and im in year 10 now and we have started to go out like with other freinds and stuff and swimming and we talk alot and if im on my own she will come and talk to me and we hold hands but thats ...

A.   12 March 2009: Don't worry bout the sex thing. Take her out Saturday and the two of you have a good time. Sounds like your already close to this girl, ask her bro. Keep us post bruddah, and good luck.... (read in full...)

He's too nice and its annoying me!!

Q.   Hi, this sounds sooo stupid but its been really bugging me for so long. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 5 yrs and he really is the nicest person...i swear he is a saint! Nothing is never any trouble for him and he never has anything ba...

A.   12 March 2009: I can't believe this one. Next I'll see a post about a girl who likes a guy for who he is and it'll drive him insane. Sounds like he's just a good guy to the core. Admarible trait, im a bit envious of him. Its not like he doesn't get mad, he's ... (read in full...)

I don't want him to know that I am not virgin.

Q.   I have a boyfriend and we are in sexual relationship for last 4-5 years. But now i am getting married with someone else next month and i don't want him to know that i am not virgin. Is it possible ? If yes, how ?...

A.   12 March 2009: Technically, there's no real way to tell anyway. Mannerisms, but no hard/fast rules. Besides, you really should be honest with this man your going to share your life with. Worst way to start a relationship is with a lie for sure sis.... (read in full...)

I wish I knew what he was thinking. Have I blown it?

Q.   Hey so i met this boy months ago in a bar, we started talking (as you do) he added me on facebbok and that. Anyway we started texting eachother for a while but then i kinda got bored, had a lot on so i kinda faded away from texting him. I bump...

A.   12 March 2009: Hes probably lookin for it sis. Pass it on to him and take it from there. Don't worry bout it too much, most guys here (myself included) Will tell you that we don't think none too hard. Good luck and give it your all.... (read in full...)

I Like this guy, alot. but I'm not sure if he likes me.

Q.   I Like this guy, alot. but im not sure if he likes me. we've been best mates for a long time and we do flirt a little bit. My best friend told me that she also likes him but i havnt told her how i feel. he told me he doesnt like her and recently...

A.   12 March 2009: Now might be your chance. Worst he can say is "No". Tell him how you feel. Even if he says no, if your straight with your buddy here, he'll at least be sensitive about how you feel, especially around girls. And if he says yes, your golden. Either ... (read in full...)

Can trust be prepared in a short time?

Q.   My fiance has lied to me before. The first time, I went away out of town on business and she secretly met up with her Ex after midnight near her house. I was texting her throughout that night and wondering why she didn't reply. So when I came back ...

A.   12 March 2009: Time makes all things possible. Im sure if you intend to marry this girl (Congratulations by the way) , you still have a great foundation of love and trust. Sounds like your both fairly honest and open, that should help you quite a bit in these next ... (read in full...)

Creative ideas for asking him out?

Q.   I need some creative date ideas for asking someone out, sounds easy right? One problem, he works 12 hours a day, 7 days a week. I mean yes I admire the dedication and all but it makes stealing a couple hours of his time a little more difficult. I ...

A.   12 March 2009: What sort of work does this bruddah do? Depending on what he does, maybe you could work the question to his profession. For example, if he's an accountant, tell him something like this- "Morning, Johnny, just opened up a new account I could use an ... (read in full...)

Really like my long distance fella, but falling for his closeted sister!

Q.   k so I am in the most incredible relationship with this guy and things are fabulous. We have a bit of distance between us so we see eachother whenever we can. All is great. He has a sister (17) (fyi I'm 19-20 and he is 21-22) n e ways, His sister is ...

A.   11 March 2009: Gotta tell you, give it up. Cheating is bad, with family is worse, especially a younger sister that probably isn't 100% comfortable with her sexuality. That messes things up in dimensions you never even thought of.... (read in full...)

He loves my best friend

Q.   I'm a 14 year old girl whos in love. at least, i think its love, ive never felt for anyone like i do for him, he doesnt just give me butterflies, he weakens my knees and melts me, he sends shivers up my spines and i actually care for him. enough to ...

A.   11 March 2009: Sis, this doesn't sound like a good start to (Or any stage of) a relationship. Tommy sounds a little unstable, and you really don't need wild drama like that at your age. The best thing you can do is get Tommy some real help. You clearly care for ... (read in full...)

I'm dating a girl but really confused about my sexuality

Q.   I was here last year, and now I'm back coz I really have this big problem. In my previous questions, I have confessed my identity question if i am a "gay" or merely bisexual. And i have made a big mistake in my life of engaging myself in a hete...

A.   11 March 2009: Lemmie say this bruddah, gay straight both or niether, NO RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT. No one automatically gets a happy ending. It might be rough going through this, but if she loves you and you love her, you always have someone to help you out. ... (read in full...)

Was she trying to irk me?

Q.   First off I wanna say Hi to everyone on the site. I am slackersace and new to dearcupid. I shall start my career of asking dumb questions now. So heres the thing. I finally worked up enough cahones to ask my favorite Latina sweetie out on a date...

A.   11 March 2009: Thanx for supporting this noob guys. I decided I owe Lyn a big hug when I see her in history for taking such good care of me as a friend. As for my ladyfriend, I talked to her round 7 my time and I have a date monday night with her (Don't know where ... (read in full...)

