Did my boyfriends ex cross the line or am I overreacting?
Q. So my boyfriend’s ex keeps asking too many personal questions about our sex life, and it’s starting to bother me but I don’t know if I’m overreacting. Like one example is that she wants to know if he’s still a virgin, to which I responded, “I’m not ...
A. 12 February 2022: Well, at least your BF is on the same page as you.
I would still say, block her if you feel like it, you don't have to pretend to be her "friend" as she is definitely NOT wanting to be your friend.... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriends ex cross the line or am I overreacting?
Q. So my boyfriend’s ex keeps asking too many personal questions about our sex life, and it’s starting to bother me but I don’t know if I’m overreacting. Like one example is that she wants to know if he’s still a virgin, to which I responded, “I’m not ...
A. 10 February 2022: I agree with Kenny,
It IS NONE of her business.
I also think you need to talk to your BF about this girl and whether it's appropriate for her to dig around in his life, which SHE is no longer a part of.
Why are YOU talking to her?
Is sh... (read in full...)
Ashamed that I don't know who my Baby's Dad is
Q. I can’t come to terms with the fact that I don’t know who my Baby’s Dad is, even though I’ve accepted I'll never being able to find him. The worst thing is if I happened to walk by him in the street by chance I wouldn’t even realise it was him ...
A. 10 February 2022: There are no pictures from that night out? That seems strange for a group of 20-year old girls out on the town.
And to not remember him at all?
I guess that is all moot by now.
You could try and do an Ancestry DNA and have his DNA uploade... (read in full...)
After 2 years, my boyfriend ghosted me
Q. I don’t know what to do anymore. My boyfriend of over 2 years ghosted me! There were no major issues, as far as I was made aware. I work with families and I’m so gutted that some have asked me what’s wrong because I look so miserable and I have no ...
A. 8 February 2022: OP, he is a coward.
I'd say unless you cheated, stole from him, or did something heinous you don't deserve being ghosted. Only a coward would pull such a stunt.
I would probably contact the Police with the whole posting your flat for rent. T... (read in full...)
Should I pursue Trevor or let it go?
Q. So I've known this guy for 13 years, and I've been single for 12 years. Yes I've dated people but no actual boyfriend. Trevor is everything you want in a partner/husband - I can imagine having a family with him, I trust him completely, we argue so...
A. 8 February 2022: I have to agree with Kenny,
If you have known him this long and you have not been able to ACTUALLY have a relationship, then why is he an option now?
Sounds to me like your biological clock is ticking so loudly that you "dusted" him off... (read in full...)
How do I work through my dating anxiety?
Q. I have been on several dates with a great guy. He is such a gentleman, thoughtful, kind, and I really feel like I can be myself around him and he truly likes me for me. I thought this is what I always wanted! The problem? I have a dating history o...
A. 8 February 2022: Maybe try and stop overthinking this?
Go on dates, get to know him, keep sex out of it for now. Let him know you want to go slow, super slow. If he is not comfortable with that, say bye-bye. If he is, good.
Hooking up is easy, that is why ever... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend have a crush on my friend?
Q. Me n my gf was at family party at the weekend we was having fun drinking and dancing etc when i went to the bathroom and came back my gf and my friend had their arms around each other side cuddling in an intimate way his arm was over her shoulder ...
A. 5 February 2022: OP, you saw what you saw.
They are BOTH lying to you, so where does that leave you?
Your friend is an arse your GF is full of crap. "She doesn't remember "how it happened"? What the actual F!
Your friend straight up LIED to you - "it never ... (read in full...)
Should I let her know I can't be friends with her?
Q. A part of this post is a continuation to a previous post of mine. The latter half is my current situation. Old Post (May 2020): I always had intense trust issues that lead me to stay away from relationships. In fact I've never been in a relati...
A. 5 February 2022: Perhaps you should seek some real counseling and work on your trust issues?
Unless you want a lonely life with no REAL friends or partners?
"I understand it can do irreparable damage to a person when the other person is not serious about it... (read in full...)
