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Should I change my look to attract a better man?

Q.   What am I doing wrong in dating? I want to preface by saying that I was in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship for five years until I walked away. A big reason why I walked away was because after enough was enough I also fell for so...

A.   12 December 2013: Thank you to sageoldguy!! I do not dress skimpy it is simply my hair color that my coworkers says will attract the wrong men .. I also do not shove my breast out and act as of I am a playmate but my breasts are big and you cannot hide them ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever felt this way for a potential significant other?

Q.   Hi I was wondering if anyone has felt this way or if anyone can make me realize what these feelings were. During my last course in graduate school ( i was 24) I landed in this class; my last class thesis class, before I had to graduate. Either w...

A.   26 September 2011: Thank your for your resposnse as it was very helpful. That was my masters degree that i had done, and honestly i feel like a different woman since then. I never feltgood enough for anyone and somehow that class made me FEEL for the first time, and ... (read in full...)

I left in the middle of the night after sex, now he never wants to hear from me!

Q.   Hey everyone, about a month ago I started seeing this guy and he was an absolute sweetheart to me and things were going well... Anyway, last night we went on a date and we planned that I would stay at his house for the night. We had sex multiple...

A.   26 September 2011: Do you have feelings for him?? because y did you have a panic attack? is there something else underneath that. You are your own person and can make your own decisions. he reacted a little harshly but if you feel for him just explain your feelins... (read in full...)

I am confused about dating and don't feel comfortable when a man pays and I am unsure what to do

Q.   I want to know everyone's opinion here because i am freaking out here a bit. To put a small background. Im 25 with a masters and ppl say im this model like doll looking girl that has her life ahead of her; truth is even though i have all these ...

A.   16 September 2011: lola 1 -thank you so much.. i have a biggest fear of dissapointing and making people mad so much that i forget about myself..my mother raised me to please everyone else first and that is why it is so hard to date agian.. as far as the abusive rela... (read in full...)

Does performance matter with women?

Q.   I got out of a real nasty relationship one year ago and have not had sex since then. He was my first, and i am 25 i was with him for five years. My question is this:: Im not super experienced in bed, and do guys find that as a turn off? I mean...

A.   17 May 2011: Guys thank you so much for the responses .. yeas it was a serious question i am not being sarcastic, i was just insecure in the sense of perfoirmance because even though i have the eduaction and looks, i thought men wanted someone more expe... (read in full...)

My insecurities leave me feeling so alone inside

Q.   I have a question I'm very self conscious and vunreable and I dont know how to snap out of it. A little backround on me I;m 24 yrs old. skinny, many ppl say i should model big breasts, I have a graduate degree, and currently employed. I just got...

A.   29 April 2011: thanks i.m not materialist i didnt mean to come across of it as that but it seems that no matter what degree i get, what i buy, who i see, nothing ever feels COMPLETE... (read in full...)

Can you lose sexual attraction for someone?

Q.   is it possible to loose sexual attraction to someone? I was in a relationship for five years it ended because he was too verbally abusive."ur fat, the "b" and "c" word and all that nasty stuff.Anyways months have passed and he has been dying to come ...

A.   16 April 2011: Also why do i feel like i have to make a decision? i feel so lost but he wants to come back desperately but i doubt he will take me back if i date someone else.. i feel so lost? and i feel betrayed by him... (read in full...)

Can you lose sexual attraction for someone?

Q.   is it possible to loose sexual attraction to someone? I was in a relationship for five years it ended because he was too verbally abusive."ur fat, the "b" and "c" word and all that nasty stuff.Anyways months have passed and he has been dying to come ...

A.   16 April 2011: guys thanks i often felt guilty about not being attracted anymore because at the end it was not my fault he left me, and didnt care and now that he is back it doesnt feel the dame..y should i feel guilty if he was a supppper jerk... (read in full...)

She doesn't meet my criteria for a life partner. Should I stay or should I go?

Q.   Hi, I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly a year now and I've been doing a lot of thinking. I am unsure about how much I love her because when we're away from each other I sometimes miss her, but more often than not end up think...

A.   12 April 2011: leaave you dont love her, my ex tried to change me, what if someone tried to change you? its a selfish way of looking at it no offense but leave its clear that your not in love im in the same situation... (read in full...)

Do nice people finish last?

