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Archived questions from: August, 2009 (see latest in Three is a crowd category)

Three is a crowd: Help and advice

He hasn't physically cheated, but I feel betrayed. How to work on this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 58 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Sorry this is long but I had a hard time cutting the fat from this thread. Here's the whole story. After I wrote and proofread this I realized I don't feel better at all. I'm sure you will have no difficulty understanding how that is. On Thursd...

Went snooping through all of his things and found stuff from his past - do I have a right to be upset?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I need to know if this is a *me* problem that I should work on personally, or if I need to talk to my boyfriend about it too. I'll apologize for this being so long now. I just have a lot to say about the issue at hand. This morning, I have no i...

I don't want a thrillsome threesome with my friend!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Me and my bf has been talking about haveing a three some...and i was okk with it so i also have a gf I'm biisexual and my gf was my bestfriend 1st soo now my bf is talking about haveing a three some with her i don't feel rite with him haveing sex ...

My partner is in love with someone else

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (?) - This is so hard I broke u with my Patner last week we were really happy but I found out that he is love with his best friend and that he has been mailing her and wants to be with her but is unble to because he lives thousands of miles away and she ...

In love with my best friend who is engaged. Please help!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 77 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I have fallen in love with my best friend. I have known my best friend for just under 10 years, and i have been in love with her for 6 of those years. She has been the greatest friend i could ever wished for. She recently threw me a surprise ...

I'm in a casual relationship, but like someone I work with! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - Hi.... I really thought that this day would NEVER come around. I have been in a what they call a causel relationship, of course one would think that something more to come of this relationship, its been on now for a year and a half, not a very easy ...

My g/f is depressed and I feel that I am developing strong feelings for my coworker!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - I am having really mixed feelings. I have been with my current girlfriend for a little over half of a year. At first, things were pretty good. Lately, she is always depressed about something, never wants to do anything, and is an all around downer. ...

He heard from this 24 year old hottie, I haven't heard from him since, should I move on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

31 August 2009 (F) - I bumped into this guy I used to work with years ago, went on a great date with him, and then in a post-date phone call, he tells me about this hot 24-year-old he'd dated four times a couple months ago. He's 38. She broke it off because she was ...

Her LDR is going bad, and I really want her!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - My best friend is a girl and we've known each other for way too long (about eleven years to be exact). We're now in the same university (we planned that considering we only knew each other was going to this school) and we've actually decided to room ...

I still love this girl even though she is getting married…what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

31 August 2009 (M) - So this girl I been with for two months just agreed to marry her ex-bf. I knew about the other guy before we got together. She couldn’t marry him at the time cause he was leaving to work in another country and she had to stay because of work and ...

Boyfriend or best friend? Who do I choose?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 68 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - Okay, so now I have a new problem. . . I'm still with my boyfriend, who can be a real jerk at times when he pokes fun at me for being book smart and is starting to flirt with other girls. Sometimes, I go days at a time where I just don't talk ...

Pushed out of the group and I feel like I'm losing my best friend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 43 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - I had a group of friends. I wasnt the closest one to them (three girls) ... But one of them was like the leader of the other two. This so called leader shunned me out of the group and made enemies wiith me. The other two girls remained my friend. ...

Is there any way of making a threesome comfortable for all involved?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 77 days ago

30 August 2009 (M) - About a year ago I was with a girl, and one night we almost had a threesome with one of my best friends (male), that I wasn't particularly comfortable with. Just after we'd got things started off we were interrupted by a couple of friends having a ...

He's with a girl he cheated on me with, but I want to look past it and try again

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

30 August 2009 (F) - me and this guy have been together for seven months he alway use to say i fuss to much when we broke up we were still seeing each other over the summer and i just found out he was dating this girl i use to hear people say he talked to when we were ...

G/f had been in a MMF threesome..how do I compete with that?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 65 days ago

29 August 2009 (M) - Found out that in her past my girlfriend had been in a MMF threesome and thought it was pretty hot. Makes me uncomfortable. I mean, how could I EVER compete with that? (that's a rhetorical question). I want to believe that all the best sexual ...

It seems as though my boyfriend is falling for his ex again. What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 86 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Can someone help me with my trust issues? Or just .. At all? My boyfriend and i have been together for over a year. His ex-girlfriend has been adamant about staying friends but earlier in our relationship, he told me he wanted nothing to do wi...

This guy has been showing signs he likes me...but I found out he has a girlfriend! What's going on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - okay i like this guy named nolen and he has been giving me sings but i can't put them together. well first in class he wonld not stop lookin at me then wen i noticed he waved at me. rhen the next day he found a pipe cleaner and he made into a bracle...

I love two people...and I can't have either of them! What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 82 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - Okay, what should I do if I love someone but have great feelings for someone else, The person I love I can't have cause they left me after a good relationship., and the one I have great feelings for has moved on. Like It feels like I love them both ...

I think I'm in love with his friend too! I'm also concern he's going to break up with me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 77 days ago

29 August 2009 (F) - [Moderator note: two questions from the same poster were combined for space conservation.] Q1: Is it possible to be in love with two people? I'm going out with a boy 4 years older than me. i love him but i think i love his best mate too :S he is 3 ...