Which contraception is best and will least affect my body
Q. Hi just wondering which contraception is best and will least affect my body? I’m turning 16 next month and going to start having sex with my boyfriend when I am legal. He said he will use condoms every time but I just want to be extra safe and go on ...
A. 5 February 2022: TALK to your doctor.
We can't prescribe your birth control.
There are low estrogen pills, I have only heard negative things about implants but they might work for you. However, BEFORE you get birth control it is a GOOD thing to get an exam f... (read in full...)
My fwb doesn't want to have sex?
Q. So there’s a guy I met through my cousin and we have been talking for a month but under the understanding that we would be FWB. I’m a 30 year old female and he is a 28 year old male. He has only had one partner and I’m a Virgin and tbh I just feel ...
A. 5 February 2022: You can easily come off as desperate if you don't just hold our horses. " I have urges and needs lol." You say you are a virgin and if you are in your 30's... you have waited this long, you can wait a bit longer. What is the hurry?
It might al... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend either change or break up?
Q. My boyfriend and myself have been having complications (on and off) for the duration of the 1 and half year relationship. I have sat my boyfriend down a few times to talk about how he isn't present when we talk. He will be playing video games or in ...
A. 3 February 2022: OP
You ask:
"So why wont he either do something about it, or suggest to move on? "
Obviously, it's hard to change. YOU can't change him by telling him what you expect should be done. That isn't realistic. And perhaps HE isn't wanting to cha... (read in full...)
How do I make moves on this older woman?
Q. My long time friend is getting married and asked me to be the best man in his wedding. He will be marrying in a few months after he graduates from university. He and I have been friends for a long time and have been attending the same university and ...
A. 3 February 2022: Dude!
She is your BEST friend's MOTHER IN LAW! Keep it in your pants.
I don't know what it is with guys who think all divorcees are looking for a younger man to just have some sex with! This is the second or third question this week with a simi... (read in full...)
Boyfriends dads wedding is making me feel resentful and bitter.
Q. So, this is a little bit of a long story, and I am very much aware I may be judged as selfish and attention seeking. I just needed to get this out of my system as I feel like it’s going to drive me mad, and friends tend to be more biased in a ...
A. 3 February 2022: EDIT
I do hate you cant go in and edit a post after you hit post.. so sorry.
I wrote:
"He needs to be responsible for you."
What It should have been this:
"He needs to be responsible for HIMSELF." Financially and otherwise. Peo... (read in full...)
How do I get her to talk about sex?
Q. I have known this very beautiful and fun woman in my neighborhood for about ten years. We have been friends and have enjoyed doing many things together. I am 20 and she is 35. About a year ago she was divorced and her ex is not in the picture. She ...
A. 2 February 2022: Maybe she has realized how inappropriate it is for her to have sex with someone who is BARELY an adult.
Or she doesn't want to get too emotionally attached to a young adult so sex is off the table.
She has already (in not so many words) shut... (read in full...)
How can I forgive my mother and be at peace?
Q. Hello, I hope you're all doing well. I am a 20 year old woman who lives in a chaotic family. My mom was abused emotionally and physically by my dad for years, so did I (from my mother and father). Both are still together, however, they are cheating ...
A. 2 February 2022: If you live with them, save up and MOVE out ASAP.
If you at some point can find a job further away, then take it and move away and CUT all contact.
You ask how you can forgive her, and find peace.
Forgive her for your OWN sake. ACCEPT th... (read in full...)
I need help with an overbearing mother in law
Q. Hi everyone, need some help with an overbearing mother in law. I had a baby around 6 months ago and from the very moment she has been round our place every other day. Since hitting the 4 months mark I started taking my LO to baby classes and being ...
A. 2 February 2022: You don't have a MIL issue, you have a husband issue.
He is a mommy's boy?
Sit your husband down, set your boundaries CLEARLY.
Calling or being invited BEFORE showing up is normal and totally OK to expect.
Then if they can do that mayb... (read in full...)
Boyfriends dads wedding is making me feel resentful and bitter.
Q. So, this is a little bit of a long story, and I am very much aware I may be judged as selfish and attention seeking. I just needed to get this out of my system as I feel like it’s going to drive me mad, and friends tend to be more biased in a ...
