I found emails between my boyfriend and his ex
Q. Hi all. I have a question. I am not sure if it's something I should be worried about. My boyfriend moved to my area a month ago and we have been exclusively dating. We enjoy each other's company and get on well. When we have sex, he doesn't reall...
A. 25 March 2022: So he met you, started dating you then dumped her and just monkey-branched from her to you?
If so, I would not be surprised that he could go back to her if you don't turn out to be (in his eyes) "better" or "easier" to date.
NEVER date so... (read in full...)
I found emails between my boyfriend and his ex
Q. Hi all. I have a question. I am not sure if it's something I should be worried about. My boyfriend moved to my area a month ago and we have been exclusively dating. We enjoy each other's company and get on well. When we have sex, he doesn't reall...
A. 24 March 2022: Hi OP,
Thanks for the follow up.
""only thing keeping me sane right now." "
Sounds like a "woe is me" kind of thing to say, to garner sympathy. Why would he need sympathy from his ex, is the question.
Did he mention you at all? Mention a... (read in full...)
I found emails between my boyfriend and his ex
Q. Hi all. I have a question. I am not sure if it's something I should be worried about. My boyfriend moved to my area a month ago and we have been exclusively dating. We enjoy each other's company and get on well. When we have sex, he doesn't reall...
A. 23 March 2022: Some people are cordial with exes, or a single ex. Some cut all contact. It really varies.
I think unless he also stated to her that HE misses her and all that jazz that he is probably being polite. People can be dense when it comes to this.
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My friend hasn't spoken to us since we bought a bigger house
Q. Last year me and my husband (child free by choice ) sold our property for a bigger house. We wanted more space and we’re very lucky that our house sold quickly and we were able to find a house we liked. Our friends around the same ...
A. 23 March 2022: Let them stew a while.
The wife probably is dealing with pregnancy and post-baby hormones, which are just sucky for some people. And the Husband probably just following her lead.
I'd mail the gift for the baby (if possible) just with a card... (read in full...)
My fiancé wants to help others
Q. My fiance told me yesterday he wants to carry on the magic of Christmas year-round to deserving people. But here's the catch; we're not mega-rich. Not poor, but middle-class. He says apart from the presents (who doesn't like presents at Christm...
A. 22 March 2022: Why not find one of the MANY MANY charities that help people in need? Or charities like "make a wish foundation"?
I don't really see how anyone can build a profitable business giving stuff away.
And yeah, having a business that isn't profi... (read in full...)
Learning to communicate my boundaries
Q. Dear Agony aunts and uncles, Firstly thanks for all your hard work. I learn so much from all your responses and the time/energy you take to help people. Mine is a simple question, after years of therapy, I'm plenty aware of the benefits of boun...
A. 22 March 2022: I think it's GOOD that you have found your own boundaries if they work for you.
What I would suggest is to NOT waste time "explaining" YOUR boundaries to people you feel are not compatible with you and your way of life.
If someone is const... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my friend's older brother
Q. Hi so I have a best friend and I absolutely love her brother but he a. Has never acknowledged me once and b. Is like 4 years older c. He might by dating someone but I don’t know. What should I do should I try to get closer to him or should I just m...
A. 22 March 2022: My advice?
Stick to "just" having a crush on him. You are 16, he is 20. 4 years might not seem like a huge gap, but it IS at this age. Think about it, would you at 16, date a 12 year old? Because that is the same age gap.
Plus he is your frien... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend doesn't want anything serious
Q. Hi, aunts! So, my boyfriend of five years has been playing hot and cold with me for a while now. At first he was pretty interested but never showed any interest in getting married. He never talks unless I am the one calling or texting him and ...
A. 21 March 2022: I agree with YCNBS,
Your BF is using you. He doesn't care for you as deeply as you care for him. "He doesn't even care if I am with him or not." That is cruel, OP
I think you should wish him well and end it. Block him from all contact and move... (read in full...)
My mother is pushing religious education on my baby
Q. I’m a new mom, just had a baby three months ago. My parents are evangelical Christians, and I was raised in church (speaking in tongues at age 8, that was me)! But I grew up to be agnostic and I want to raise my daughter to be a critical thinker ...
A. 20 March 2022: For little kids, stories are just that, stories.
However, as the child's mother, YOU should be able to "veto" what YOU find appropriate reading material.
