We broke up still have feelings for each other but now she wont meet?
Q. I broke up with my gf after 7 years. We took a break and now she has confessed she still has feelings for me. I admitted the same and she said she wants to speak about us possibly getting back together. I said we need a catch up. However she has ...
A. 30 May 2022: Ah OP,
She just wanted to know that you still wanted her.
I am also curious as to why you broke up. Usually, people break up for a reason, a GOOD reason. That reason is still valid now.
Maybe she hasn't found a "replacement" as fast as... (read in full...)
How on earth could I not be aware of this cheating
Q. hello there. I'm a mom to 5-year-old twins. I went away for a week for the first time since the pandemic on business; got a new job in the IRS, a career change for sure, but I'm qualified for that sort of thing. However, I came back and found...
A. 29 May 2022: Your kids are 5 years old, they can't DECIDE where they want to live. Call a lawyer and go get your kids.
Your husband can't just take them and move in with someone else. That is ridiculous.
"Apparently the neighbor told me our daughters wanted... (read in full...)
Older boyfriend seems insecure because I am younger. Is he sabotaging our relationship?
Q. I have a problem. My partner is 15 years older than I am. I am not boasting but I am a very attractive, vivacious and in shape woman. I have had some issues with anxiety in the past but now with the proper medications and therapy, I have come a ...
A. 29 May 2022: You know how much work it took for you to "change" yourself, to find a happier and healthier you. And that is great! Many people can't or give up because it's hard work.
This is WHO he is. He isn't going to change. And he doesn't LIKE change e... (read in full...)
Is this something that he is going to regret when he gets older or is it okay for him to skip his prom like this?
Q. Four years ago, my oldest son and his friends went to his prom and they had a great time. My youngest son's prom is next week and he is refusing to go. Instead, him and his friends are skipping prom together and are going bowling (about 1...
A. 28 May 2022: Yes, it's OK.
I will wager they will have a MUCH better time than the rest of the kids that went to the Prom.
My oldest skipped Porm, she doesn't care. My middle went to prom and had fun but more fun at the impromptu after-party some... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a man
Q. WHEN I tell my girlfriend I don’t love her, she says I just don’t try hard enough. The truth is I have fallen for another guy. I am 34 and live with my girlfriend, who is 31. We have a son and a daughter. We share a home but don’t have a sex...
A. 27 May 2022: Is she your wife or GF?
I think you need to pay more attention when you do these creative writing tasks....
"I am 34 and live with my girlfriend, who is 31."
"My wife hasn't really been interested in sex. "
... (read in full...)
I need to talk to husband about a possible affair hes having
Q. Hello. I am a woman who's been married for 22 years to my husband. We have a grown-up daughter, who moved to Ohio with her boyfriend. She currently works in construction, earns a good living. It's my husband who's the big issue here. For...
A. 27 May 2022: Put a voice-activated recorder in his car. See what turns up.
I would not confront him until you have something more solid, if at all.
I would gather information, call a lawyer and learn what your options are.
I don't think anyone expec... (read in full...)
Disappointed in friends behavior
Q. This is my fault to a certain level but I feel disappointed in my friend and her boyfriend. A friend of mine (let’s call her Kate) last month did me a big favor (not financial). In order to thank her I told her I’d take out to dinner and ...
A. 27 May 2022: Thank goodness for your BF having manners and knows how to act!
your friend is an idiot and her Bf is gross.
While it MIGHT have been a good idea to have let her know (when she invited her BF to join) that he was welcome but you wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
I seen my ex's new partner cheating. Do I tell her?
Q. So I've never done anything like this before. I find myself in an unbelievable situation, and I'm really looking for an unbiased point of view from people who don't know me. So, basically I was with my ex partner for as long as I can remember. I ...
A. 26 May 2022: If you have proof (such as a picture) I would just make an anonymous email and mail it to her.
If you don't have concrete proof, I would do nothing. Because it's just your word. She might think you are lying (if she is in denial), she will thi... (read in full...)