A. 1 February 2022: Ah OP,
Se sense a lot of jealousy and perhaps a bit of insecurity from you. When I say insecurity, I mean in your relationship, not you "per se".
The jealousy is petty, OP. Who gets married when isn't a competition.
You say you love your... (read in full...)
Should I find out who made these accusations?
Q. after working for a number of years at a car business. I decided to resign and move onto other things. people were sad to see me go, where others were pleased I was going. someone from work has said, who I don’t know that I’m slagging off their ...
A. 1 February 2022: I have to agree with Kenny,
Not much point in doing this. If anyone OF importance contacts you, just tell the truth that you never did that. Also, If you didn't do it, the "accuser" can't prove it.
I'm curious, who told you that "rumor"?
... (read in full...)
Should I let my teenaged daughter date?
Q. I understand that girls will always be more mature than boys. Naturally, girls physically mature faster as they go through puberty earlier than their male counterparts. This brings me to my daughter who is a sophomore in high school. She is smart...
A. 1 February 2022: Girls are not REALLY more mature than boys, they are just "expected" to know better and "behave" better than boys.
Telling a teen that they CAN'T date - is not going to stop them. Telling a teen that they CAN'T kiss someone or have sex is NOT goin... (read in full...)
Dont stay in troubled relationships
Q. Hello, I was engaged, we were together until maybe 3 weeks ago. We were together about 5 years in total. It started out beautifully. He was charismatic, very sweet and loving. The last two years were terrible. Alot of emotional abu...
A. 1 February 2022: I'm glad you realized YOUR worth before you got seriously hurt.
Remember THIS is NOT your fault that he did this. OK?
His behavior was/is never OK.
Take this as a lesson. A costly lesson.
Keep the No Contact - make sure all your soc... (read in full...)
What are the perks of moving in together?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 11 months and has invited me to move in with her. I am thinking of it. We are both 26. Perhaps those who have moved in together can give some advice. What are the Perks of Moving in Together? Do most of you ...
A. 1 February 2022: Absolutely listen to Kenny and FA!
It would be a VERY good idea to sit down and talk about expectations.
Such as,
Who pays what?
Rent, food, utilities, extras, etc.
What chores need to be done, and who will do them?
Who cooks?
W... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mom what I seen?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she and divorced. has been happier and dressing more attractively lately. one day when I was looking after her garden I came in to get a drink and I saw her lying nude with some guy. It looked like she was having sex. I reture...
A. 1 February 2022: She is a single woman, and you are a grown man, so she can do what she wants in HER house.
If you do feel you need to mention it, just say, I'm sorry if I interrupted you X-day when I went inside for a drink. IF she wants to discuss it she will... (read in full...)
What do they feel?
Q. what do cheating wives think when they are about to feel strangers cock fo the first time...
A. 30 January 2022: I have never cheated so I can't give you "direct advice" from experience.
Also, how would that kind of answer help you?... (read in full...)
Can the friendship still survive or is it definitely over?
Q. after eight years at a company I worked for, being sworn at and being on poor wages. I resigned from, as the assistant boss was disrespectful to me and has no compassion for other people. a female collegue who I’ve known for many years, decided to ...
A. 29 January 2022: Like you said, Facebook can be toxic.
It seems like the chick who sent you the picture of the bearded lipstick "person"? Probably were thinking they were OH so funny or she wanted to create some drama. Either way, your best BET is to unfriend... (read in full...)
I am very nervous about getting naked in front of my boyfriend
Q. I am a 34 year old female looking to take things to the next level with my current boyfriend. I have been divorced for 18 months and was with my ex for almost ten years. Even though I was married, I am rather inexperienced. I have only ever h...
A. 29 January 2022: I'd say just go slow. If you sare till a little vary of his "true intent" then just hold off on the sex a bit. There is no rush to get naked with each other.
Get to know him better. When YOU feel ready then talk to him before you get in bed. Let... (read in full...)