My advice?
Pick out a range of books YOU approve of and tell your mom that THESE are ... (read in full...)
Teenaged Son got his girlfriend pregnant and its amess
Q. My son is 17 and got his girlfriend, who's 16, pregnant. They'd been dating for 2 months, since restrictions on COVID were partially lifted in our state. Well, I say girlfriend, but my son's heartbroken after his girlfriend told him she ...
A. 20 March 2022: Well, the first bit of advice I'll give is that your son needs to ask for a paternity test and then NOT talk to the "ex" until there is a positive paternity result. Then he needs to get a lawyer and figure out how to get visitation, and sort child ... (read in full...)
Why is the instructor acting weird now?
Q. Hi, so I have a strange problem which is not exactly something to do with love... I've been going to this Zumba class for a few months now and the instructor is a nice young guy who everyone is crazy for. I have to admit, I even had a crush on him ...
A. 17 March 2022: That was a fast divorce OP!
Only last week you were married!
Yeah, I think you need to stop living in this "la-la fantasy land" of yours and grow up.
... (read in full...)
My friend always seems to land on her feet
Q. Okay so I expect there will be judgement my way on this but the subject I'm writing in about it really bothering me. I know a woman for over thirty years since we was seventeen years old, I guess in those years I would say a friend. I'm not ...
A. 17 March 2022: OP,
Jealousy and bitterness are an odd fish to live with.
You are comparing yourself to her. Yet, I think you have forgotten that LIFE isn't fair. And even good people can get shafted in life.
You might think (looking in on he life t... (read in full...)
My ex is sending me mixed messages
Q. I come out of 4 year relationship. It’s been a few months break in meeting although we spoken daily by phone. Recently she made contact, and we have been speaking about our issues after things have calmed down. However I feel she does not giv...
A. 17 March 2022: "I’m so confused and I’m ready to move on, but I want to give it everything I got before I accept it."
You two broke up for a reason (or reasons). ACCEPT that.
Usually, when a relationship has broken down and people (the former couple) try and ... (read in full...)
Is my straight friend flirting with me or is she just joking?
Q. Curious for some opinions here. I'm an out gay female. A new girl started working at my job recently. She's roughly my age and straight. Seemingly the boy-crazy type of straight. Never been with a woman before. Which is what is so confusing to me ...
A. 16 March 2022: Personally?
I think you need to shut this down ASAP.
She is a RECENT acquaintance and co-worker to boot, not some rando to flirt with.
Could she BE bi-sexual? sure.
Could she be playing mind games? sure.
Could she be one of tho... (read in full...)
Dating for six weeks, and now he thinks he was too eager
Q. I’ve been dating a guy for about 6 weeks. We’ve had some good dates and get on really well. On our last date he asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend and make it official. I said yes but I wasn’t 100% sure in my head. I stayed over at his home ...
A. 15 March 2022: I don't think you were too harsh either.
You asked a simple question.
You didn't ask him to propose, you asked him do you want to progress with me or toss in the towel.
The whole point of dating is to take the time to get to know one anoth... (read in full...)
He touches me, but does he like me?
Q. I have a best friend who is a guy. We were together for a long time since the time we met. Since sometime we were sitting together for classes and when he or i feel asleep we stroke each other with our hands. just rubbing the hands together was ...
A. 14 March 2022: He sounds like a total creep!
Feeling you up when you sleep? Ewwww
He isn't a friend, he is gross.
... (read in full...)
I am concerned about the big move to Chicago my husband wants to make
Q. Me and my husband are retired, my husband retired in January 2020, pre-COVID, and I retired in February 2020. I'm 61 and he's 63. We have twin daughters who are 34. We live in Texas, one of the big cities there. He was a businessman who ...
A. 14 March 2022: Well, as someone who lived in Louisiana for 10 years then moved to Michigan- It was definitely going from the frying pan to the freezer.
To be VERY honest here, I absolutely LOVE that MI has seasons, but... winter is 5-6 months long. Spring a... (read in full...)
How do I act in front of my crush?
Q. Okay so I have a crush on this boy. He is very extremely cute and I can't stop thinking about him!!! And it's like love at first sight!!! I think having a boyfriend or a relationship at age 10-11 is not the right age (it might be). But he has a ...
