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Archived questions from: February, 2009 (see latest in Three is a crowd category)

Three is a crowd: Help and advice

My "text" affair has gone wrong and I fell for him, any advice?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - I am a happily married woman who has been having a text 'affair' with an older fella who I met through work although we don't work together. He is in a position of high standing and he has made me feel good and given me confidence. I feel he started ...

Myex made me think his feelings for me were rekindled but he likes someone else, how do I get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 267 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - Hi, well this may be long so bear with me please. well basically me and my boyfriend split up last year around october time and it was the worst point in my life as he was my everything, and well he broke up with me over txt!, after kissing me whils...

I have feelings for my ex but also for another girl, who do I choose?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 267 days ago

28 February 2009 (M) - there is this girl that i like and she likes me back and now we are getting really close to each other, now the thing is i just have broken up with my girl for about a month and a half now, well now she is coming back to me and even said that she ...

Really like my long distance fella, but falling for his closeted sister!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 257 days ago

28 February 2009 (F) - k so I am in the most incredible relationship with this guy and things are fabulous. We have a bit of distance between us so we see eachother whenever we can. All is great. He has a sister (17) (fyi I'm 19-20 and he is 21-22) n e ways, His sister is ...

Knowing how serious they were...I'm not sure I can be with him anymore!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 268 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - My partner cheated on me in 2007 but we got back together after 6 months, 4 of those months he was with the woman he cheated on me with. When we got back together he said that she'd meant nothing to him, that she just showed him some attentio...

How can I erase him from my head when she keeps talking about him??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 268 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - I cant get this out of my head and i know i should. I used to go out with this guy dave. when we started talkin, i found out he just got out of a on and off 3 month relationship. I didnt really care since he was single, because whats the harm in ...

Wondering if the guy I'm seeing is also seeing hookers...

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Wondering if the guy I'm seeing is also seeing hookers.. I found dozens and dozens of emails in his account going back and forth with hookers on Craigslist.He travels a lot, and most of the cities he was in, he seemed to correspond with the hookers ...

I have a b/f but I miss the thrill of the chase that I could have with this new guy, any thoughts?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Im happily in love with my boyfriend, and though we have our ups and downs, its great, only thing is, theres this guy.. and i dont like him, but he speaks to me on msn and lately hes been telling me he likes me .. he gave me his mobile number and im ...

My husband said it's "just texting" and I have nothing to worry about! What do you reckon?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 267 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - So, found text on my husband's phone of naked girl and dirty talk. She is my sister in law's best friend.. Lives 2,000 Miles away, so a lot of talking on phone and dirty pics. I set him up with a facebook account and this is were they connected. ...

I have strong feelings for my friend who does not love her husband, should I confess how I feel?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

27 February 2009 (M) - I am very much in love with a woman who is also one of my best friends, she is also married. Her marriage isn't a good one, and she has talked to me a lot about being afraid to leave her husband because of being alone, because of her kids, and other ...

An unmarried woman calls my husband very often, I'm not sure how far can I trust my hubby in this case?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

27 February 2009 (F) - Hi My husband and I got married one year back and ours was a love marriage. My husband is generally of humorous type and mingles well with everybody at work. But recently, an unmarried woman calls him very often and he also talked to her ...

Should I fight for my love for him or just go our separate ways??

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

26 February 2009 (F) - hi, i have been with my boyfriend for over 2 years... and i just found that there has been another woman in his life for at least 4 months.... what should i do??? should i fight for my love for him or just go our separate ways??...

He has a GF but is really nice to me and I'm afraid she's gonna get mad!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 269 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - i like this guy who's my senior but he already has a gf. Of course, i hope they'd have a good relationship but there's something that's been bugging me. For one, his gf keeps glaring at me in the corridor and he's been subtly being really nice for ...

I'm in love with an older friend of the family, and seeing someone else.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 268 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - I know this sounds crazy but it is a problem I am dealing with. I have been in love with someone for several years now that is a friend of the family. He is older than me and it is a secret affair. I feel that I am very much in love with him and my ...

I'm scared to death to let him go...

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 265 days ago

25 February 2009 (F) - Hey girls. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over three years and everything has been great up until... the end of november 08. He got to know this girl Katie* who I have known since childhood. adn they hit it off and had a little bit of ...

Wife wants my consent to follow sexual lust for another man...

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 268 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - My wife wants to sleep with another man and wants my consent. I have always been faithful to my wife, but we have on a few occasions fallen out rather dramatically over suspected cheating on my part. It's always been the case that she found out he...