The more I know about his life, the more I want to walk away
Q. I’m in a relationship with a man with kids. I don’t have any and not thinking of wanting anytime soon. I haven’t met his kids and I don’t want to push him on meeting them. The more I get to know the situation with his life, the more I feel like ...
A. 29 January 2022: OP,
That should give you some sense of closure. That HE said he didn't DO anything wrong just helping out the ex.
They haven't been together for 8 YEARS and he still is at her beck and call. One thing if the help was about or for his daughter... (read in full...)
No sex in 27 years. Will I be able to have it?
Q. I havent had sex for 27 years due to my husband being unable. Now that I ama widow what if I want sex with another man? will it be possible?...
A. 29 January 2022: Sure, just go slow. Take your time getting to know him and his likes dislikes and your own.
... (read in full...)
How Should I Respond to My Boyfriend's Sister After a Bad Conversation?
Q. Context: I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 years. It's been tough with his family. I got along with one of his sisters and at one point considered her a friend. The other sister, I've never gotten along with but kept things cordial. His family ...
A. 29 January 2022: "She also said that because of events that happened in the past, she's giving me the "option" to step back from the role in her wedding."
"Do I reach out to her to make amends even though she was horrible to me?"
Just tell her you will respect... (read in full...)
My husband says I am at fault for not trusting him but is he the one who is really at fault?
Q. Sort of beside myself. My husband of 9 years says I have anxiety and it is my fault that I do not trust him, because I have anxiety. But I think the fault is his. I recently found a number on his phone under Fed Ex and it was a young woman...NO...
A. 29 January 2022: A 13 year old girl is not a "young woman" she is a CHILD.
" I made him erase the number but it popped up again on his phone a month later, and he then said the same thing. He has no idea how that happened."
Erasing the number doesn't make the... (read in full...)
What do they feel?
Q. what do cheating wives think when they are about to feel strangers cock fo the first time...
A. 29 January 2022: Who knows?
I don't generally believe there is a LOT of "thinking" going on when people (of either sex) are cheating.
They are probably feeling a bit of a rush because they know what they are doing is "wrong" and "forbidden" but they don't CARE ... (read in full...)
What do these girls want?
Q. Do girls actually want you to touch or flirt with them in the stores? Are there any signs girls give to show they have interest? I seem to run into girls who seem to get very close to me, even bend down in front of me or bump into me at stores but...
A. 29 January 2022: No, they don't want you to touch them. They want to FEEL safe while flirting.
They want you to notice, maybe say hi and have a conversation. Not to be groped by a total stranger they find cute.
Flirting doesn't always mean they are interested. ... (read in full...)
Would a tall woman go out with a shorter guy?
Q. Im 5’4’ and like a woman who is about 6'4" she has an athletic frame from sports and works out regularly. I can honestly say I like her figure and personality.im thinking about asking her out. Any advice for asking out a taller woman? Would a ...
A. 29 January 2022: Some would, some would not.
She might, she might not. Only way to know is to ask her out. If she declines it can be for MANY other reasons than your height.
Just accept a yes or a no gracefully and respectfully.
... (read in full...)
Do I tell my mom that I am dating her friend?
Q. I’m a 31-year-old guy, single, normal dating history. A few months ago, a friend of my mom’s called me and asked if I’d like to get together for coffee. I had met her at my mom’s house a couple of weeks prior and we had a nice talk. I thought ...
A. 29 January 2022: You and your GF are in your 30's and 50's so OLD enough to make a choice of whom to date.
Tell your mom. Be matter of fact about it. She really doesn't get a say in whom you date. She might not like it, OK You could be dating a stranger to your ... (read in full...)
Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 28 January 2022: Nah, I didn't miss the point Anon :)
I just wanted to point out that people in Europe start drinking earlier as the "norm". Not like American teens don't do the same.
And it was more to WiseOwlE's post
"She's only 19! She shouldn't have b... (read in full...)
Married 8 years and don't like having sex
Q. I have been married for 8 years now, but i don't like having sex.... I have pretended through out the marriage, used some lubricants and got on with it so to say. My husband has speculated that maybe i am gay because i never seem to be interest...
