Should I cut ties completely
Q. Not sure what I should do here. The quick synopsis is I met a girl where I worked years ago, maybe 5 or 6 years ago, I asked her out and we hung out a bunch. I asked her out and she said she wasn’t really ready and wanted to be friends. ( I’m used ...
A. 23 September 2022: While I get that it's LOVELY to have people to "get dating tips from" in "real time", YOU are an adult, in your 30's, you got to TRY and figure this out yourself. Because the END result is something YOU have to handle, the relationship or rejection ... (read in full...)
Why texting every once in awhile
Q. My ex-fwb got distant after I confessed that I had strong feelings for him. He said he didn’t and does not want anything serious. I said that’s fine. I accepted it and didn’t push him to start anything with me. I started moving on with my life and ...
A. 23 September 2022: Honey, you are in your 30's, not a teenager.
Block his number. You don't need to pretend to be friends or even be friendly with him.
You had a casual relationship involving sex, he is texting on occasion to keep you sweet JUST in case he isn't... (read in full...)
Should I continue this FWB?
Q. I dated this guy for a couple months 5 years ago...I really liked him but he had alot of stuff going on at home so he broke it off, about a year ago we matched again on this dating site and we have been seeing eachother ever since. He recently told ...
A. 20 September 2022: Personally, I think FWB is the dumbest concept EVER for an adult. If someone is a friend and then you add sex to the mix, that friendship is done for. Most people can not go back to "just" being friends.
1. Someone WILL catch feelings.
2. So... (read in full...)
The sex used to be incredible but now I have lost interest. Can I ever get it back?
Q. I had an affair with a married man. He left his wife and now we are married. We have been married for 2 years. The problem is that I feel I need to keep being a mistress to this man. It feels like if I get too real or drop the ball sexually, h...
A. 20 September 2022: "Can I ever get it back?"
You never really had it in the first place.
THAT is reality. You were PRETENDING, PERFORMING, and AUDITIONING for his undivided attention and now that you got it, you think you can bait and switch and just be a "regul... (read in full...)
Do I just let him go?
Q. Hi everyone, The reason I am asking this question here is because I honestly don't have anyone to talk to and I'm very upset and don't know what exactly I should do next. Please don't be harsh, I would really appreciate some kind advice. I have p...
A. 20 September 2022: Sorry, OP
This is what I can glean from your post. It is ONLY me guessing, OK?
The guy took advantage of you when you were in danger and need a safe place to be. He didn't care that you were in a vulnerable place, he cared about getting hi... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend buy sexy clothes
Q. Im dating my ex who I broke up from for one year break. Things are going great. One concern is that she has ordered sexy clothes, with mask, gloves. As if it’s a fancy dress full costume for party. I only know this because I got a notification from ...
A. 19 September 2022: See, easy peasy.
Communication really is KEY in a healthy relationship.
Good luck... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cant stay hard
Q. Hi, new here so thanks in advance. Been with BF 15mths and he reckons to love me.kind , generous but proper sex does not happen and why am I asking cos really I'm sure the problem is Stella Artois!! However he hardly snogs me now and and I rarely ...
A. 19 September 2022: I doubt you are "so hideous" - I doubt it's even about YOU.
He doesn't want to go see a doctor, many men don't when it comes to ED. Quite often it is a medical reason, sometimes even one that can be helped.
And yeah, if he drinks a lot of ... (read in full...)
Friends never reach out
Q. This is probably a dumb question, but we have some friends whom we've know for about 10 years. The thing is, they never reach out to us. We are the ones who always initiate. When we do go out to dinner or something they say "oooh, so great to see ...
A. 19 September 2022: Some people are just like that. If you have known them for 10 years and they never reach out it might have become a "habit" that YOU always initiate.
Maybe next time you go out you can mention that NEXT time they should pick a time, day, and plac... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my wife's increasing quirks?
Q. I am a 49 year old man who has been with my wife for 30 years, married for 21. She is a couple of years older than I am. My problem is that over the years she has developed an ever increasing set of quirks. I might even call some of her behaviors ...
A. 19 September 2022: As someone who has OCD, this doesn't sound like OCD. It sounds like someone who is worried about the future. It makes me think more of Mild Alzheimer's Disease. But of course, I'm not diagnosing her here. The whole buying stuff and then having to ... (read in full...)
My partner is going to join his ex on holiday
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 16 September 2022: This is the 4th post you have made about this, so I will presume you don't even bother reading the advise you have already been given.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why did my girlfriend buy sexy clothes
Q. Im dating my ex who I broke up from for one year break. Things are going great. One concern is that she has ordered sexy clothes, with mask, gloves. As if it’s a fancy dress full costume for party. I only know this because I got a notification from ...
