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Archived questions from: October, 2011 (see latest in Three is a crowd category)

Three is a crowd: Help and advice

Lovers for 5 years. Both married, but not to each other. How can I deal with this much pain? He said he loved me but where is he now?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4557 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I starting having an affair with a man since 2006. We both are married and I lived a distance from him so I wasnt worried to get attached. Well I thought it would be just a short period this would last. We were together for almost 5 years. ...

Does he like me or am I just "plan b" if he doesn't get her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4557 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - ok so my ex and I broke up and during this relationship my other ex(joe) and I stayed good friends,we often wrote on Facebook, he was often flirty and it seemed like he was waiting for me to become single again.(he is/was making out with a girl h...

Does this girl like me or is it just friendly?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4557 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - We work together in the same office. She likes to leave silly drawings on my desk, and has even drawn on my hands and arms at times (in front of other people). She can be quite touchy-feely and likes to hug me or pretend shove me. She texted m...

I've developed feelings for my girlfriend's amazing new best friend!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend for 2 1/2 years, we only broke up for a week about a year ago. that was my fault, i fell for another girl and ended things. Now my girlfriend recently met a new best friend. She is amazing, the new friend, her and i ...

I married through love and now it has backfired as he is still messaging the married woman he knew before me!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - hey there, My name is senya and i am married for 1 year now.. And i am dating this same guy since 2 years... So basically we are together for 3 years.. My husband was dating a married lady before we meet.. she was married for 2 years when she...

Caught in-between my boyfriend and my best male friend

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4371 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I'm currently in a very messy situation, and I'm not quite sure what to do about it... Lately, it's been really hard to make time to spend time with my boyfriend. When I'm busy he usually has something important to do, and vice versa, so I'm lu...

I really need a male's perspective on this question...

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4554 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - This has been bothering me for months now... I am in a great relationship with this guy for almost 6 months now ( we are both in our 30's) and we are very happy together. We were on our first vacation together and it had been only 2 months that ...

Is she already interested in another? I like her. but now I feel lost and have a sickening feeling inside

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4558 days ago

31 October 2011 (M) - ok, here is my problem. I started college just over a month ago and in my first week met a really attractive, smart girl who happened to be doing the same course as me. We exchanged phone numbers and got on really well together, often chatting f...

My bf is convinced I'm in love with my friend (which I'm not!) and now he wants to speak to my friend's pregnant and emotional wife to see how she feels about our friendship!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4558 days ago

31 October 2011 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend (I will name "Ned") for about 17 years. "Ned" broke up with me about two and a half years ago saying I wasn't "the one" and he wanted to find her and didn't want to waste more time with me. I had wanted to get ...

Does he like me? Or am I jumping to conclusions?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4559 days ago

30 October 2011 (F) - I know I may be jumping to conclusions, but, there's this guy in my a few of my classes. Actually only 1st and 4th. Anyway, he has a girlfriend, and she's in my 1st and 3rd period and whenever I am near her she gives me these dirty looks for NO ...

My Gf has major self esteem issues. will she ever change or go back to the way she used to be?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4559 days ago

30 October 2011 (M) - my fiance of 4 years has always suffered from self esteem issues, an eating disorder and was raped when she was 16. now because of this she dated men who treated her like crap because she thought she deserved that. she has had no support from her ...

Do I pursue her even though I don't know if she likes me or start afresh with another girl?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4559 days ago

29 October 2011 (M) - Ok so first off, I Really like this Girl, (We'll refer her tas Girl 1) But, I dont know if she likes me, she says she loves texting me and such, But she flirts with other guys and it sucks, Now on the other side, Theres this girl (Girl 2) that says ...

Should we connect? Dont want to break his marriage but I need someone to make me laugh

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4560 days ago

29 October 2011 (F) - Thanks. I lost my hubby of 5 years a year and 2 month ago and i have 2 kids. just before i met my late hubby,i dated a guy i loved so much and i believed liked me for 3 months,i had to relocate some where far so we were not seeing but communic...

I want my wife back from this other man!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4561 days ago

28 October 2011 (M) - My ex wife and I were together since we were 20. Got married at 21 and had our first kid at 23; each proceeding child is 1-3 years apart from the last. (We have 5 kids.) We got a divorce 4 years ago because, somewhere along the line, we stopped ...

Will we get together? And if not what should I do about being his "bit on the side"?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - Me and an old friend have started talking a lot more like we use too. We did stop talking for a bit because we both was busy. we have been flirting like we use too, however he is 2years older than me and he has a girlfriend. I do enjoy spending time ...

Is my B/f thinking about marriage and should I bring my feelings up in conversation?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

27 October 2011 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend for 7 months yesterday. We have know each other since we were 13 and 14 respectivly, got to know each other better mid teens then became very close friends from the ages of 18-20 and now are a couple at 21 and 22. ...

Two guys. Which one? how can I tell the other guy that I cannot talk to him anymore without hurting him and myself?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Okay so this may take a while. I am 18 years old and I have two guys who I have a lot of feelings for and at the moment I need to decide on one because I do not want to hurt them and date both at the same time. My first guy, (I will call him spri...

