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Archived questions from: October, 2009 (see latest in Three is a crowd category)

Three is a crowd: Help and advice

Should I accept my boyfriend's continued friendship with his ex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 23 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - Hi, My boyfriend is currently friends with his ex. However, they were NOT friends when we started dating. They dated for 2 or so years, and that was a couple years ago. But when our relationship really started to advance, a few months in, she ...

My girlfriend kissed her bi-sexual friend in front of me, is this OK?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

31 October 2009 (M) - My girlfriend kissed her bi-sexual friend tonight at our house party. her friend is really ugly and makes my skin crawl. I saw them snogging and it was longer then 5 seconds and involved eyes clossed and tounges full on. it totaly ruined my night ...

Is there anyway I can get her to like me more than him... or am I out of luck?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 13 days ago

31 October 2009 (F) - I'm 14, female, and bi. I like a girl who is around my age, female, and recently came out to me telling me she was bi also. Yesterday she found out a guy in one of our classes likes her, and she likes him back. (She didn't tell me that I guessed) I ...

Will he leave his ex alone for good if we get back together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 25 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - Ive been seeing this guy who lives an hour and a half away from me. We really conected and Ive been seeing him for about 5 months at this point. He told me he had an ex that he has a 2 year old daughter with and they were no longer together. But one ...

Should I go through with it or keep him as a friend and nothing more?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

30 October 2009 (F) - i was a teachers assistant my whole senior year for this art teacher and he was young looking i always tought he was cute since my sophmore year so i became his t.a because he insisted me to be his t.a. so we would spend allot of time together ...

Who do I chose? He divorced his wife to make me his.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 25 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - please help..to make this story short here it goes..i had a relationship with a married man...we parted went our seperate ways painfully he broke it off...he said that i deserved better and that if he got divorced he would come back to me because he ...

Return of my first love...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. I love him to bits but my first love is now back in my life and I'm falling in love with him all over again and we have started sleeping together. My head is so missed up I don't know what to do. I need ...

I feel like I have been "cheated" on, even though we aren't really a couple anyway. Help me out?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

29 October 2009 (M) - I am 19 years old, and I have never had a girlfriend before. But during this past summer, I met this girl at my work who was amazing. I was very shy at first when talking to her, but as I started talking to her I could see we were making a ...

Should I have a threesome to not lose him?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 24 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - My live in boyfriend and I have been together almost a year now. We have a house and have been living together for about 3 months. When we first started dating, the "have you ever?" conversation came up and he asked me about my past experience with ...

How do I let the other man go without hurting his feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

29 October 2009 (F) - i am / was in a relationship with a great guy. but had another on the side. i love my man and see my self even married to this man but i don't know how to let the other one go. l have feelings for the other one but i don't see a futre with that ...

Don't know which guy to choose. HELP!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 26 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - When I was around 13 years old, I got together with my first real boyfriend "A". We dated on and off for over 2 years. He was my first love. Then I moved. But guy "A" got back in touch with me. We had a long distance relationship for about a year. ...

Is it possible to fulfill his fantasy but keep him out of it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid. I have been in a relationship with a wounderful man, I love him very much. We should have met years ago! He is very much into women. matter of fact he makes comments often. i say he is infatuated. That is ok to a point, sure I te...

Am I just bored and single or do I like him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - HELP! ok theres this guy i think i like im not sure if i like him because im bored and single right now... but i knew him for a veryy long time and i was attracted to him when we were younger but the feelings disappeared recently the feelings came ...

The Love Triangle

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - I have two best friends that are not necessarily friends with each other. One of the girls was my aquaintance for the past 4 years and has now become very close with me. I go to her for advice and she comes to me with her problems. We can count on ...

Am I right to be bothered by this?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

28 October 2009 (M) - I would like advice on what must be a very common issue. My gf text me to say she was just finshing at work and that we would meet back at home. I went back from my work and arrived after about half hour. My gf came back 3 and half hours later. I ...

Am I a whore, or am I just confused?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 26 days ago

28 October 2009 (F) - i have a bf, and ive cheated on him 2wice. he doesnt know about it. but both times, it wasnt just sex. with the first guy we had had feelings for each other for years and when i was visiting home him and i ended up sleeping together and having this ...

Am I being unreasonable to want my husband to stop phoning and taking out a "friend" as he calls her.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 27 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - Am I being unreasonable to want my husband to stop phoning and taking out a "friend" as he calls her? This 'friend' has been in my husband's life for a long time now abuot 4 years, we used to go to a certain pub each week and he would always b...