A. 16 September 2022: Ask her?
Would that not make the most sense?
You say things are going great but you can't even ASK her about something that may be totally innocent.
Is there an upcoming Halloween party in the works? Or dress up party? ... (read in full...)
Should I stick it out or just quit?
Q. So, I started this job at the start of Summer. I left my other job of a few years because this one paid a significant amount more than the previous one. The owners live in other states. However they got into this business three years ago. The ...
A. 13 September 2022: Personally? Find a new job first, THEN quit. I would HATE using savings if it's not a desperate need. A hard-working person such as yourself will probably have an "easier time" finding a new job or even contact your old company and see if they have ... (read in full...)
How do I make carpooling less awkward?
Q. I’m looking for some advice on an awkward situation. Basically I’ve started carpooling with one of my colleagues from work. He is a really nice guy but he’s also really shy so the journeys just always descend into silences. We both run out of things ...
A. 13 September 2022: Bring a book or magazine. That way you don't have to talk the whole time.
Make sure you pay him for gas/petrol and you will be fine. You do NOT owe him entertainment for giving you a ride.
And If you feel so uncomfortable talk to him and tell ... (read in full...)
We want to live with the family member who took care of us when our parents couldnt
Q. When I was 6 years old and my sister was 8 years old, our parents were arrested (they were using drugs themselves, making drugs and selling drugs). My parents siblings couldn't take us in dye to different reasons and all four of my grandparents ...
A. 13 September 2022: Do you guys have a social worker? If so, TALK to Uncle Justin FIRST, tell him what you would prefer and if he ALSO rather keep the two of you, contact your case worker/social worker and perhaps a lawyer that deals in family court matters.
It mi... (read in full...)
We want to live with the family member who took care of us when our parents couldnt
Q. When I was 6 years old and my sister was 8 years old, our parents were arrested (they were using drugs themselves, making drugs and selling drugs). My parents siblings couldn't take us in dye to different reasons and all four of my grandparents ...
A. 13 September 2022: test
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Fell in love with fwb partner
Q. Hi so I know I did a stupid thing. I fell head over heels in love with my FWB and he kept giving me all kinds of signals that he likes me too. It was quite obvious to everyone that he was interested in me more than a friend. Before we became FWBs, ...
A. 9 September 2022: "Doesn't anyone here think there's the slightest possibility that something could work out between us? "
No.
"And the worst part is, even though we were best friends, now I feel like he never gave a shit about me. Maybe he didn't."
No, ... (read in full...)
Vacation repeat 1
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 9 September 2022: I already answered your previous post about this.
Here is my answer again,
"Wish him well, OP
What he wants is to have his cake (you) and eat it too (playing happy family with his ex).
This will not stop.
His "ex wife" doesn't know about you... (read in full...)
How do I deal with shame of video being exposed?
Q. I am getting legal advice on this but I also need some personal advice on how to manage a nightmare I have created with a really bad decision. On a dare and because of my own insane vanity, I auditioned for a pornographic movie. It was very ...
A. 9 September 2022: I would follow WiswOwlE's advice/
FOLLOW your lawyer's recommendations to the letter.
If he tells you to inform your school, well then you should and you should own your own actions. If he tells you NOT TO, then don't.
Personally? I think... (read in full...)
How do I repair insult to my friend?
Q. I messed up with a friend of mine who is gay and we got in a fight over something stupid and I called him a faggot and not in a joking way but an angry way. He got real quiet and said “there it is” and just left. I don’t blame him. Based on his ...
A. 7 September 2022: No, your GF shouldn't be the one to call him, no you shouldn't show up at his work either.
Your GF is not your mommy who runs around and puts out your fires. YOU need to do this.
His workplace should NOT be the place to do this either. THAT is ... (read in full...)
Is he an abuser?
Q. I've been dating a guy for a month now, and when we had sex last time, which was the first time with him, he bit me multiple times in multiple places (arms, shoulders, necks, breasts, thighs, legs) and next day I noticed he left so many bruises all ...
A. 6 September 2022: You are with a guy who doesn't give TWO FUCKS about you.
He bites you?! and so hard that you bruise and he is fekking PROUD?!! He is MAKING his territory on your body with BITE marks! Sick.
As for the pain during sex, honey - the reason it hu... (read in full...)
Partner going on holiday with his ex
Q. My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My ...
A. 6 September 2022: Wish him well, OP
What he wants is to have his cake (you) and eat it too (playing happy family with his ex).
This will not stop.
His "ex wife" doesn't know about you. You have to LEAVE when she drops off her son. You are his DIRTY little... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together.
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner who I live with for 6 years however after working away for a while I find I'm beginning to wonder if we are right together. I met someone whilst I was away, nothing physical happened however have been ...