Am I making too much of this
Q. Hi. Just seeking thoughts as to whether Im overreacting to my current working situation. A week into my new job I have just found out that my boss,35,33 at the time, was charged and went to court because he was caught hiding in the cubicle of the ...
A. 26 May 2022: Yeah, I get you. That is some grade A creepy shit to do! And he was 33 - so a WHOLE grown-ass man at the time, one who KNEW better but didn't ACT better.
I would feel uncomfortable using the restroom at work. Not because I think he might peep but... (read in full...)
Is 10 years too big of an age gap?
Q. Is ten years a big age gap in a relationship. I am 34 and my bf is 24. Sometimes he worries what we'll look like together in the future. As it stands I don't look my age but I am extremely aware of my actual age. We get asked for id all the time and ...
A. 26 May 2022: While I'm personally not a big fan of age gaps (more than 5-6 years), I don't think it matters too much once the YOUNGEST has reached 25-27. Let me explain why. Most people have formed their personality, set some goals, begun a career, and are aware ... (read in full...)
How to set boundaries with my mom
Q. I have been having a hard time with my mom over the last 7 years, basically ever since politics became particularly divisive. Over time, I have wanted to engage less and less around politics with her because I find it hard to know what she really ...
A. 25 May 2022: Have a chat with her.
Tell her that you can respect the difference in opinion politically but it is not how you want to spend the holiday as you know it will end with a fight and you DO NOT want to fight on your holiday, so you hope SHE can resp... (read in full...)
I don't want to be an old dad
Q. MY wife is 33 and desperate for a baby but I’m 52 and don’t want to be an old dad. Is there any way around this? We’ve been married for three years and while she’s at a great age to have a baby, I’d be better as a grandad than a dad. When we ...
A. 24 May 2022: I think you need to sit down and talk.
Having kids versus NOT having kids is a dealbreaker for most people.
If you DO NOT want kids, SHE is not the right partner for you.
She went INTO the marriage KNOWING you didn't want kids. But sh... (read in full...)
How do I get the love of my life back?
Q. We met one summer in his town and instantly fell in love.... we had a really passionate relationship, he was an amazing provider and lover and everything I could ever dream of. He asked me to move to his town and I did so for him, leaving my job ...
A. 24 May 2022: What do you do?
YOU unfollow and block him, you LEAVE him alone. From your post, it seems like the two of you are toxic together. You two had a summer fling that turned just sour, yet you both dragged it out and dragged it on and on and on.
Y... (read in full...)
Fell in love with a F boy now I want to move on but don't know how?
Q. Hello guys! I feel so guilty and stuck in something so messed up I had to talk to somebody but I didn’t know how to so I came here. I fell in love with a f boy so hard I don’t know what to do. We were in the same school but I had to move but now ...
A. 22 May 2022: Agree with FA.
It's a crush, it will end. ... (read in full...)
I am hot tempered and sarcastic. Normal?
Q. I have noticed a thing about me and my family we are hot tempered and easily angry/sarcastic and i am too. i always have mood swings from dull to angry to happy and to sometimes sad. i don't know if it is normal because i feel normal and i wou...
A. 22 May 2022: Sounds like you need to learn a little self-control.
You ask if it is normal, yeah it kind of is. You are getting a surge of hormones that you are unfamiliar with and can't yet control so well.
So practice some self-control and self "modifi... (read in full...)
My husband wants to recreate our first date
Q. Hello. Don't know how to explain this one. Been with my American husband since 1998, we met at a burger bar near me. I'm Canadian, he's American, he was here in 1998 for work, had been in Canada for 2 years at the time. He's a US cit...
A. 22 May 2022: I'd keep that outfit for LATER (as in after the date at the hotel) but tell him you'd pick your own outfit.
If you don't want to run around on a supposedly romantic date feeling out of place and uncomfortable, then pick a cute dress instead.... (read in full...)
I sent an email to boyfriend that he was not supposed to see
Q. Please help! I'm 33F and my bf is 27 and in the navy. He's been deployed since Feb, and it's been super hard. After managing to keep it together for the most part, I lost it last week. All my suspicion and worry compounded and I sent him an emai...