Q.   Do nice people finish last? Lately it feels like i have had it with being nice and innocent and being open hearted if feels like the nicer and honest you are with people, the more screwed over you get. in relationships, work/ friendships. etc...

A.   26 March 2011: Then y not act like a liar/cheat/steal etc??... (read in full...)

How do you fight feelings for someone you can't be with?

Q.   How do you fight feelings for someone you can't be with? Is it possible to be "just friends" with someone you are attracted to? (We are both in relationships, by the way)....

A.   26 March 2011: That is the worst. I am there was there and it sucks.. but just let fate deal with it i guess that is the best way to decide...... (read in full...)

Are all men after tall women?

Q.   I'm 22 years old, less than five feet tall. i am as pretty as any other girl and healthily thin so will any guy be interested in me?its not my fault or anyone else's why i am the way i am. I'm in college for 2 years and no boy has even dared talked ...

A.   26 March 2011: i hope they like short women im 5"3 and i LOVE TALL guys :) ... (read in full...)

How does one grow to love oneself?

Q.   HoW DOES ONE GROW TO LOVE ONESELF? OR BE CONFIDENT? I am this beautiful girl that always gets hit on but i never see it..(people say it all the time) but I deperately want validation from ppl. I want to be accepted. How can i stop and just breathe...

A.   19 March 2011: thank you for the advice, i never meant to say that I have this great looks and show off, what i meant is : i was blessed with a pysical appearance that apparantly ppl like but I still cant appreciate is and I HAVE VERY LOW LOW LOW SELF ESTEEM. i ... (read in full...)

It feels like I am daydreaming my life away, help!

Q.   Hello guys I was wondering if I could get some advice. I am falling into a deep deep depression and I cant seem to snap out of it. For the last year i have been a mess (i broke up with my emotionally abusive bf) and finished graduate school but i ...

A.   18 March 2011: thank you for the feedback any advice on the changes that you took? or the small steps you took? i am trying really hard to change and trying to love myslef..... (read in full...)

When choosing someone to marry, do you use your heart or your head?

Q.   I really need help... I have been with my boyfriend for more than 5 years. We have gone through so much together. We really had our trials but in the end what got as through is the foundation of our relationship. He's really my best friend. My ...

A.   17 March 2011: Honestly I was in the same situation well similar one, and let me tell you, marrying this man will only lead to more conflict in your head. Dont marry because of interest marry because of passion. If you are not sexxually aroused now, then its only ... (read in full...)

I am so depressed and have no motivation to do anything

Q.   I was wondering if anyone felt the same way? Lately i have been so depressed i dont want to do anyhting but sleep and eat. I broke up from my ex a couple of months ago(he was emotonally abausive) but i am over that, but i still feel empty and sad ...

A.   8 February 2011: Can anyone tell me why i crave so much attention and why apparently i am chasing it so much... (read in full...)

I am so depressed and have no motivation to do anything

Q.   I was wondering if anyone felt the same way? Lately i have been so depressed i dont want to do anyhting but sleep and eat. I broke up from my ex a couple of months ago(he was emotonally abausive) but i am over that, but i still feel empty and sad ...

A.   8 February 2011: Thanks guys. I feel so weak, and I feel so consumed by this. I have tried different meds but none have helped. And I feel like I am living in this fantasy.... (read in full...)

It is normal that I'm attracted to men twice my age?

Q.   Is it normal (from a psychological point of view), that I am attracted to older men in their 40' s . Not all of them , it all the depends on their level of maturity. The way they talk about life , their experience ..It moves me in a way that no ...

A.   4 February 2011: omg me too!!! i am 24 and I just find myself lookingfor someone 10+ years older i just love that maturity ... (read in full...)

Help should I go back to my ex??????

Q.   Okay I have a situation in my hand. A couple of months agomy ex of five years ended our relationship of five years. It has been what some say emotionally abusive"him calling me fat,i need to wear makeup, this that" basically to make a long story ...

A.   3 February 2011: You know what, he randomly texts me and then wants to be like, "oh forget the past no one is perfect", when he was the one that left. And when I asked him why, he just says, "well I wanted a break! I had problems, now I'm better!!"... (read in full...)

I do not believe I will ever fall in love again. It scares me.

Q.   I was wondering If i could get some people's opininons on here about my current situation. I just got out of an emotionally abusive relationship of five years a couple of months ago, and i cant seem to get back up. I have no feelings for him anymore ...