My SOS (someone special) has a girlfriend!! Move on, or wait it out?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4556 days ago

26 October 2011 (?) - So, I am very attracted to this guy that works for my Dad. Five weeks ago, we started talking. I think he is absolutely amazing. He is everything I think I want in a man. He is absolutely adorable, charming, and very sweet. He is just as attracted ...

I have a boyfriend but I think I'm in love with this girl?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4562 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - I'm sorry if this is long but I really, really need advice. I am a 22 year old girl and I have a boyfriend, but I think I'm in love with this girl. She's in one of my classes in school and there's just something about her that.... well I don't rea...

Should I continue in this relationship that is currently making me feel depressed, or should I call it quits?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - So this is quite complicated. I have posted questions here as the situation developed, but now I am in real need of some help. My bf and I have been dating rather happily for nearly a year now. I love him very much, he's my best friend, not to menti...

Which guy should I choose? I like them all!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

26 October 2011 (F) - Okay so this is going to be long and I am really sorry for it. Okay so over the summer I ended up breaking u with my ex boyfriend, who is really sweet, kind and funny. I broke up with him because I was constantly mad around him and have no idea...

How do I initiate a threesome?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

25 October 2011 (F) - Ok so my friend (actually fwb but much, MUCH more than that)and I are considering a threesome. I know this is a fantasy of his but I've admitted to him that it is actually somthing that I've always wanted to try as well. It would be with another ...

When my ex said "I met a nice guy", was that her way of trying to make me jealous? Or does she really want me to leave her alone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

24 October 2011 (M) - So I recently am going through a break that happened about 2 months ago or so. I was with this girl for about 8 months and I still miss her. The other night I got drunk (yes stupid) and texted her. I guess I just wanted to text her when I was sober ...

He's married and won't always pay attention to me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - Im 22.. And I'm having sOme affair with a 31 yrs old married man.. He says that he is not happy because her wife is already 51 yrs old and he really wants a baby.. Which her wife can't give because of the age (unable to bear a child) he's just ...

Why is my husband calling me names and being so mean.? He's the one who has been secretly visiting and talking to my "friend"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

23 October 2011 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 2 years, he's 41 and I'm 32. I had this friend, or so I thought she was. We were great friends, but we did hang out a few times. My husband and I started having some marital difficulties, and during that tim...

His Mom and us! How do I talk to him about this? How can we make this situation better

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - Hello all! Any advice is much appreciated. My boyfriend is 21 (soon to be 22) and I am 20, respectively. We have been dating for nearly five months. I care about him a lot and truly love him but we have been hitting some stumbling blocks lately. T...

Does he really love me? And why does he not want me to see other men, when he already has a wife he cheats on?

This question has 24 answers - newest was posted 4563 days ago

22 October 2011 (F) - ModNote: two adjacent related questions joined into one. I need advice. I am currently in a relationship with a married man. I am 28 and this has been going on for a little over a year. It started off as just sex but now I've fallen in love with...

I have my suspicions...is this woman he claims to be his 'sister' really his wife?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

20 October 2011 (F) - I have a guy for almost one year who lives with a woman in a single room whom he claims that the lady is his sister. There is a long distance between where he stays. He has been to my place twice and I've been to his place twice. My first time i ...

I suspect something is going on with my girlfriend and another guy, should I let her go?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4570 days ago

19 October 2011 (M) - Hey...my 17 yrs girlfriend is giving much time to her male frinds than me, and i suspect something is going on with this other guy and when ever i put the issue on the table she tels me that if i ask the guy anything it wil be over betwen us. please ...

I think my boyfriend's best friend is gay...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4570 days ago

19 October 2011 (F) - One of my boyfriend's best friends is an Australian guy who recently had to move back to Australia after living as roommates with my boyfriend for around a year here in the United States. They've gone on road trips together, shared a room, changed ...

Is getting him back a realistic aim? My bf went back to his wife, will he ever come back to me?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4564 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - I am 29, 5 months pregnant. My bf left me after I called him COWARD because he was too afraid to show his face to my parents and stand up for our baby. After a day, his sister told me that he's gone back to his wife. I am in so much pain right no...

Was I wrong to tell him to stop induldging me in the details of his life? We cant be together because he has a child and a girlfriend....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4571 days ago

18 October 2011 (F) - He's my X, and now we are just friends. we couldn't be together because his got a child and a live in girlfriend. so we decided to be friends. though we are still in love with each other. However when he calls which is often, he's telling me ...

Are they just flirting? Or am I blind?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4569 days ago

17 October 2011 (F) - Hello urm where to start.. I was going out with a boy who had just moved to where i live i have known from being a little girl as our family knew eachother, I will call this boy 'C'. Now about a month ago 'C' said he realy liked me and wanted to go ...

I like her, she likes me and him and won't chose!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M) - Alright so here is the deal: I started High School about 2 months ago and,as always for youngsters,I managed to get a crush on this girl. Luckily for me,she appareantly felt the same way about me. Things were going great but a bit fast,aft...