A. 28 January 2022: It was unkind to "pretend to like it". You should have been honest with your partner before marriage.
It could be that you are mostly asexual. So just not interested in sex at all.
It doesn't sound like a good idea to HAVE to get a bit drunk ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel embarrassed that I enjoyed anal sex?
Q. I tried anal sex with my husband for the first time the other morning and actually quite enjoyed it. But every time I think of it I cringe inside and I don’t know why. I just feel really embarrassed. My husband has only mentioned it once and that ...
A. 28 January 2022: "Maybe it’s because there’s a whole taboo amongst women about anal?"
I think there is a bigger taboo amongst men than women.
But I digress.
Why do you feel embarrassed? Hard to guess, OP Perhaps because it is taboo, perhaps because generall... (read in full...)
How to cope with losing a man I never had
Q. Hi there, Looking for some advice / help and opinions on how to cope with a man who has deeply hurt me. I can’t seem to get him out of my mind but crazy as it sounds we were not together. I am afraid this is a long story as I wanted to explai...
A. 28 January 2022: OP,
We can't read his mind any more than you can. And you have met the guy so possibly have a better read on the person and situation.
Maybe he is playing games?
Maybe the ex IS controlling and reading all his texts?
Maybe he just ... (read in full...)
Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 27 January 2022: To the American Uncles and Aunties
The OP is from the UK - drinking is legal at 18. And in most European countries teens start around 16-17 and then start going to pubs/clubs and bars (and parties) around 18.
It's "normal" in most European cu... (read in full...)
How to cope with losing a man I never had
Q. Hi there, Looking for some advice / help and opinions on how to cope with a man who has deeply hurt me. I can’t seem to get him out of my mind but crazy as it sounds we were not together. I am afraid this is a long story as I wanted to explai...
A. 27 January 2022: I fully agree with YCANBS,
BEST thing you can do for yourself, is to BLOCK, DELETE and let it go.
You are fooling yourself by calling this a friendship. It wasn't. YOU wanted more, he CLAIMED he wanted more, until he didn't. He LOVES the idea o... (read in full...)
The more I know about his life, the more I want to walk away
Q. I’m in a relationship with a man with kids. I don’t have any and not thinking of wanting anytime soon. I haven’t met his kids and I don’t want to push him on meeting them. The more I get to know the situation with his life, the more I feel like ...
A. 27 January 2022: You know, OP
If you continue to date this guy, he will still prioritize his daughter above you. Which is fair.
BUT he will also prioritize the ex above you. You will come last. Every time.
You ask, if you should try harder?
No, OP - You... (read in full...)
Why is she lying to me?
Q. Hey, so I'd like to ask what to do as I was told awhile ago my partner was taking people home after work, not work colleagues shes taking men back to there home after her shift and she works in a pub. The pubs closing time is 12am midnight but shes ...
A. 27 January 2022: Is she driving home people that are too drunk to drive themselves or is she going HOME with men to "knock boots"?
It could be both, it could be either.
You know she is doing it, as you have proof.
So asking WHY she is lying is pointless.
... (read in full...)
Is there anything my husband and I can do to help our sons?
Q. I have two sons. John who is 39 years old and Rob who is 37 years old. I always thought that my sons were close. Rob is gay and has been officially together for 12 years (dating for five years, married for 7 years). But they have been friend...
A. 27 January 2022: We all have our limits.
I think you and your husband should stay out of it. Rob has set some rather firm boundaries and CHOSEN to go no contact with his brother. IF he at some point CHOOSES to talk to him again, then THAT is his choice.
John no... (read in full...)
Have I been too forgiving?
Q. I’ve given my sister the benefit of the doubt after she tried to kiss my boyfriend on New Year’s Eve because she was drunk but have I been too soft on her? All of my friends seem to think so. Me and my boyfriend had a party at ours with a load...
A. 25 January 2022: I think you handled it with grace and decency.
Your sister is 19. She was drunk. Though at 19, she SHOULD know better.
I do think I would tell her she OWES your BF an apology for hitting on him. Drunk or not.
Your BF did the right thing t... (read in full...)
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