He's older and knows I have a boyfriend, how can I show him I'm not interested?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 271 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - I really need help with this, please take this seriously. Background: I have taken on a new job, as the guy who was doing it has decided he needs to cut back on it (it's a part time thing, and he has a proper full time job as well), but basic...

Should I ask my wife to repeat last year's fun?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 271 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - my wife tried another guy for her birthday last year as a one off. we both found it a great turn on at the time and have since. she hasn't asked yet about this year but i would like her to. do you think i should ask or wait untill she brings it up...

Please someone tell me am I going bonkers and reading far too much into this or is she really sniffing round him cos she fancies him...?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 271 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - I don't know where to begin! I had been with my partner for 12 years. We fell out and were both too stubborn to make up. We sold out house and went our seperate ways. Before this I tried to reconcile but he didnt want to know. He had started going ...

I have a boyfriend but this guy is absolutely gorgeous, I want to steal his heart and keep it! Any advice?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 254 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Ok well I have a boyfriend and I like him slot but there's this guy at church that I desperatly want. He's the pastors son and he's absolutly gorgeous! But I've never talked to him but we always look at each other but word around is he has a ...

In love with a married woman

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 272 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - Ok, I'm a woman who has secretly loved another woman for over 2 years, but I've never told her, as she's one of my closest friends and I wouldn't want to lose her. Not to mention the fact that she's likely straight, since she has a husband. But ...

Should I try to make it right with us?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 271 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - ive been dating this straight women for about 4 months the problems is that she has a b/f. i really love her and in many ways she shows me that she loves me but recently we broke it off because we didnt get along anymore due to the fact of age ...

Caught between 2 people

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

24 February 2009 (F) - I moved to a new town just over a year ago. When I first got there I met someone and we became friends. After a couple of months, we started dating and I fell in love. The only problem was that I wasn't fair to this person. Before I left home, I m...

He still has the woman who was once his wife still living with him!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

24 February 2009 (M) - Okay! SO the last time I needed advice, it was about my boyfriend and how I thought he was cheating on me. Well now that I've moved on from that, I've been feeling a little better. A few days ago I came across somebody else, but he's a pastor. We ...

My man has a history of cheating on me and dating teenage girls. Now another one says he's with her, but he denies it. Am I wasting my time on a man that'll never change?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I would like to make it clear that i love my man 101% before i go any further! I'm not sure how to put this but I've been with my man about a year and a half and all is good but in the early day's he did cheat on me with someone but...

Am I being foolish by letting this upset me? Why the secrecy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - About 2 years ago my live in boyfriend told me a girl he had gone to school with (20 years ago) had contacted him. When I asked a few months later how she was, he said he hadn't talked with her for some time. I recently found out he has a secret ...

I can't handle all the time she spends with her friend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (M) - ive been married for 20 years. i love my wife completely. but i feel so cheated on. 3 years ago she got a best friend thats male. they work togher. every friday they spend time togher they talk every day sometimes for hours. he is married. i cant ...

How do I get back with my ex who lives in another country, I am willing to move there?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - This is a question for all the men out here. Let's say you love a girl very much but thing did not work because of the distance but you both love each other very much. If your long distance ex girlfriend was trying to get you back but you were in a ...

Do I have any legal rights after living with him for 7 years?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I had posted yesterday, I am the woman who is involved with the married but separated man. I appreciate your responses. I have this question and it is really urkin me for some reason. Even though I have invested almost 8 yrs with this man and lived ...

Did he only come back to me because the other woman didn't want him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 270 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I got married in 1981, 7 years later I had an affair, cause my husband was always leaving me in the house with 2 kids and I thought he was, he found out then 6 months later he left me for another women he worked with. She ran a pub he moved in with ...

Is this a no win situation?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - Hi yet again! If you've been following my story you might remember my husband who was for several months flirty texting a work colleague 20 years younger and saying they loved each other etc. although a text I luckily saw from her confirms it was n...

Should I leave my married lover after 8 years?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 271 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - Ok, here goes! I met a man 8+ years ago (when I was ending a bad marriage of 8 years) who told me his wife was "sick" and not able to be with him. After a while I gave in and we started a relationship, working together at a few places over the ...

Should I confront my friend and tell him to stop hitting on my girlfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I have a question. One of my best friends liked my girlfriend before we started dating. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 4 months and I have to travel a lot for my job. While I was gone on one of my trips, my friend hit on my girlfriend. My ...

