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age
18-21,
anonymous
writes:Dear Agony Aunts, I'm planning on a having a threesome with two men this weekend. I'm really nervous and I don't know what to expect. What should I expect when I have this kind of threesome?
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reader, heartfullalove  + ♥, writes (23 October 2009):
 Pretty sore inner thighs afterwards and probably a good deal of internal soul-searching.
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reader, Southboy  +, writes (22 October 2009):
relax it can be great and I think it can become addicting it's alive style
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reader, satindesire  +, writes (20 October 2009):
 Make sure that you all three have tested clean for STDs very recently. Use condoms and dental dams to protect yourselves just in case. LOOK AT THE STD REPORTS. Check the dates. Make sure you all have come back negative for HIV/AIDs.
Set boundaries early. Make sure you all discuss exactly what you like/want/need in order to be comfortable and sexually satisfied. Talk about what you DON'T want to do. If you don't like swallowing semen, say so. If you don't want anal, speak up. They can't read your mind and you can't read theirs!
DO NOT GET DRUNK or do -any- kind of mind altering substances. If you do, you could end up doing something you will likely regret, either going too far, doing something that could get your hurt, or getting pregnant/catching an STD because you got too messed up to use protection.
Make sure you are up to date on your hormonal birth control. Whatever you are using, DO NOT forget to take it that day, and a few days before if you're on the pill. Make sure you're up to date if you're on the ring, patch or shot.
If something happens during the actual event that makes you uncomfortable, SPEAK UP. You three are there to have fun, NOT to be awkward and passive-aggressive. Encourage the guys to vocalize their wants or discomforts. This should be a pleasurable and memorable time, not one you three will regret in the future.
Above all, STOP IF YOU WANT TO. Just because you said you would in the past, does NOT mean that you HAVE TO. If you change your mind, you have a right to. You're a human being. Also, if one or both of the guys change their mind, let them go. Do not force them to do anything they don't want to do.
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reader, Accountable  + ♥, writes (20 October 2009):
Do not put yourself in this situation until you are completely certain that you know and are happy to experience what you are getting yourself into. It is more than likely that there will be no consideration for your needs and these two guys will just be using you as a glorified sex toy - sounds vulgar but its true. Do you know these two men well?
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reader, GrimmReality + ♥, writes (20 October 2009):
 You better make sure that you are comfortable with both men. And that they are comfortable with each other as well as with you.
Sadly things like this tend to spill over(no pun intended) into a macho match between two guys. And if you are currently dating one of them, be sure it is is what both of you want.
Many times in a three way one of the partners will pleasure somebody more and may push the third party away for a moment. And that tends to breed instant jealousy. So think real hard about this so it is not something you are going to later regret.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (20 October 2009):
 A larger than usual wet spot.
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reader, CaringGuy + ♥, writes (20 October 2009):
Sweetie, do you really want to do this? A threesome with two men is going to be like two animals just using you. You may not feel all that great about yourself after it either, so I really would think about it.
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