A. 22 May 2022: I have to agree, who sends themselves email like that?
I get a journal but email?
Come on.
You might have WANTED him to hear how you feel but you didn't want the possible negative outcome if he didn't like it.
However, OP - the shit ... (read in full...)
Falling for my mothers boyfriend- but I knew him first!
Q. Advice desperately needed please!! I used to work with a lovely guy for several years we always got on well, we had some chemistry (nothing sexual just banter) he was seeing someone, I was single and I had a huge crush on him and my colleagu...
A. 21 May 2022: That sounds painful, OP
I'm glad you realize that YOU missed "that boat" a long time ago. He is with your mom. That is who he chose to date.
I would avoid spending time with the two of them as much as possible, at least until this "crush" die... (read in full...)
Best friend distancing herself from me for no apparent reason?
Q. I've been best friends with this girl for 5-6 years. We've been extremely close like sisters up until recently. Just the last two years, she started making these shady comments occasionally which she never used to do (comments about my body and ...
A. 21 May 2022: She is dropping your friendship (for whatever reason) but instead of telling you, she is hoping you will catch the hint. So far you haven't.
Honestly? If she was a good friend and had to cancel coming to visit, she would have rescheduled another ... (read in full...)
Friend keeps going after the same men as me constantly!
Q. I have this "friend" and we have been quite close for 2 years now. It seems as though every time I start dating someone, or if I fancy a man, my friend has to either try to sabotage it by telling him bad things about me, or will try to seduce hi...
A. 21 May 2022: Well, It is ALSO the guy's fault if he engages with her in kind, as in if she sends "pictures" and he praises said pictures or send her some back. She can't MAKE them give her a response, that is the GUY's choice to do or not do.
But someone ... (read in full...)
Am I forcing a relationship?
Q. Everytime when i touch my boyfriend he will always take my hand off him and push me away. When we sleep he does not even hug me . When he talks, he always yells at me. He doesnt come to see me, if i go to see him, he will always be on his phone o...
A. 21 May 2022: I agree, you do not have a relationship at all.
He treats you like a dog, stop talking to him, stop sleeping with him, stop visiting him, block him and move on. Don't date someone who doesn't treat you well.
He sounds like scum.... (read in full...)
Just random questions about masturbation things for me
Q. This is embarrassing thing to talk about but it is all anonymus so I guess that makes it ok. I am sorry if I say anything not okay but seems like people talk a lot on this site about a lot of things and it is very open and they talk about very ...
A. 20 May 2022: I will preface this answer with this. A YOUNG teen should really ask too many strangers on the Interweb for advice on sexual matters. Because there are plenty of people that are JUST not safe. And I think you need to remember that. I would suggest ... (read in full...)
My fiance has been leading a double life. He is gay and has a boyfriend
Q. Hi there. Wall of text, but I'll keep it to the relevant points. I've been with my fiance since 2014, but only engaged since 2018. COVID delayed our wedding and we've not had it yet. I met my fiance at a party in early 2014, he told me he was...
A. 20 May 2022: Ah, our fantasy writer is back...... (read in full...)
Why would my boss do this?
Q. Hello there. I am an Indian who is on a Green Card in the U.S., been here since mid-2013. Not yet a citizen though. I have a husband and a 6-year-old daughter. My daughter was born here, but me and my husband weren't, we're still Indian citi...
A. 20 May 2022: You don't want to both work and rent from the same person, that seems out of line to me. If you lose your job, you would lose your home too.
I would tell him that you value to offer but that you already have a place to live that work for your fam... (read in full...)
My daughter is being bullied. How can I help her?
Q. My daughter is 16 and in high school; he's told me how he's been unhappy the past few weeks. She said she was unhappy because a girl in the year below told her: "You will get me that $750 drum I saw on eBay, you can afford it, you're the rich ...
A. 20 May 2022: If the girl (bully) was dumb enough to send the message demanding money "even sent messages via school email" then take it to the principal, and if there is no action taken, you take it to the police.... (read in full...)
