How can you get from the point of almost not wanting your guy touching you straight to the point of wanting sex like crazy?
Q. Hi all! I am in a situation and hopefully you can help me by giving me another perspective cause I am a bit at a loss. Here it goes: I've been with my gf for two years, I love her to bits and have never felt so good with anyone. Up until a while ag...
A. 26 August 2022: I think she FINALLY feels secure in the relationship. I think she WANTED to make really sure that you were going to stick around BEFORE having sex.
I think she feels that having sex is a big deal (and for many it is) and she decided to wait unt... (read in full...)
Confused and want him to talk
Q. So I've been seeing this guy for almost 6 months. He announced at his bday party to his friends that I'm his gf. The next day we hung out with his friends and we all had a good time. He was snuggled up to me and gently caressing me. I said hey ...
A. 26 August 2022: If I were you I would send him 1 (ONE) text saying, I wish you all the best but this isn't working out for me. I don't seem to be a priority in your life nor do you seem to want to spend time or even talk to me about what is going on in your life.
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How do I convince GF pain I have during sex is no big deal?
Q. My girlfriend and I have gotten to the point where we are starting to be sexually active with each other. We are both very attracted to each other, but she made me wait for a while but that is okay because she is worth it. Our first two nights ...
A. 26 August 2022: Aww OP!
You are trying too hard here. I get that due to your genetic condition can easily dislocate joints (which sucks) you NEED to find positions that work for BOTH of you so you don't end up with swollen joints or constant pain.
I dislo... (read in full...)
Mamas boy
Q. How do you deal with a mammys boy? I’m at my wits end. My boyfriend lost his father last year, this was before I met him. He used to live with his ex he told me and things didn’t work out cause he said they were both too far away from family. ...
A. 23 August 2022: Oh, OP just run.
End this, there is NO change in sight.
He is living with his mom because it makes HIS life easier and his mom's life easier too. And to a point, there is nothing wrong in wanting to take care of a parent, but it almost seems ... (read in full...)
Husband cheats again
Q. Ok so i really need help and advice i dont know what to do i have been married for over 15yrs and i have 4 kids but the thing is i just found out last week that my husband just cheated on me for the third time in 8 yrs and i dont know what to do he ...
A. 23 August 2022: There isn't much advice I can give here.
You don't want the marriage to end, you say you love him and are fully dependent on him.
So there is only ONE choice really, and that is finding forgiveness through marriage/couples counseling or fa... (read in full...)
My 6 years younger boyfriend acts like a brat
Q. Hi my boyfriend is very entitled and acts like a brat! I'm 6 years older, and all he cares about is getting high and hanging with friends. We have been together 2 years and it's been mostly bad. He works part time. I work full time and have a ...
A. 20 August 2022: Why are you with him?
Change your locks, change your number, block, delete him on all apps and social media.
If he could "juju" you to hurt you why can't he juju some income or a good job for himself? He is full of crap.
Move on, OP
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I declined cake when I wanted to accept it
Q. In my workplace a girl did her birthday yesterday and offered me cake i decline when i want to say yes and our boss birthday is today i was offered cake again but i still decline even though i was expecting the cake i wanted to say yes but i blurted ...
A. 18 August 2022: It's OK to say, on second thought yes I would like a piece of cake.
Or if you feel that would hurt your pride, no cake for you.
This is trivial, OP
It's a piece of cake. A kind offer, no more, no less.... (read in full...)
Is he losing interest or just comfortable?
Q. Hi, Wondering if someone would be able to help me with something. I am not sure if my boyfriend is just comfortable or if he is losing interest. It is something that I have been concerned with recently. I moved in with them a few ...
A. 18 August 2022: Oh honey he is totally taking you for granted.
Is this the same guy who went fishing and made you dog sit?
If so, why haven't you left yet? Break up with him, Go home, stay with family until you can find a place of your own.... (read in full...)
Now I think I'm wasting my time
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly five month. I met him through work. He came across really nice and I didn’t see any thing that put me off him, in fact I thought I’d landed on my feet. As time has gone, I’m seeing the real him. He’s ...
A. 18 August 2022: You already know he isn't the right one for you. End it and move on.
The "nice and caring man" you saw, in the beginning, was maybe part of who he is but also it might just be an act to hook a partner because his "real" personality is so off-putt... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't like me?
Q. I am going out on a date with a guy for a month now, but on the dating app to other girl he was saying he is great in bed, he has a huge dick, he is very good in bed, experienced and was flirting with her left and right, and said that he wants to ...
A. 18 August 2022: I think he is trying to sound like he isn't a man-whore to you because you are inexperienced.
If you aren't looking for something sexual and probably very CASUAL - I would move on to someone else.
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What is he trying to tell?