The good ones are taken. How do I find a girl?

Q.   im 14 and im looking for a girlfriend seems as everyone is taken ,how do i find a girl....

A.   11 March 2009: Sorry to double post, just wanted to add something. Just keep in mind that, as lame as it sounds, its best to be straight up with girls. Honesty is the only way your perfect lil lady will like you for who you are, quirks and all. Thers your "good ... (read in full...)

The good ones are taken. How do I find a girl?

Q.   im 14 and im looking for a girlfriend seems as everyone is taken ,how do i find a girl....

A.   11 March 2009: DUDE I totally know where you're coming from, especially at that age. Lemmie break it down. First thing's first, girls aren't a "good one" for you to find. I apologise in advance if I interpreted this wrong, but it sounds like your being a litt... (read in full...)

Men in comitted relationships hanging out with their best friends?

Q.   how often do men in long-term committed relationships with children hang out with their bestfriend? and for how long in a single time? should it only be them or should i be involved as well and how much? (we hav both cheated on each other and this ...

A.   11 March 2009: Little clarification please sis. We talkin guys night out here for the most part, or we talkin living large with a lady friend? You're probably fine if he's with his bros, but be catious around a woman, especially if you don't trust her. I'm sure ... (read in full...)

Could this mean that I am gay?

Q.   I have a question. I have had a past that is bugging the heck out of me. What should I do to like keep my mind off of things and just face the fact what i did was wrong? I am 17 soon and around the age 13-15 when i was in the middle of just getting ...

A.   11 March 2009: Doesn't SOUND like you really are, just a little wild. Just don't over think it. Pueberty makes you do things one minute you didn't like the idea of the next. Its probably just a one time thing. if not, well there you go. At least you found out with... (read in full...)

19 year old girlfriend and her frequent visits to Bars... :(

Q.   Ok, I am 18 years old. i have met a beautiful girl, who means everything to me. I love her personality, the way she smiles, and the way she laughes. everything about her is inviting. I met her 6 months ago. We werent offcially going out, but we w...

A.   11 March 2009: You can go to bars at 19 in Canada? The States are lame. I'm goin with cellia on this one, she sounds like she just feels like having you as a part of a collection. Forget her bruddah and hit a party yourself. ... (read in full...)

Is it okay to be friends with this married man?

Q.   This friendship is long distance, I met him in a duty mission ( GI) he did in my home town. He was stationed in Korea back then. We met two times only and it was for business. We are keeping in touch since then ( 2 years ago) non stop by email. T...

A.   11 March 2009: Your in the green. Can't have nothing against penpals, especially war buddies. Sounds like he loves his wife and kids and doesn't have an indecent thought in his head about you. Hes a good man and your a good friend for treating his marriage ... (read in full...)

Advice please: To shave or not to shave?

Q.   My fren recommended me to shave my vagina and if possible wax it so that sex feels better. Is it really true? Cuz' i feel too naked walking around like that....

A.   11 March 2009: If it helps any, a lot of us guys don't mind either way, so I'm sure your partner wouldn't mind. He might do a trim for himself every so often because he doesn't know if you want the extra there or not. As long as your comfortable eh sis?... (read in full...)

Do you think he likes me? I'm too shy

Q.   There is this guy who used to always come into my work when I would be working and he would come through my counter, so I would serve him. I quit that job, and moved to a different retail outlet to work. I never told him I was quitting. But hes now ...

A.   11 March 2009: That is pretty intresting, especially since i'd-a pegged the dude as a stalker. He might be a lil shy too actually so you might want to maybe try and meet him in the middle. Im betting you folks live in a small town, so its likely you see each othe... (read in full...)

It hurts to be with hurts to be without her!

Q.   hi im 15 and my girlfriend well ex now got into a fight about her and her ex (he moved away but is comin back next year) okay heres the story she always talks to him which yeah im fine with but she calls him when shes with me and they say sweet th...

A.   10 March 2009: Bruddah, that is rough stuff there. It's difficult for me to say this, but you might want to take a little time away from her. Clear your head, play some b-ball and videogames with the boys (Even if you guys suck, its a great distraction). Work on a ... (read in full...)

Alot of sexual tension but I'm not experienced

Q.   I need some advice regarding a fella I have liked for a while. We work together and we started to flirt about three years ago but we never really spoke until about two years ago, we arranged to go out once but he blew me out without an excus...

A.   10 March 2009: Yeah, im gonna go with the “hes a moron” theory too. I figure you should just be honest with him and let him know what your looking for in a relationship. If he bolts, forget him. If he'll wait, wait until your ready.... (read in full...)

The guy I like likes my best friend! What to do?

Q.   Heyy everyone, im going through a really hard time, as one of my best friends and i both like this one guy, and typically he likes her! i really like him but he doesnt like me and he likes her and she likes him! she keeps tellin me about all the ...

A.   10 March 2009: Personally I'd just beat her up. However you should probably do the smart thing and think for just a minute. You might want to talk to your friend and this little bruddah you like about it. Before you do, ask yourself WHAT is so great about him and ... (read in full...)

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