I'm single and I'm obsessing over a married woman. I want to get closer to her. Is this an emotional affair?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (M) - A young woman recently transferred to my place of work. She's from another country, and extremely beautiful. I'm a single male in my mid-20s who works on the opposite side of the building. After her first or second week we just hit it off, started ...

Is it time to stop talking to my ex?. I still love him. What does he want from me? I am sick of him making me feel so jealous

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - Dear readers I still love my ex boyfriend. Its been 10 months since we broke up. Lately he has been chatting with my cousin sister on a social network site. She is 3 years our junior and is more attractive than I am. He finds her to be an interes...

Will lack of trust ruin everything? He keeps in regular touch with his ex's (plural). Our sex life sucks.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - I've been in a relationship with a guy for a year. We've both been in serious relationships that were not that great in the past. We've discussed marriage/kids and he's even asked me my ring size. Our relationship is perfect, except there's been a ...

Do I keep going with her? Or give up on her until she is over her ex? Am I just the nice rebound guy to her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

16 October 2011 (M) - ok so feel a bit strange about doing this but really need some advice. I'm 31, pretty normal guy. Have had a very normal relationship history up to now - few happy long term relationships, few shorter term things. My issue is with my current ...

My ex told me he's been chaste since our breakup. Do I have a right to be fuming, now I've found out that he has been having a connection with a girl? He lied to me.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4573 days ago

16 October 2011 (F) - This is another question to the previous one I asked, my ex says he wants to keep in touch but doesn't...! Further update and new problem! He has made much more of an effort to be in touch, we were getting along fine as friends, this last week w...

I loved him. He hates me now. what can I do? Did he really cheat? I feel so much pain over this breakup.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4574 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - I was in a long-distance relationship for one year and a half. In a moment of intense weakness, I entered my ex-boyfriend's facebook account. There I found some chat history between him and a girl 15 years younger than him. She seemed to be flir...

We are virtual friends and Sext. Should I tell his new girlfriend about us? He says we do the things his Gf is too shy to do.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

15 October 2011 (?) - dear cupid, soo, there's this guy that i met in college back in december of last year. for most of that time, me and him have kind of been...well, i guess a good term for it would be "virtual friends with benefits." basically, we sext (without pi...

Parents won't accept my current b/f but I've found a new guy they would. I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4575 days ago

15 October 2011 (F) - Hello. Okay, so I usually am never confused when it comes to dating. But this time im stuck! Ive been dating my boyfriend for a year now. Im muslim and he is not. My family will never accept him if he ever wants to marry me. Im his first love. We ...

I'm jealous of his very attractive best friend! What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4575 days ago

14 October 2011 (F) - I am in a very sticky situation. My bf and I have been happily together for 10 months and were friends for about 5 years prior. Things have pretty much gone off without a hitch, except for his very attractive, charismatic best friend. She is beaut...

I like him but he's got a girlfriend and doesn't know that I like him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4575 days ago

13 October 2011 (F) - it's this boy that i really like but he's has a girlfriend.he do not know that i like him like that. the first couple weeks we were good because he said his relationship was (very) complicated so i thought i had a chance now he talk to when he get ...

We live with an older friend of my husband's and while she has been very helpful to us, she refers to him as her husband!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4575 days ago

12 October 2011 (F) - i really need help please. my husband and i have been married for almost a year now. we have been living with a friend of his who is older and is like a mom to him since we can't afford a place of our own yet and she helps us out with finances. ...

I didnt cheat on him but he wont listen! I feel like I've blown it for good, what should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4577 days ago

12 October 2011 (F) - Hi all, I have been reading through post but one seem to match my sitation so I'll try and explain So, I've known this (guy now my ex) for about 4 years but we only really started dating in April. Everything was strange because he'd take ag...

I'm in an open relationship. my friend's brother and I had sex. So why did'nt he reply after our great night?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4578 days ago

11 October 2011 (F) - My husband and i agreed to an open relationship not too long ago after being married for 6 years. I met my friends brother at a club few days back. He was flirting with me, buying me drinks, dancing with me etc. I told him about my relation...

We are in love, but is she back with her boy toy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4574 days ago

11 October 2011 (M) - I am in a long distance relationship with a woman who is 42. I am 43. We have only seen each other 3times in the last 7 months and had sex on two of those occasions. I love her and she says she loves me completely. However a few weeks ago her ...

I went on a training course. Unbeknown to me he went on a trip with his ex. How do I cope with all the turmoil in me over this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4578 days ago

11 October 2011 (F) - I feel as if I have somehow lost myself. I am an almost thirty year old woman, and have lived a fairly adventerous life. I have traveled, studied, and most of the things people talk of doing. I have never had a serious relationship unt...

Is his choice just a convenient way for him to continueliving his single life and enjoy benefits?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4578 days ago

11 October 2011 (F) - About 7 months ago I got out of a long term relationship. Almost as soon as that relationship ended I began seeing a co-worker and friend of my ex-boyfriends (they are not great friends but they do work together and they have mutual friends and some...