Q. I am going out with this guy for a month now, but on the text message he asked me what I am doing and I told him am selecting an outfit because going out with my "friend". But then he texted back saying "wear something sexy haha". What is that ...
A. 18 August 2022: Kinda impossible to tell.
My guess (and that is all it is as I don't know him or you) is that he wanted you to say:" nah, this is a friend I don't dress sexy for friends that is for dates and serious partner only."
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My step children interfere with my baby time
Q. I’ve been with my partner now for 5 years, she has 2 children from her previous marriage a boy that’s 10 and a girl that’s nearly 13. We are all very close. My partner and I had a baby of our own last year and he’s now 16 months old, he’s my ...
A. 18 August 2022: That does sound frustrating but the silver lining i that his half-siblings love and adore him.
Could you not take him for a walk (him in a stroller) to a park or something just the two of you?
School is starting up too for the two older ones. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is furious I didn't put him first
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for four months. One of my best friends was getting married this weekend and her wedding has being planned for over two years. My boyfriend wasn’t invited to the wedding but to the night event. On the morning ...
A. 18 August 2022: Dude, my dude
BREAK up with that little MAN-child! Why are you apologizing?!!
OF course, your long time friend's wedding is MORE important than he is! And then he went a RUINED a wedding party because he is an immature idiot!
DUMP HIM d... (read in full...)
Wife says I am loud and she doesn't like my tone of voice
Q. Hi Aunts! My wife and I frequently get into arguments which begin with her telling me that she doesn't like the tone or volume of my voice. Sometimes she tells me to stop barking at her. Usually when this happens I am not raising my voice at ...
A. 18 August 2022: Why not just TRY and lower your volume?
I mean it seems like an easy fix, you just don't wanna because ... "insert reasons".
Being loud quite often translates to aggression or anger. that might not be your intention but that can still be how... (read in full...)
Is my best customer grooming me for something or just nice in a weird way?
Q. Hi everyone my name is Trevor and hope that is like anonymus enough. I am a 17 year old male (he him his). I will be a high school senior. I am not homophobic and don’t hate anybody but definitely straight in my own preferences. This is about a ...
A. 13 August 2022: "Any thoughts?"
My first advice is this - TRUST your instincts. You have them for a reason.
Secondly? Put on a shirt when/if he shows up. If that makes you a little warmer for that 20-45 minutes, SO be it. It is also a clear sign that you do... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is 46 years old and they keep in touch
Q. I’m dating this girl who’s previous relationship for one year was with a 46 year old (she’s 25). We are getting along great, should I be concerned that they still speak? He recently came to her town and booked hotel for 6 days. She declined the...
A. 12 August 2022: So not only did she have an affair with a married man, she still keep this man in her life?
I get that she is still young and still figuring out things. While legally a person is an "adult" at 18, most people are NOT actual adults until their mi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's ex is 46 years old and they keep in touch
Q. I’m dating this girl who’s previous relationship for one year was with a 46 year old (she’s 25). We are getting along great, should I be concerned that they still speak? He recently came to her town and booked hotel for 6 days. She declined the...
A. 11 August 2022: What are you doing with this much younger lady yourself?
Seems like she has a type. Older and with money?
She keeps him around for a reason. What that reason is, I can not tell you.
You knew her when she was dating HIM but she wouldn't mee... (read in full...)
I'm Going To Attempt To Get My First Kiss Tomorrow. I Am A Bit Nervous Though. What Can I Do?
Q. So tomorrow I am going to attempt to get my first kiss ever with my girlfriend. I haven't kissed anyone and I am nervous to kiss her. We will be at a club with young people with special needs (like a youth club) and we're going to do Crazy Golf and ...
A. 10 August 2022: Maybe, you ought to consider ASKING her if she would like to be kissed.
Then go from there.... (read in full...)
Should I stay a member of the nippy nap club?
Q. I am a college freshman and I moved into my dormitory early to attend a special program related to my major before regular classes start. My dorm is a building with both girls and guys even on the same floor (but not the same rooms). At this point ...
A. 10 August 2022: Sounds like some weird controlling "guys" kind of power trip. How far can they push a guy? What can they control?
"if feels like it is something a dude would dream up."
No, it feels VERY much like something girls would dream up. Guys would d... (read in full...)
Wife wants to nude sunbathe in front of family
Q. advise - my brother and his wife moved in with my wife and i. my wife likes to sunbathe nude and wants to continue with them here....
A. 10 August 2022: That would be a No from me.
Now I get not liking tan lines or whatnot, but unless she is a swimsuit model or something like that (where people can SEE "ugly" tan lines) I don't see the necessity to sunbathe in the nude.
What is HER reasoning fo... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing ending it?
Q. Update on this post: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/have-i-romanticized-him-too-much.html I have cut off this guy completely as I took the red flags seriously, but not only that, he actually exposed himself without even realizing that. The...