Is there anything I can do to win her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 26 days ago

27 October 2009 (M) - Three months ago I took a trip to my hometown of Palm Springs California. I moved away four years ago and I had to leave in my senior year in high-school and moved to Bakersfield California finishing my senior year at Liberty High School. Back when ...

How do I break up with my "back-up" boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - I wanted to break up with him because there was so much I didn't know about him - we met on the internet and you know, people don't really like posting personal information about themselves. So yeah, I got prepared and got a "back-up" boyfriend just ...

Did he cheat with his child's mother?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - sorry to write such a long story. i believe my bf cheated on me with the baby momma on saturday, i phoned him late that nyt the lady picks up and said my bf was asleep and cant speak to him, i hang up.. he called me the following day to say that ...

Should I tell my boyfriend that I am attracted to another guy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

27 October 2009 (F) - i have been dating the same guy for almost a year now. i can say i truly love him and i have never met anyone like him. he cares about me and i care about him too. i love him with all my heart, but lately i met this guy i am attracted to, i cant ...

In love with two boys....what should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 29 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I'm in love with two boys. One boy, ('Cody') I dated for about 9 months. We had the most wonderful relationship, and I cannot remember a time when we fought about anything besides who loved who more. Towards the end of our relationship I started ...

Can this just be an innocent friendship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - I have been dating a man for about nine months. We met when I was going through a divorce. When we initially started dating, he was seeing someone he had dated in the past. During this time, he went to visit this person, and he told me that he ...

She wants to leave him. Is there a chance for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - Ok recently, she messaged me around 3am, sayin I have put some magic spell on her and made her attracted to me haha. But she wants to keep a distance and she's worried what if we never get together because she's still with her bf but he just wont ...

They're on a break, I'm really taken by her, but I'm worried he'll say "no more other people"!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

26 October 2009 (M) - I am a 29 tear old male, who's been pretty damaged by love. yet, somehow remain consistently open to the prospect. i work 3rd shift 6 nights a week which makes meeting women difficult on top of that most realize off the bat that ill almost never be ...

I went off sex so allowed my sister to have sex with my husband, but now I don't see why they should continue this arrangement!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

26 October 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I gave birth about a year ago. For the first few months after, I was not up for sex at all (although I did allow him to perform oral sex on me). My husband was very patient with me, but I could tell he was stressed by this. I didn...

Girlfriend's past: threesomes and drugs!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - Hi my names Sean and i've got a problem. My girl friends 26 and I'm 24. She's slept with around 30/40 guys a similar number to me. I'm not bothered by that, but recently we were talking about past experiences and she told me she's been involved in 2 ...

My ex is all depressed because I'm back with my b/f

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 30 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - I recently started going back out with my boyfriend (we broke up a while ago. Lets call him X). And he's best friends with an ex of mine (let's call him Y) And he and I have become really close friends again this school year. About two mont...

I'm in kind of a mess...can I be in love with 2 guys?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 29 days ago

25 October 2009 (F) - I'm kind of in a mess right now... It all started 2 years ago when I came to this school I'm in right now... I fell in live with a boy in my class, we spoke a lot and sort of became friends. He went to Portugal to study there for a while and I never ...

I have feelings for my best friend's girl!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 30 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - I have this best friend who i have known for quite a long time actually we're so close that it is like we're siblings,at first i thought that i just treated her as my friend and nothing more but now she has problems with her boyfriend who also ...

Differences

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 30 days ago

25 October 2009 (M) - Heres my problem, my girlfriend and I have been dating for many many years. We get along great, hardly ever fight. We share similiar values, religious, and political views. The commonalities end there. We don't like to do anything the other person ...

Will he consider me again if things don't work out with his wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 31 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - Hello. I dated a man 3 years ago. We dated for right at 2 years. We went through the whole break-up, get together thing for about the last 4 months. I met him at a football game. I went down and got his number, we talked on the phone every single ...

I don't want his ex wife to be involved with him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 31 days ago

24 October 2009 (F) - I am in love with this guy who also says that he loves me and I know he does through his actions and all however, he was married about 2 years ago and has a baby from his ex wife. The thing is that she is always around; calling him, coming to his ...

Should I end my marriage or stay in it for my son ??

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 31 days ago

24 October 2009 (M) - 37 years old, successful doctor, married for 8 years and have only one child .. he is 6. I am in love with another woman for sometime now .... she doesn't want the role of being mistress ... she want a full relationship and to divorce my wife if I ...