Husband has invited friend to stay with us and I am uncomfortable with it
Q. I need advice on how to approche this situation. May husband has almost no friends. He moved a lot when he was a kid and it was difficult for him to make any connections. His also a bit socially anxious the way sole men can be. His ego gets bru...
A. 19 May 2022: He is coming to stay for YOUR anniversary? WTF!? Why?
Sorry, that sounds harsh. Taking a deep breath here lol.
Ok, here is what I would do.
I would sit your husband down and tell him this. IF Mike comes for a week, YOU will be staying else... (read in full...)
Is she just not interested now?
Q. So I have recently started seeing a girl at my work placement. I've known her for less than a year, and we started seeing each other about 6 weeks ago. She is great, and I really like her. We have quite a bit in common, and we seem to get on really ...
A. 19 May 2022: Back off completely.
If you see her at work give her a nod or a hello and go about your business.
She isn't interested.
If she was she would keep the conversations going after work and wanting to see you and speak to you. Seems like she i... (read in full...)
Awkward encounter with friend’s boyfriend- do I tell her?
Q. I need to know whether to tell my friend about the encounter I had with her boyfriend…. My friend has been going out with this guy for 4 years. I’m not too keen on him, there’s something about him that’s doesn’t sit right with me - but I never me...
A. 19 May 2022: Wait until you get the other 10 Pounds, then tell her or you will NEVER see that money.
Wanna BET that the 10 Pound he gave you, HE got from her? So she is essentially BUYING her own birthday present.
What a loser BF!!
And once you get that... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting to what a friend said?
Q. Im sure I'll regret writing in here, seen as, in my current emotionally charged state, people have the ability to cut me to pieces with a few words.. But here goes... We are nearing winter here and I plan to put my elderly dog to sleep before t...
A. 16 May 2022: I think you need to do what feels right for you, but don't let the weather determine the timing. You can't PLAN around the weather.
She won't care if the weather isn't nice. She won't care about her burial. She will care that YOU are there an... (read in full...)
The neighbors can hear my boyfriend and I have sex and complain about it! What can we do?
Q. So this might sound like a funny question but when my boyfriend and I have sex the neighbors always hear us! We live in a building with very THIN walls! I find I (we) cannot seem to get all the enjoyment I (we) want from sex because I (we) are ...
A. 16 May 2022: Just tone it down.
You can definitely still enjoy yourself without having to be loud. Being loud doesn't equate to being passionate.
Just try it. Do a "test-run" where you go at but with the "volume down".
Also, Is there another room that ... (read in full...)
Does it ever get better?
Q. Hi everyone... So I posted on DC some time back... This was my original post: __________________ Hi there.... so i've been married for over 7 years and I must say I love my husband very much. We've had our ups and downs but we've got ...
A. 16 May 2022: OP, I know it sucks but you can't MAKE someone love you, you can't MAKE someone want to BE with you. And your husband? Doesn't want to be with you. I don't think he has wanted to, for a long time. He just didn't do anything about it, he rather make ... (read in full...)
Not sure what happened
Q. I’ve been in a relationship for the past 3 month. I met him through work. We spent two days together and when we returned from work, he was constantly messaging and wanting to meet up. I was a bit dubious at first, thinking it was just a work thing. ...
A. 16 May 2022: I think your best bet is to end this.
He sounds insecure and a bit controlling. Why would you need to tell him who you are with, where you are at and when you will be home? You are a GROWN woman. You should be able to go out with friends for a dr... (read in full...)
Upstairs neighbor is creeping me out. Do you think I should be concerned?
Q. There is this guy who lives in my building. He has knocked on my door several times with different excuses. Every time I see him in the lobby or at the mailbox, he always initiates conversations. I will be polite and say hi and engage in a little ...
A. 16 May 2022: "maybe I am being ultra sensitive but isn't it strange for him to ask to come in?"
Yeah, that is weird.
"There was no way I was going to allow him inside my apartment."