A. 14 March 2022: I too wonder about your age, OP
Your age group says 18-21 but you talk about 10-11 year olds so which age group are you and which age group is he?
While you sound more like a 10-11 year old, I will answer it to a 18-21 as your profile states. ... (read in full...)
Does anybody know where I am going wrong weight-wise?
Q. I am unsure why I am continuing to gain weight and hoping somebody can maybe tell me something obvious that I am missing. 3 years ago I lost 3 stone over the space of 12 months through calorie counting and the occasional exercise. I managed to key...
A. 12 March 2022: Stress could be a factor. And Covid has surely made most people feel more stressed out in the day to day.
Hormonal issues another. Thyroids are another. Seasonal weight gain is also common (winter).
I would go see your doctor, rule out the med... (read in full...)
Baby mom won’t leave him alone!
Q. His baby mom won’t leave him alone. His baby mother told him she will never allow him to happily be with someone else and has been tormenting us ever since. She’s in another country. What I’m upset is about the fact that I have given 200 p...
A. 11 March 2022: Yikes OP!
No one wants that kind of drama (except the drama llamas).
The thing is, HE is the father of her child so the child (and HER) will always be in his life.
YOU (and to a degree your BF) have NO control over the baby momma. Whatsoev... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to experiment with my friend
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together since we met in high school. It’s been 6 great years, but the value of our relationship I’d say is that we’re best friends. Our chemistry, our humour, our bond has never failed us. But sexually, we have ...
A. 10 March 2022: Is your posted age-range wrong? Because if you met in HS and it's been 6 years, you should be at the MOST in your mid-20's not mid 30's.
Adding a 3 person to your relationship will NOt fix your sex drive NOR your ability to stay hard.
Maybe g... (read in full...)
Saying "maybe" to boyfriend's proposal and breaking his heart
Q. My boyfriend Drew proposed marriage on a romantic camping trip about 2 months ago. I panicked and said I would have to “think about it.” He was gracious and said he would keep the ring in his pocket until I was ready to decide and said he ...
A. 10 March 2022: I think you need to give Drew a timeline for how long you are going to think about this. Tell him that you LOVE him but that marriage is not JUST about you and him, but also your kids. YOU (and HE ) needs to feel 100% sure it will work out. So maybe ... (read in full...)
Should I be suspicious of his reason for standing me up?
Q. Should I be suspicious? I had a date set for Friday. Then I never hear from him until Sunday night. He claims his coworker has a stroke and was busy with that. I said sorry to hear it but declined to reschedule. Now I’m the bad guy. I don’t see how ...
A. 10 March 2022: Just block him. Easy enough.
I think shooting you a short text letting you know that he has to cancel or reschedule BEFORE the date is to be expected.
Even if the scenario he told you (coworker having a stroke) He would not be in the exam room... (read in full...)
Will he still like me?
Q. hi! i have had a crush on this guy for a while. he likes me too and he told me a couple weeks ago. my parents made me cut off contact with him because he has different views then them. i am an older teen, so personally i think that i should be able ...
A. 9 March 2022: Maybe, maybe not.
And maybe you won't be interested in him by then. There is no way of knowing this.
If you think the best thing you can do is respect your parents and keep a distance, then do so. I presume your parents are looking out for ... (read in full...)
It's been so many years and this guy still continues to pursue me.
Q. I met this guy in 2014 at an academic international conference. We were both representing our country in our respective disciplines. I was in a deadbeat relationship at that time and this guy was married. We hit it off really well and at time at ...
A. 9 March 2022: " Do you think I should meet him if he ever comes back?"
No.
As simple as that. You know the guy is hoping you reciprocate his fantasy. Because that is ALL this is for him.
I think what you SHOULD do is tell him that you are going to cu... (read in full...)
My exhad sex with a much older guy shortly after breakup. Did she move on too
Q. I’m so confused. Thank you for listening. I will forever be in your debt for those that take the time to swift through the emotions Yeah I broke up with my gf after 9 years, I moved out prior to lockdown due to mental health reasons (I had an...
A. 8 March 2022: Unfortunately, OP
Taking a "break" in a relationship usually means that the relationship isn't strong enough to handle what comes your way.
You wrote:" Death of my parents really affected me. I had to move in with my younger sister for a bit... (read in full...)
