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writes:i have been dating the same guy for almost a year now. i can say i truly love him and i have never met anyone like him. he cares about me and i care about him too. i love him with all my heart, but lately i met this guy i am attracted to, i cant stop thinking about. me and him have stuff in common. i don't know what to do? why is this happening? should i tell my boyfriend? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionomg. thank you guyz every much... cuz i really felt like i was betraying my boyfriend... i feel much betta although i still find da guy attractive.. it's really bad.. buh thank you. :)
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 I think you are too young to be dating this guy more than a year. I think your attraction to another guy is indicative of this.
You have a lot of growing, maturing, and exploring to do. At this age you do not know who you are. You are going to change mentally, emotionally and physically even spiritually in the next 5, 10, 15 years and this boy you are with now, you will have outgrown, simply because you are no longer a good fit.
Should you tell your current boyfriend. Not really. You may want to think about cutting your ties with him and being on your own for awhile. If you do not learn to be happy alone and focus on your own interests, educational goals and your personal passion and purpose in life, then you are not going to go very far or be very happy.
Being in a relationship with a boyfriend is not the be all end all to life.
What I am saying to you, is you have no reason to feel guilty about your changing emotions, your attraction to some other guy, it is completely typical of a girl, of a person in your age group to want to keep your options open.
I think you would be doing your boyfriend a huge favor if you set him free.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2009): do not tell him trust of i had the same thing happen to myself it just ended my boyfriend just left so do not tell
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reader, Lexie88  + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 quiet-echo is right...don't tell him if you don't plan on leaving him, it'll just create drama. Being attracted to someone else while you're with another person is not unusual...we often get a little too comfortable with someone and a new person seems so exciting. Try to figure out why you're attracted to this other guy. Are you bored in your relationship? The problem here is that you don't know this other guy that well and he may seem more exciting that your boyfriend whom you know well. But the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
Bottom line is, don't tell him if you don't want to do anything about it. It's unneccesary.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 I would not tell your boyfriend unless you're planning on ending the relationship. This will eat away at him and neither of you will get any peace from it.
Depending on hoiw long this attraction has gone on, it could just be a phase. It's very common.
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