GOOD. Don't. EVER. Do. THAT.
My advice STOP talking to him. If y... (read in full...)
How long should we wait?
Q. Hi, got a conundrum. My BD and I have been separated since before our kids were born. 4 years later we are chill coparents, our families are still close. A friend of his has caught my eye. I didn't see him often but he just had such a kind and loyal ...
A. 15 May 2022: That is really up to you.
Since he is a friend of your ex, I would probably give a good 3-6 months. Yes, that seems long but getting to know someone takes time, and figuring out if this is a person that is a potential long-term partner takes ti... (read in full...)
Friend keeps going after the same men as me constantly!
Q. I have this "friend" and we have been quite close for 2 years now. It seems as though every time I start dating someone, or if I fancy a man, my friend has to either try to sabotage it by telling him bad things about me, or will try to seduce hi...
A. 14 May 2022: You call that a friend?!!
"I don't understand why she has to sabotage me when I have a decent man in my life."
OP, she isn't your friend. Pretending to be supportive is not what a friend does. Nor do a friend go after men you are getting to k... (read in full...)
I'm I in a narcissistic relationship
Q. I'm I in a narcissistic relationship? Sorry this is long. I have been in a relationship for 3 years, my partner is 20 years older than me but with that I thought at the start wee had lots in common, wee do other factors are becoming exhausting....
A. 13 May 2022: We can't diagnose him, OP
We can only speculate.
You write "My partner has been physical and verbal with me when drinking. "
That should be a dealbreaker OP. TOTAL dealbreaker. Someone who will be physical and verbal with you (while d... (read in full...)
Watching my boyfriend spiral out of control
Q. I am a 34 year old and my bf is 24.i love him dearly we live together and have a lot of hobbies and interests in common as well as values. When we met he was working but left the job soon after as it wasn't what he wanted. He can spiral into ...
A. 13 May 2022: I think you both need to deal with whatever mental health issues you think you have - neither of you can really self-diagnose here (and we on DC can't either).
I think YOU both should seek help here and WORK on the issues you both feel are hold... (read in full...)
Have been offered sex but feel guilty about the circumstances.
Q. An older girl I am very attracted to has told me she is going to have sex with me and end my virginity for me but I am feeling weird because she is not doing it because she likes me that way but as a reward for a good deed. I want to have sex with ...
A. 13 May 2022: If you feel guilty about accepting, then don't accept.
She doesn't OWE you sex, and you don't OWE her sex either.
I'd suggest you TAKE the time to get to know the girl you hope to ONE DAY, have your first experience with.
Sex isn't like ... (read in full...)
My dad doesn't seem proud of me
Q. My question is about my relationship with my dad. I love him and I know he loves me deep down, but it kills me how he just sucks at communicating. I try very hard to make my parents happy. My mom lets me know how much she appreciates me a...
A. 13 May 2022: Your dad SHOWS you that he is proud, he just doesn't SAY it.
Does that make sense?
Yes, it would be nice if he would open his mouth and tell you, but I don't think that is in his nature or his personality. And I think some of it is "societal ... (read in full...)
Why do gay dudes fake out straight guys online?
Q. I am consistently getting faked out online by gay guys posing as females with female pics and profiles. I would guess more than 70 percent of the people who private message me are men posing as women to flirt with me. I am a straight guy and this ...
A. 12 May 2022: Well, consider ALL the lesbian women out there getting hounded by men thinking that one try with a penis will make the woman straight... I read an article about one of the hook-up apps that was made for and meant for gay men and women - however, the ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to read my friend and its confusing me
Q. I am a gay female who is completely confused about what's going on with a straight female friend. We met a few months ago and she immediately took to me. Asked for my number and we texted and talked a lot. She initiated the flirting and it ...
A. 12 May 2022: Why were you pursuing a straight woman in the first place?
It makes no sense!
You would like her to be a romantic option for you but IF SHE is straight you are NOT. You might be a way to test out curiosity or fantasy, nothing more.
She fe... (read in full...)
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