Why would my ex tell me she is not happy with her new guy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 32 days ago

24 October 2009 (M) - my ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend but i think she is not happy in the new relationship. because when i was talking to her on msn she said her boyfriend called me a rude name. so i knew her boyfriend doesnt like me for some reason and my ex said ...

I am married but I am thinking about this other guy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 28 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I am married and i like a guy who is also married whenever i am around him he always acts like he is flirting with me. so how can i tell for sure if he is flirting with me and if he really likes me or not and what should i do, i think about him ...

My girlfriend is awesome, but I can't love her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 31 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - ok so ive been with my girlfriend now for 9months and i like her quite alot. she says she loves me so much and i can really tell she does but i cant love her as much as i want to cos i am still in love with my ex girlfriend thats not the problem ...

Dating a separated guy, who's wife wants him back...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 21 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I have been in a very loving relationship with a separated guy for just about 2 years. He was only living on his own for about a month, when he and I met. He and his wife were kind of separated for many years (not sleeping in the same bedroom) prior ...

Do you think they are into polygamy with me as a potential second?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 32 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - A little over a month ago I started working at a new job. I was familiar with 2 - 3 of the managers because I had friends who worked at the same place, but I didn't know them by name and wasn't friends with them. When I started working one of the m...

How do I let him know how I feel?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 12 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I have been attracted to this guy who takes my sons football class , I am married and in the process of separating , when i am around this guy I feel awkward and feel my heart pounding , I can never really look at him as Im scared the eye contact ...

Dating one, but in love with his friend

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 33 days ago

23 October 2009 (F) - I'm also in love with my best friend...but I'm dating another person. My friends have tried to help. Lets call him BFF is dating Lisa and I'm dating my bf. BFF and I have so much in common and we get into tickle fights every day we see eachother, ...

How do I tell my dad he is ruining my love life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 32 days ago

23 October 2009 (M) - I need some advice. I currently live with my fiancé and everything is great. My family lives in a town close by about 45 minutes away. My dad got a job in the town we live in so he doesn't like the commute. He asked if he could stay at our place if ...

Did I make the right move by backing off?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 33 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - so i meet this guy six months ago, we had a lot of fun together, no fights at all. His old girlfriends parents see us out together, so she begins to call him! so im sure now he has mixed feelings. They dated on and off for years, one sided from him, ...

She webcams and texts other men...so why do I love her, irregardless?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 32 days ago

22 October 2009 (M) - Ok,I met this girl a year ago.We got on great and quickly fell in love.A couple of months later,I found out she was alot younger than she had told me and that she had lied about what she worked as and lied that she still lived with her parents.When ...

Am I being selfish for doing what I am doing and hoping she gets caught?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 32 days ago

22 October 2009 (M) - I still need Advice. Back in December of 2008 I reconnected with my high school sweetheart. We have not had contact since 1993. I was browsing around on Facebook and found her. I thought that it would be nice to catch up on old times with her. ...

I like my sister in law in a sexual way! Please help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted yesterday

22 October 2009 (M) - this is about my sister in law. we are quite friendly. we used to talk many things and are free to talk anything. first place i love her as my sister and i have respect for her. she is elder to my wife and me. many times i saw that she kind of expos...

My best friend has a history of cheating and is now attracted to me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 33 days ago

22 October 2009 (F) - One of my best male friends is currently in a long-distance relationship, and has been for about two months now. He has a history of infidelity but he insists that this time around, he has changed for good and will remain faithful. I tend to ...

How do I break it to my boyfriend that I'm in love with my best friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 34 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - How do I break it to my boyfriend that I am in love with my best (guy) friend? Background info: I met my boyfriend and best friend around the same time (2005-2006ish). I met my boyfriend on vacation in another country. I have family who live ...

Is my boyfriend cheating or am I being selfish?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 34 days ago

21 October 2009 (F) - Please help me, I'm having a bit of a problem with my boyfriend and this girl he has been texting, it started a couple of months ago when he started talking to a girl that he has known for a while but I don't know at all. He told me once he had a cr...

Dating 1 girl but still love another

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 33 days ago

21 October 2009 (M) - Please Help Me :( Okay, Im dating this girl but i still have strong feelings for my ex which happens to be my best friend (yes, i have a best friend that is a girl. who doesnt?) I got expelled from my school so i dont get see them that much. ...