A.   25 January 2011: The long post made me tear up so much it's exactly how I feel omg :((((( he has been. Trying to contact me desperately trying to be sweet then semi mean. I feel so weak at times when ge is sweet but it feels like I am speaking a different language ... (read in full...)

Should I take my ex back?

Q.   I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for six years and since we have broken up I have dealt with it and decide to move on. I have seen how some guys can be so nice and I am attracted to it. one problem though my ex keeps texting me saying he ...

A.   4 January 2011: Thank you guys it's been hard because he has been texting me non stop and being nice and mean sometimes I am emotionally weak but I dream of love and everytime I think of my ex I get reminded of all the emotional abuse it's as if my mind can't go ... (read in full...)

How long should you wait before sex?

Q.   How long should you wait before you are intimate with someone? I'm 24 and have only slept with one guy in Whig I was in a 6 year relationship with and I am back on the dating scene! I'm wondering how long should you wait I'm not really e permiscious ...

A.   4 January 2011: thank you its refreshing to hear!!!... (read in full...)

Do nice girls really finish last?

Q.   What do guys think of nice girls?? I was just in an emotionally abusive relationship and ppl told me that it was not worth it to be nice all the time? Do men find playing hard to get and bitches attractive?? I mean I believe in being honest and ...

A.   2 January 2011: I guess you said it right chigirl because I just want someone just to accept me and love me for who I am not my looks and my past five yr relationship was like that he would want me to be perfect and even though I gave him 110 percent he still would ... (read in full...)

What is a soul mate?

Q.   Is there such as a soulamate?...

A.   2 January 2011: I guess so it sounds magi cal but I would love to experience it... (read in full...)

Do nice girls really finish last?

Q.   What do guys think of nice girls?? I was just in an emotionally abusive relationship and ppl told me that it was not worth it to be nice all the time? Do men find playing hard to get and bitches attractive?? I mean I believe in being honest and ...

A.   2 January 2011: Thanks guys its refreshing to hear this because I was super nice and honest and wanted to give 120% and want to in every relationship I want the relationship to be easy going and constable but books and literature even friends say that " you should ... (read in full...)

I really feel neglected and don't know what to do!

Q.   My boyfriend and I are together for about one year now. Many a times I felt neglected by him because he is someone who prefers to have his personal time. I am not a very sticky person I think... I hope to meet up more times in a week rather than ...

A.   30 December 2010: my ex was like this..it lasted ficve years please understand that this man is not gonna change, you want someone that is going to offer you the world.. this man is egoitistic and a narcassist.. please they love themselves too much... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend the monster wants to try again!

Q.   I don't know what is right or wrong anymore about love. My exbf was a monster. He ripped my heart out and taunted and did vicious things to me for entire year after he dumped me. I went all the way down hill and hibernated but he still found ways to ...

A.   25 December 2010: Please do not I am in the same EXACT SITUATION.. it takes a stronger person to leave, and he will break your heart over and over..we deserve someone better.. ... (read in full...)

Would society think our relationship is wrong?

Q.   i know that this may sound wrong okay but here goes. i am 16 he is 27 we are in love okay and i no that may sound naive but we have been in a strong relationship for about 8 months i am almost 17. well we have a lot of respect for each other a...

A.   23 December 2010: no no please by all means if you love this man its fine :)... (read in full...)

There are no romantic guys out there!

Q.   I just got out of a horrible relationship of five years. the guys was a dick and never really did anything special for me ..I'm starting to believe that there are no romantic guys out there, or guys that like literature, and stuff i like.. the guy i ...

A.   17 December 2010: i hope so...... (read in full...)

There are no romantic guys out there!

Q.   I just got out of a horrible relationship of five years. the guys was a dick and never really did anything special for me ..I'm starting to believe that there are no romantic guys out there, or guys that like literature, and stuff i like.. the guy i ...

A.   16 December 2010: and what i mean by romantic is it gonna be better than my five yr relationship.. i only got flowers once, and he always criticized me.. even with sex he would not go down on me! he even said once oh you've gotten overweight i dont want to have sex ... (read in full...)

There are no romantic guys out there!

Q.   I just got out of a horrible relationship of five years. the guys was a dick and never really did anything special for me ..I'm starting to believe that there are no romantic guys out there, or guys that like literature, and stuff i like.. the guy i ...