I think of my affair partner every day even though affair is long over
Q. I had an affair that I ended nearly three years ago. I don’t need to be lectured on my poor choices - nor do I justify them, but there are many layers to the complete story. On a positive note, my husband and I have made tremendous progress in our ...
A. 8 March 2022: Didn't you ask this last week?
Did you read those answers at all?
... (read in full...)
My teacher kiss me
Q. Hi, i am 15 and i was kissed by my teacher. He wrote a poem to me which i got confused about as a cooperation to write poem but it was a love letter. I don't know his age but he is the range of late 20's to early 30's he is a flirt he hugs some ...
A. 8 March 2022: Tell your mom ASAP.
This guy needs to be fired. He is a predator. Grooming little girls and forcing himself on them. Next time it might not be a kiss he tries.
This is NOT OK and NOT your fault. He is a total creep.
Tell your mom, tell t... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend left me a year ago and came back, saying he'd never leave me again. And he just left me again!!!! I am devastated!!!
Q. My boyfriend left me and went down to the US to see his mother alone. We had planned to go together in two weeks but he went ahead and left without even telling me. We were having issues and were on the phone the day before and the next morning when ...
A. 8 March 2022: That is horrible OP! I'm sorry.
Here are my thoughts. He did this ONCE already, so you KNEW it was a possibility that he could do this to you again, and you took that risk. He did it again.
That doesn't mean it didn't hurt you again. But you K... (read in full...)
He said he liked my friend. Does he like me?
Q. hi! i'm a bit confused because my friend told me that he likes my best friend. i promised him that i wouldn't tell her because he knows she already has a boyfriend. recently though, he has been talking to me more then her and he's starting to act l...
A. 7 March 2022: If I were you I'd keep this VERY platonic with him. You already know he had/has a crush on your friend. So for him to switch to you seems a little like you are his "second option" since he can't get with your friend.
NO ONE wants to be the seco... (read in full...)
She stares. Does she like me?
Q. There's this really pretty girl who goes to the same Gym as me and I'm sure she keeps giving me the eye. We've never spoken but I've noticed when I've been working out and she's in the vicinity she'll stare at me before turning away every time when ...
A. 7 March 2022: I agree, there is no way of knowing if she likes you, as she doesn't know you from Adam.
It could be that you look familiar? Or she think you are cute?
But, what you DO know... She likes to look at you.
Next time, just smile or say hi.
... (read in full...)
Situations and boundaries
Q. What are peoples opinions on situationships and boundaries within them? I've been seeing a guy for 4 months. I'm 33 and he's 39. We spend every other day together. We cook together, go on long walks together, we are sexually intimate, we cud...
A. 7 March 2022: " I've cancelled him off the holiday and I'm going to Lisbon solo."
Good for you.
I think it's best to have a talk about "what are we?" like you did. But I also think you should have walked away the moment he called you a "good friend". You... (read in full...)
Foster Parents Nice But Awkward
Q. Hello smart people. I need to have some advice. I understand not to use real names so I will use fake names that are close or maybe real but you don't know. LOL Me = Miguel. Foster Dad = Shawn. Foster Mom = Sarah. Foster Brother = Patrick. I have ...
A. 7 March 2022: Awww Miguel!
First off, I'm SO happy you got a family who REALLY wants to have you be part of their family. That is what fostering should be about!
Yes, it's a bit cringy with the "sombrero and Taco Tuesdays" to "honor" your cultural heritag... (read in full...)
I got drunk and accused my friends of things they say did not happen
Q. So I have a friend, let's call her D. She's somewhat of a new friend, and we actually stopped talking for a couple of months because I lent her money and asked for it back the day she said she'd pay me and she told me to go to hell. Last week, she...
A. 7 March 2022: If you were black-out drunk, you probably don't remember it all. Which is probably correct.
But it also seems a little skeevy for your BF to be handsy with a friend of yours on the dance floor.
This friend could be gaslighting the fire out of ... (read in full...)
My mother embarrasses me in public about my speech impediment
Q. I was born with a severe speech impediment. Not a big deal since 90% of people can understand me with little issue. The issue is once a week, my parents, siblings, nieces, nephew and I would go have a family dinner once a week. My mom instantly...