A. 9 August 2022: I think you realized that it was all a fantasy and YOU got caught up in it.
Adding the odd question about pornography and "it's just acting" made it easier for you to walk away.
There is nothing wrong with realizing this is NOT what I want from... (read in full...)
How do I get her love back
Q. I have my girlfriend that hate me and i got hurt but i still love her.when i call her she abuses me and don't want to pick my calls but me i still love her what should i do to get in love with her back....
A. 8 August 2022: Break up with her, wish her well and block her number and leave her alone.
If she doesn't love you back then this is not a good relationship for EITHER of you.
You can't MAKE her love you.
And YOU might call her your GF but I don't think she... (read in full...)
Boyfriend asking me to pay half his mortgage but not on paperwork Title (e.g. My husband is addicted
Q. Hope I can get a little help with something. I moved in with my boyfriend recently and I pay money into the house to pay half of the bills and such which I am totally fine with. Due to me moving in, he lost his single-person council tax di...
A. 8 August 2022: OP,
You are not OWED to be on the house deed the moment you move in. You are not paying 1/2 the mortgage you are paying him RENT. The rent money COVERS half of HIS mortgage. This is not your home. The LOAN for the mortgage is in HIS name. NOT your... (read in full...)
What's his deal anyway?
Q. Three times I went out with a guy who I met through dating app, on the first date he said he deleted his account on dating app, but he has not and he has been seeing other girls. But he constantly keeps asking my whereabouts and what I've been doing ...
A. 7 August 2022: Sounds like he is making a lot of presumptions about you and women in general.
YOU do not OWE a guy you are going on dates with an itinerary of your whereabouts on demand. EVER. If you are seriously dating, you don't either, nor if you are marr... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I ask him to prove he's broke
Q. I married someone from another country 3 years ago. Unfortunately, they won't even allow him to come to my country on a visiting visa. So, I go visit him in his country. I have offered to move to his country, but he feels I'm not safe there p...
A. 5 August 2022: Sounds like a marriage scam OP
Why in the World are you PAYING a man who CAN NOT EVER take care of you or provide for YOU and any family you could have?
You feel used because you ARE being used.
Just get a divorce and find someone closer ... (read in full...)
Travelling man
Q. This may seem like a strange question but my partner’s mom lives in a retirement community in Florida. He has gone down to visit in the past for 1 to 2 months. I’ve gone with him for 2 weeks max but I’m not able to stay as long because my ex and I ...
A. 5 August 2022: I can see both sides here.
But, I think he is being unfair and stringing you along while waiting on his mother to pass away.
While she is alive he only visits Florida, once she is passed he is staying there 50/50 which would also mean he wou... (read in full...)
Partner does not listen or help during medical emergencies
Q. I am 65 and my guy is 68. In many ways he is very sensible, calm, wise, reliable and everything I could wish for. But I have an illness and sometimes it is necessary to ring for an ambulance urgently because I struggle to breath at those times. He ...
A. 5 August 2022: Can you get a medical alert necklace or bracelet?
One where you can have a button to call in case of emergencies, the ambulance will show up without a lengthy call. ... (read in full...)
Partner does not listen or help during medical emergencies
Q. I am 65 and my guy is 68. In many ways he is very sensible, calm, wise, reliable and everything I could wish for. But I have an illness and sometimes it is necessary to ring for an ambulance urgently because I struggle to breath at those times. He ...
A. 4 August 2022: Write down what you want him to say when calling an ambulance.
Have it near your phone.
You already know that your "guy" is useless and doesn't think for himself, we can't magically fix him from here.
Work with what you got. Maybe have a dr... (read in full...)
I wrong for taking this promotion instead of putting my niece and nephew first?
Q. During the past few years, I have helped my brother and sister-in-law with their kids (my nieces and nephew). My work schedule allowed it. I would often drop them off at school, pick them up from school, take them to practice (baseball practice and ...
A. 4 August 2022: "Am I wrong for taking this promotion instead of putting my niece and nephew first?"
Absolutely not!
It's THEIR kids. Their problem to solve.
You did an AMAZING thing to help out as much as you did and your brother and SIL should be gratef... (read in full...)
Is this a taking of advantage possible situation
Q. While there is a real-life situation behind this question obviously, I would like to ask this more as a theoretical question. Openly gay single dude asks genuinely straight single dude if he would like to experiment sexually and offers no strings ...
A. 4 August 2022: This will not work out as well as your imagination conjures up.
You DO know what a straight dude is? Right?
It's a MAN who wants FEMALE sexual experiences.
That doesn't mean that a straight dude can't ever have a sexual experience with a... (read in full...)
Emotional affair has me wondering if I should walk
Q. Hi all, I have posted sometime ago concerning being married and talking to a new guy. I decided that love is a choice and I needed to forgive my husband and work on our marriage. However, when I look at my husband, I feel like I am falling out o...