A. 6 September 2022: First off, CUT the contact with the other dude. Of course, the NEW dude seems a "better fit" because it's all new and shiny with him.
You can't figure out what it is you are not getting from your partner if you get it from someone else, nor can ... (read in full...)
I am annoyed of husbands new eating pattern
Q. Dear Cupid I have been with my husband for 7 years and we have our ups and downs. We go out bi weekly once and mostly eat home cooked meals. Not microwave food, actual home cooked meals and for last 6 months we started having salad for lunch a...
A. 6 September 2022: I do intermittent fasting too.
I basically "skip" breakfast and snacks. I eat at noon and dinner around 6 pm. It works for me. Since my hysterectomy, I'm constantly famished and it is easy to over eat, hence doing intermittent fasting. It has curv... (read in full...)
Am I looking for a,reason to leave?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 8 years with my partner but recently have been having doubts about our future. There has been changes over the last year or so with lack of affection/intimacy and I find myself thinking if I'd be better alone for a ...
A. 2 September 2022: You need to COMMUNICATE here.
Your needs aren't met anymore, so you need to TALK to him and figure out what is going on and how to fix this together.
DO NOT buy a house together if things aren't working for you.
It's not just you being scare... (read in full...)
Not dating is like being in prison
Q. hi my name is bill i havent dated in over 10 years cause i realy dont know how annymore see i have aw metal illness i been fighting depresson anxiety for the most of my life when i was young i belivei had it to cause i was so shy hand very hard time ...
A. 2 September 2022: Are you seeing someone? Like a counselor?
Maybe you should start there?
If you think you have depression or anxiety - it could be that you need help to overcome them, help that you can't give yourself.
I'd say seek out your doctor and get ... (read in full...)
Why does my GF make me do dares to get a kiss?
Q. My GF is the greatest and I would do anything for her and I am like so lucky she likes me back the same way. She does this weird thing though on kissing. If I ask her for a kiss, she tells me I have to earn it and makes me do some kind of dare ...
A. 2 September 2022: Well, I guess IF you like doing all this then OK.. Do you.
BUT I find this degrading.
Imagine YOU tell her to perform "tricks" for you to get affection from you?! Like a good little puppy.
Should you care? I think you DO care, or you woul... (read in full...)
My wife will not take the lead in the bedroom
Q. Hello all, My wife of 20 years and I are both pretty submissive in the bedroom. I tend to take the lead in most areas and have had the desire to be a follower in the bedroom for sometime now but not able to get her to take it seriously. Seri...
A. 2 September 2022: You have tons of sex, so there IS activity there.
She just doesn't WANT to take the lead in the bedroom. It would pretend for her and that IS NOT sexy.
Have you asked HER what she would want to explore?
No?
You have known this woman for... (read in full...)
He’s invited me to go travelling with him but what if it doesn't work out?
Q. Hi guys, hoping for some advice. I’ve been friends with a guy for a few years and do really like him deep down but I’m really shy so never had the guts to properly make a move so we've always just been good friends. I’m 99% sure he likes me too. One ...
A. 30 August 2022: Honestly?
I'd hold off on the dating if you want to travel with him around Asia for 6 months. You don't want to be left in a country where you don't speak the language because you two had a lover's tiff.
Backpacking for 6 months will give... (read in full...)
He broke up with me saying he can't please me sexually
Q. I’m 30(f) and the guy (39, m) I have been dating for the past 4 months pretty much broke up with me and asked if I’d be ok with being just friends. His reason was because he says he physically can’t sexually please me. I have never said anyth...
A. 30 August 2022: I think you should just let him go.
Either there is something medically "wrong" with him and thus he has ED, or he isn't SEXUALLY attracted to you, or he is really gay, or he has had a trauma of a sexual nature (abuse/rape).
If I were a betting... (read in full...)
Cancer diagnosis-husband angry with his family
Q. Hi all, I’ll try to keep this short. I’ve been ill for almost 2 years. I’ve seen numerous specialists, doctors… nobody could find what was wrong. I was just an XY patient to them, a number. They didn’t take my case seriously even though I nev...
A. 30 August 2022: First off, I'm sorry! I hope it's something that can be dealt with and that you come out well on the other end.
I understand both of you. Totally.
He ASKED them for advice help or recommendations - ALL things that are FREE and none that would ... (read in full...)
Why do my friend and I sometimes click, but other times it's awkward?
Q. Sorry this is not a romance question, but rather it's a friendship question. Why do my friend and I sometimes click, but other times we don't? For instance, we met up yesterday at the pub and had the best time together and clicked really well. We ...
A. 30 August 2022: I don't think it means you aren't compatible as friends it just means you two get along well when it's just you two but when more people are tossed in the mix it can feel and be awkward.