Getting married with my b/f soon but falling in love with a female friend! I'm so confused!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 272 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - i am a straight woman (have dated 8 men in my life) and currently in a happy relationship with my boyfriend of 18 months...we're getting married in oct! a month ago, i went to a pub with some friends and one of my girl friend's friend (call her...

Caught between two people.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 273 days ago

23 February 2009 (F) - I moved to a new town just over a year ago. When I first got there I met someone and we became friends. After a couple of months, we started dating and I fell in love. The only problem was that I wasn't fair to this person. Before I left ho...

In love with someone I cannot have

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (M) - what is there to do when you love someone like you've never loved anyone before and that person does not correspond you and is with someone else and you feel like you got no chance and you've done all you can?...

Husband emotionally cheated a year ago. Now I feel very unattractive and suspect the affair was sexual.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 254 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - I have been married for 22 years my husband had an emotional affair with my friend and i have a feeling it was sexual but they both denie this how can i stop feeling like i do I feel like he destroyed what we had and i thought it was something ...

I feel really guilty, should I tell her?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (M) - A few weeks ago, a girl I liked a lot, kept asking me to buy her flowers. I was still under her influence because I liked her a lot. There was a new girl I liked, but at the time nothing had happened. Even though this other girl had a boyfriend she ...

I like 2 guys and don't know who to pick, it's messing with my head!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - How do I begin? I guess I should tell you my problem. Well, at the moment, there are two guys I like. I know that both of them like me somewhat, because another of my guy friends told me so... But ever since my mates quizzed the one about whether ...

He is separated yet still married, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 266 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - I met a man recently who is 14 years older than me.He is married,but has been separated from his wife for two years.He also has two children.He told me that he is still married because he's worried about upsetting his children if he gets ...

I'm worried I might cheat, what can I do if I like this other girl?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (M) - hi, i have been in a relationship for about a year now, and it's had it's ups and downs but lately its been good. however i have been having feelings for another girl since last year and lately they have become very strong. i can't stop thinking ...

I'm upset that he says he loves me yet he is seeing someone else...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - Hey cupid, I need a great advice, I have been in a relationship for 2 years one of friendship with a boy of UK... we find each other random in one of the online games groups. The point is that we care so much about each other. 4 months ago we be...

Is my long distance boyfriend just "friends" with this girl or is there more to it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 272 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - Hello readers! I have this problem with my Bf. He's been keeping such distance from me, reason being he's working extra hours and has very little time... Which obviously doesn't prevent him from contacting his Gf. Well, that's what I'm also trying ...

I live with my b/f and have waited for years for him to get divorced, should I quit?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - HI, My relationship with a man has been going on for 8 yrs, thing is when i met him ,him and I were still married but separated from our spouses, He had his home and I had my own apartment. I was only separated a year and then filed for a no fault ...

Am I overreacting by thinking my b/f flirted with this girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 274 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - The other night when I was out with my bf, we just met this new group of guys and girls, and my bf said one of the girls that she looked just like Britney Spears. And she asked if that was a compliment and he said 'hell yeah, britney spears is ...

When on a break, is sex outside of a relationship ok?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (M) - Dear Uncles and Aunts, etc. My relationship is starting to gear back to normal; however, I have to be patient until my lover returns to me in August. Knowing that we are getting back together has been a great relief. However, I am struggling to ho...

I was told my b/f kissed someone else, he denies it, I don't know what to think!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 273 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - i've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 years now... and everything has been ok... i had some trust issues at first because oft he way he acted before we started dating...but just recently i found out from a friend that he kissed another girl at ...

Should I tell my BF to tone it down in the bedroom?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 274 days ago

22 February 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have a different relationship than most you could say. i am 16 and he is 27 but we are in love with each other and we dont see ourselves with anyone else. My boyfriend has like a fetish of spanking me and pulling on my hair when ...

He gave me 2 STI's and I'm STILL with him!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 274 days ago

21 February 2009 (F) - Me an my partner have been together for a year now and it has to be the best relationship I have had. He's loving, caring, funny, everything I could ever wish for. Then a few months in the relationship we broke up for 2 weeks over someone ringing ...

Will my crush think I like this boy because I danced with him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 274 days ago

21 February 2009 (F) - I went to my formal party last night and this guy asked me to dance with him so I said ok, since I was sitting out most of the night so I was grinding with the guy and my crush was right there! he knows I like him but I dunno if he likes me back, ...