A. 2 August 2022: See OP,
People give advice on the POST they read, we DO NOT know all the ins and outs of your marriage. We can not read your mind and we DO not have a crystal ball.
YOU left out a MAJOR (or actually many MAJOR) parts, such as your husband's s... (read in full...)
Just a rant
Q. I just want to rant here. I get pissed off when I see post about feminist or whatever a man can do a woman can do better.I feel for men who are abused and feel for women who are abused too but majority of the women feel empathy more to the women.I ...
A. 1 August 2022: You are falling into the same "trap" as the people who piss you off online :)
You can't change other people.
You can't make dumb people smart. Mean people caring. Ignorant people better people, etc. THAT is reality, OP
What you CAN do is AC... (read in full...)
Do I give office intern crushing on me a chance?
Q. I am trying to decide if I should give a chance (dating or sex, or both) to the male intern in our office who has an open crush on me, who I initially turned down when he so nervously but bravely asked me out, but who keeps proving himself such a ...
A. 1 August 2022: If you do want to try to "join Team Noah" I'd say KEEP it out of the workplace but also ASK yourself - WHAT if this doesn't work out. How awkward will it be? For both of you? For your coworkers?
18 is young. While legally an adult, he is still a ... (read in full...)
Do I give office intern crushing on me a chance?
Q. I am trying to decide if I should give a chance (dating or sex, or both) to the male intern in our office who has an open crush on me, who I initially turned down when he so nervously but bravely asked me out, but who keeps proving himself such a ...
A. 1 August 2022: test
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Is he emotionally unavailable?
Q. My ex husband has been threatening me very badly for a few days now and last night he said he was gonna come over. I didn't wanna stay at home and my BFF told me to come sleep over at his place. My BFF and I are very close and we do a lot of silly ...
A. 1 August 2022: Sex wasn't an "accident" it was a choice. A choice you BOTH made.
You are single, He is single - correct?
If so, then it's up to the two of you to figure out what you want and where to go. The only problem is, that you can't really go back t... (read in full...)
Is he emotionally unavailable?
Q. My ex husband has been threatening me very badly for a few days now and last night he said he was gonna come over. I didn't wanna stay at home and my BFF told me to come sleep over at his place. My BFF and I are very close and we do a lot of silly ...
A. 1 August 2022: test... (read in full...)
What time should 13 year old go to bed?
Q. Hi I live in the uk .. my stepson lives with me and his dad .. my son has just turned 13yrs old .. I just struggle to know what time bed time should be on a school night at the moment he goes at 9pm as he is a early riser say 530am/6am. And does a ...
A. 1 August 2022: I think 9 PM is fine. 10 PM for the weekends.
But if this is your stepson, TALK to your husband. He and his ex need to be the ones to make those rules.
Watching TV for 10 hours a day I'd say is WAY too much. Sounds like he needs some chore... (read in full...)
How undateable am I?
Q. A visited me at my mom's house this last weekend. I've lived at home for the last 10 years since graduating college. I work a full-time job, pay bills and repair things around the house where needed, and pay off student loan debt. I make about 35k a ...
A. 1 August 2022: Are you undatable?
I can't say.
I will tell you this though. FEW women want to date a man who lives with his mom. Usually, men who DO live with their mom have an unhealthy attachment to said, mom.
Now if you came from a culture where it'... (read in full...)
How undateable am I?
Q. A visited me at my mom's house this last weekend. I've lived at home for the last 10 years since graduating college. I work a full-time job, pay bills and repair things around the house where needed, and pay off student loan debt. I make about 35k a ...
A. 1 August 2022: test... (read in full...)
Have I romanticized him too much?
Q. Hello, I've been talking to this man from Greece for a year now. We've met online and we both like each other and planning to see each other in Christmas since he's coming to the US to see me. This man is sweet, kind and respectful, sometimes too ...
A. 1 August 2022:
I love the generalization of "European men"! As a European woman, I find that European men are far more open and honest about what they are looking for and what they are willing to invest. They can talk about feelings and are great listeners. But ... (read in full...)
Have I romanticized him too much?
Q. Hello, I've been talking to this man from Greece for a year now. We've met online and we both like each other and planning to see each other in Christmas since he's coming to the US to see me. This man is sweet, kind and respectful, sometimes too ...
A. 1 August 2022: test
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Emotional affair has me wondering if I should walk
Q. Hi all, I have posted sometime ago concerning being married and talking to a new guy. I decided that love is a choice and I needed to forgive my husband and work on our marriage. However, when I look at my husband, I feel like I am falling out o...
A. 30 July 2022: "The thing is, it should've come naturally. Idk if my husband is being genuine or just manipulative to keep me."
No, it really doesn't just come "natural" to everyone.
Some people feel that the COMMITMENT shows that your husband wants to... (read in full...)
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