But that is what SOCIALIZING is all about.
You can't rea... (read in full...)
While on vacation I was happier away from my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend of 7 years got drunk at my birthday party and started being very argumentative with myself and my friends. It was embarrassing quite frankly for me and I know my friends don't really like him. The next few days I left to go on holiday ...
A. 30 August 2022: Sounded like he started to fight ON purpose to ruin your holiday. Either because he wasn't going or because he didn't want YOU to go.
He sounds like an ass.
Wish him well and be done with this manipulative asshat.... (read in full...)
While on vacation I was happier away from my boyfriend
Q. My boyfriend of 7 years got drunk at my birthday party and started being very argumentative with myself and my friends. It was embarrassing quite frankly for me and I know my friends don't really like him. The next few days I left to go on holiday ...
A. 30 August 2022: test
... (read in full...)
How can you get from the point of almost not wanting your guy touching you straight to the point of wanting sex like crazy?
Q. Hi all! I am in a situation and hopefully you can help me by giving me another perspective cause I am a bit at a loss. Here it goes: I've been with my gf for two years, I love her to bits and have never felt so good with anyone. Up until a while ag...
A. 26 August 2022: I think she FINALLY feels secure in the relationship. I think she WANTED to make really sure that you were going to stick around BEFORE having sex.
I think she feels that having sex is a big deal (and for many it is) and she decided to wait unt... (read in full...)
Confused and want him to talk
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for almost 6 months. He announced at his bday party to his friends that I'm his gf. The next day we hung out with his friends and we all had a good time. He was snuggled up to me and gently caressing me. I said hey ...
A. 26 August 2022: If I were you I would send him 1 (ONE) text saying, I wish you all the best but this isn't working out for me. I don't seem to be a priority in your life nor do you seem to want to spend time or even talk to me about what is going on in your life.
... (read in full...)
How do I convince GF pain I have during sex is no big deal?
Q. My girlfriend and I have gotten to the point where we are starting to be sexually active with each other. We are both very attracted to each other, but she made me wait for a while but that is okay because she is worth it. Our first two nights ...
A. 26 August 2022: Aww OP!
You are trying too hard here. I get that due to your genetic condition can easily dislocate joints (which sucks) you NEED to find positions that work for BOTH of you so you don't end up with swollen joints or constant pain.
I dislo... (read in full...)
Mamas boy
Q. How do you deal with a mammys boy? I’m at my wits end. My boyfriend lost his father last year, this was before I met him. He used to live with his ex he told me and things didn’t work out cause he said they were both too far away from family. ...
A. 23 August 2022: Oh, OP just run.
End this, there is NO change in sight.
He is living with his mom because it makes HIS life easier and his mom's life easier too. And to a point, there is nothing wrong in wanting to take care of a parent, but it almost seems ... (read in full...)
Husband cheats again
Q. Ok so i really need help and advice i dont know what to do i have been married for over 15yrs and i have 4 kids but the thing is i just found out last week that my husband just cheated on me for the third time in 8 yrs and i dont know what to do he ...
A. 23 August 2022: There isn't much advice I can give here.
You don't want the marriage to end, you say you love him and are fully dependent on him.
So there is only ONE choice really, and that is finding forgiveness through marriage/couples counseling or fa... (read in full...)
My 6 years younger boyfriend acts like a brat
Q. Hi my boyfriend is very entitled and acts like a brat! I'm 6 years older, and all he cares about is getting high and hanging with friends. We have been together 2 years and it's been mostly bad. He works part time. I work full time and have a ...
A. 20 August 2022: Why are you with him?
Change your locks, change your number, block, delete him on all apps and social media.
If he could "juju" you to hurt you why can't he juju some income or a good job for himself? He is full of crap.
Move on, OP
... (read in full...)
I declined cake when I wanted to accept it
Q. In my workplace a girl did her birthday yesterday and offered me cake i decline when i want to say yes and our boss birthday is today i was offered cake again but i still decline even though i was expecting the cake i wanted to say yes but i blurted ...
A. 18 August 2022: It's OK to say, on second thought yes I would like a piece of cake.
Or if you feel that would hurt your pride, no cake for you.
This is trivial, OP
It's a piece of cake. A kind offer, no more, no less.... (read in full...)
Is he losing interest or just comfortable?
Q. Hi, Wondering if someone would be able to help me with something. I am not sure if my boyfriend is just comfortable or if he is losing interest. It is something that I have been concerned with recently. I moved in with them a few ...
A. 18 August 2022: Oh honey he is totally taking you for granted.
Is this the same guy who went fishing and made you dog sit?
If so, why haven't you left yet? Break up with him, Go home, stay with family until you can find a place of your own.... (read in full...)
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