A.   16 December 2010: guys what i mean by romantic is that like is there a guy that will appreciate me i just got out of a relationship where if i didnt wear makeup of exersice he would complain.. but yet he would say i love you.. is there a guy who wil think i am good ... (read in full...)

Am I a loser if I live at home?

Q.   Is it okay to live with your parents, I am just graduating from grad school, in two weeks but unfortunately I still live with my parents, and they bitch about coming home late and all that bullshit. I do not have a car yet and have a part time job, ...

A.   14 December 2010: will older guys find this unaattractive i am 24 and my older bf who was thirty said i needed to grow up be independe styop waisting money and etc. i mean i just finished my masters, and i want to date older man ibut i dont want them to see me as a ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   14 December 2010: its true jonas your right :( this is just a horrible chapter in my life..... i just dont even want to face it... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   14 December 2010: guys thank you again! is it true that people do not change? like that his personality will not change, i mean if he comes back and says he is a changed man and acts all sweet and everything.. and makes me feel guilty.. but i wonder if ppl change.... (read in full...)

No self confidence after breakup!

Q.   How do I regain my self confidence back? I was in a five year relationship, that was mostly toxic, although he loved me, he did make remarks about my body, being overweight, sometime not wearing makeup etc. either way he broke my hear and left, and ...

A.   14 December 2010: guys thanks so much for the support i am trying out new things, i have been so scared and sheltered that I practically dont know how to act or have confidence, its been battered. I hope that he does not come back, but I hope i can regain confidence ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   13 December 2010: jonas i cant thank you enough, its been really difficult, and you are right, he does get angry and i would try always put up with it. I shouldnt have enough is enough, he gets mad sometimes over the smallest things, it unbelievable, its a hard thing ... (read in full...)

Is it just me, or is there something wrong with this relationship?

Q.   I don't know whats happened today but it has been awful. We were just meant to be buying decorations for the tree but somehow we ended up angry with each other again. When we got home he sat on the laptop while I was decorating the tree. The ba...

A.   13 December 2010: this is a toxic relationship, i was in it for five ears the same bullshit, i have clinical depression too, this man certainly does not care for you.. please do yourself a big favor and get out... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   13 December 2010: thank you lugerhaus you are right, I am hoping one day this will all be a distant memory i feel sick to my stomach, i just dont even want to roll out of bed... (read in full...)

I'm struggling to love him! Help!

Q.   hi i cud do with some advice ive been with my partner 15 yr have 3 gorgous boys hes a lovely guy 13 yr age gap never bothered us the problem is i love him cos hes the dad to my boys and that will never change the thing is im not in love with him any ...

A.   12 December 2010: well it seems that he is not really listening to you, your feelings are your GPS. USE THEM.. never live an unhappy life.... (read in full...)

Why am I feeling a bit cheated? Did I make a mistake marrying a person with such a heavy past? ?

Q.   I married a woman 10 years older than me who had been married for 20 years before me. We have a good loving marriage, but our sex life is very basic. She has a very heavy sexual history with lots of porn, sex toys etc that she claims was her ex ...

A.   12 December 2010: have you talked to her and raised your concerns? it sounds like there is no communication... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   12 December 2010: thank you guys so much what i mean by he leaves me is that there have been a couple of times where we would argue in the beggining and he would be like get outa the car, or get outa the house, and I would have to walk home or call someone to pick... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   11 December 2010: jonas i cannot THANK YOU enough, lately I dont see myself deep down inside growing old with him, because he doesnt even share the same passions as me, i love literature and poetry and he doesnt even like that. he is the one that ended it and now ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   11 December 2010: jonas thank you that brought me to tears, I cant thank you enough i need to wake up, its so easy to run into the arms of someone else to ease the pain but i know that wont be the soluion. My soul feels battered, i deperately want to FEEL really feel ... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   10 December 2010: thank you jonas! i hope that one day i can find someone that loves me for me, i feel very bruised and shatered and I hope it will heal one day. I am so self concious its sad but i hope someone can make me feel good... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't love me, he loves a changed me?

Q.   Helppp! I have been in a relationship for the last five years with a guys that is older than me i am 24 now and he is 29. Our relationship has been quite ROCKY and stormy, it has been me mostly going after him, and him being unsure of what he wanted ...

A.   10 December 2010: Thank you everyone, I have such a low confidence to this man, and I was always and still am afraid that no one will love me. I don’t know how to love myself. People say I am a beautiful girll but after five years of this it has been so hard. I have ... (read in full...)

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