A. 7 March 2022: I don't blame you for saying enough is enough. Good for you.
Personally, I don't think you overreacted. She has been told REPEATEDLY that you do NOT need her to order for you. It doesn't matter if this is out of "habit" or that she doesn't ... (read in full...)
Is it worth being alone for decades?
Q. Hi everyone To keep a long story short, I’ve fallen for a man who’s wonderful and makes me happy. He is 20 years older than me. I am not worried about the happiness factor DURING the relationship, I’m more concerned about him dying 20 yea...
A. 7 March 2022: OP,
There are no guarantees in life. Only 2 things are certain, you are born and you will die. That is it.
If you work well together and are happy together, that is a GOOD thing! It might not LAST 20+ years due to LIFE or death but why not enjo... (read in full...)
Wife had a secret hysterectomy
Q. Wife and I have been married for years. For years we (or I) tried to impregnate my wife. After many Dr. Visits to see if it was me, wife claimed it was her. We went on with life. Few months ago I was going through papers I found on a closet. ...
A. 4 March 2022: Yeah, I think it's a troll post too.
It used to be near impossible to get a hysterectomy when you didn't have kids already. Plus the recovery is easily 2 months. I know, because I had one 4 years ago for medical reasons.
Then there are the sc... (read in full...)
Do you think I was unfair?
Q. I recently had a break down in a relationship and am struggling with feelings of guilt and regret, I am 64 and my "boy"friend was same age. He was in rented lovely cottage in great location but very expensive, he had lost his property previous...
A. 4 March 2022: Wow, OP
You dodged a missile there!
Did he actually write you a long report of all YOUR faults? That is hilarious.
Good for you to stand firm.
I can see why you were unsure if ending it was wrong if it seemed good for two years. If lo... (read in full...)
Is it worth being alone for decades?
Q. Hi everyone To keep a long story short, I’ve fallen for a man who’s wonderful and makes me happy. He is 20 years older than me. I am not worried about the happiness factor DURING the relationship, I’m more concerned about him dying 20 yea...
A. 3 March 2022: He might go before you. You might find someone else afterward.
Who knows? But why not live in there "here and now" and not worry about that right now?
Because you CAN NOT change the past and you can not control what may happen or when it may h... (read in full...)
Do you think I was unfair?
Q. I recently had a break down in a relationship and am struggling with feelings of guilt and regret, I am 64 and my "boy"friend was same age. He was in rented lovely cottage in great location but very expensive, he had lost his property previous...
A. 3 March 2022: I'm with Ciar, 100%!
Yes, you aBSOLUTELY did the right thing! You OWN your house and HE wanted you to sell it and then get into NEW debt in a bigger house with him?
He isn't your husband and you could end up homeless and with debt for a house... (read in full...)
Should I worry about my 70 year old mother?
Q. I’m starting to worry about my 70-year-old mom. Last April, my husband and I took our first shot of the Covid vaccine, then drove to see our families for Easter. I remember telling my parents I’d just received my first shot. They had just had the...
A. 3 March 2022: I think a LOT of people stress over Covid. Especially the elderly.
My dad and I have had the same conversation for a year at least. About Covid. He is in the high-risk group, so obviously concerned.
Does it mean she has dementia? Well, ... (read in full...)
My exhad sex with a much older guy shortly after breakup. Did she move on too
Q. I’m so confused. Thank you for listening. I will forever be in your debt for those that take the time to swift through the emotions Yeah I broke up with my gf after 9 years, I moved out prior to lockdown due to mental health reasons (I had an...
A. 3 March 2022: First off,
I'm sorry you are hurting.
BUT. You need to stop. And you need to stop talking to your ex, AND whomever she is involved with. IT is NONE of your business anymore. NONE.
You had your chance. In 9 years you NEVER proposed?
Do I ... (read in full...)
I found a dildo in the closet. I know wife has used it
Q. Been married for 35 years. My wife is still very hot. She mentioned to me that she and a friend went to a sex toy store and they laughed a lot. She did not say she bought anything. I did not ask. In the past 10 years sex was really for me. Usually 4 ...
A. 3 March 2022: OK, and?
Does she need your permission to own a sex-toy?
Does she need you to approve of her sex-toys?
She said she didn't buy anything, which might be true. Her friend might have bought it for your wife as a gag-gift.
You two are... (read in full...)
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