I was trying to make him jealous but now he won't talk to me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 87 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - Okay, my problem really buggs me. Im 14 and i went away for a while and I made a friend named "Chloe", shes a girl and shes 17. Shes pretty hot but i think im prettier. While we were there we met a guy, "Bob" hes 18 and i told her i liked him and he ...

Help me out of this mess, he loves his best friend ,what do I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (?) - Hi all, A little while back I send a question, but did not word it very well I have been with this guy for nearly 2 years the last ouople of mnths have been great fantastic, see he has been a bit of an asshole sometimes and about 5months ago I le...

She found out about us, but she's crazy, advice please?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - my friends girifriend and him have been together for about a 2 years and have a kid on the way. well he has not been happy for a year now, he told me last week she is not atractive and anoying, well just this weekend he and me went to a party and ...

We're back together, but he goes to school with an old fling, will I get hurt again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 88 days ago

28 August 2009 (F) - I have been in a relationship for two and half years and everything was great until about a year ago when he (pretty much) out of the blue decided that he was to young to be in such a committed relationship and wasnt sure about us at the moment. ...

How should I feel about my girlfriend constantly talking to her ex-husband?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - I have been with this woman for 6 1/2 mths. we seem to get along about everything. she moved to my city to get away from her ex and start a new life. when we found each other we instantly clicked.we have been living together for a while ...

How do I get rid of these feelings that I want to be with a woman?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 87 days ago

27 August 2009 (F) - I am not cheating, nor do I plan on cheating on my boyfriend, but I have been with women before and he knows it. I've been feeling lately that I want to be with a woman, and I really want to tell my boyfriend without him wanting to join in (again). ...

Why would a girl go through so much trouble to let you know she's interested, if she's in a relationship?!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 88 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - Hello, i'd like some opinions plz if it's not too much trouble. Why would a women get to know you, go all out to make you realize she's interested in you, even to the point of exchanging phone numbers, and risk it all by telling you she's single ...

Is the feeling of being ignored common in threesomes?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 70 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - Recently my wife and I carried out a threesome with my best friend that she had been fantisising about for some time now.She had this night all planned out with a dinner and drinks to follow.She was dressed in a transparent white spandex dress that ...

How do I get my friend to see I'm the one she should be with?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - Ok I asked a very good friend of mine out, and she said she wanted to but she was afraid of losing me as a friend if something happened between us, and now she is dating another guy. How can I get her to change her mind and realize that I'm the ...

This guy won't stop staring at me. How can I feel better about myself and move on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 87 days ago

27 August 2009 (M) - There is this guy at work, in which he and I have been staring back forth at each other for a long time. We have spoken and few times and I feel that we are physically attracted to one another, but we would never get to that point. I wanted to keep ...

Should I throw away our relationship for someone that I might not have a chance with?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 89 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - I started to get close to this guy, I would only see him every couple of weeks but eventually he told me he was falling for me. I was very happy, because I was at last getting somewhere with him. Then I started hanging out with a friend of a friend...

Why can't the ex see we should just be distant friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 41 days ago

26 August 2009 (F) - please help explain this to me. i wanted to be with my ex (when we were actually dating), but he always wanted me with him, and then consistently pushed me away. sometimes, he got so crazy about it, that i knew i just had to go and never look back. ...

I think she loves her boyfriend and me too and I can't make sense of this!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

25 August 2009 (M) - This is really complicated and hard to do as missing important details might get me the wrong advice but here goes. . . . Well I started seeing a girl that I was working with we were both involved with other people at first we were just great ...

Why can't I leave the married man I'm living with?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I am living with a married man, who is not divorced, or seeking divorce, wife left 4 years ago, neither is legally separated, yet both are property owners of the house that this man lives in and which I reside with him at his request. Did not know ...

I'm stuck in a twisted love triangle with two of my best friends!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I'm stuck in some kind of twisted love triangle with 2 of my best friends and I feel it's going to ruin all of our friendships but I don't know what to do. Me and Leanne* have been best friends since birth and Ste* is our closest boy friend, we'v...

One part of me wants to leave and the other part has fallen hard for him, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 91 days ago

25 August 2009 (F) - I have been friends with a man for about a year before i had any sensual relationship that lasted 2 months when he then decided to go back to his x, the mother of his 2 children.she wanted him back When she found out that he was moving on. Well ...

Threesome with her virgin friend?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 83 days ago

25 August 2009 (M) - i have have been dating this girl for about a year that i care strongly for and she cares for me the same but i was wondering if it would be okay if we had a threesome with her friend? there is only one thing her friend is a virgin what should i do? ...

More advice needed please! Is he just being a smooth-talker when he says he doesn't want sex with my friend unless I'm included?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 84 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - Hi, want to know under a regestered user name an answer, my hang up is I just dont want him to be more attractied to her than I. He agreed that he would never contact her without me or would he have any sexual activity with her without me, he says ...

Did I do the right thing by leaving? And should I leave him alone now and see what happens?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 91 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - Hi, about three months ago i met a guy in work. He said he came into my shop just to see me coz he thought i was beautiful. I'd been through depression and anxiety after a break up and wasnt sure at first. He worked in the shop and we got closer and ...

Me and my husband had a threesome with my friend, he wants to try it again but It's worrying me. What can I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 90 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - Hi, My husbamd and I have been married 6 years we are in our 40's my husband and I have sex and talk naughty about threesomes often it is very hot. about 4 years ago we went to a hotel and I got him a stripper it was hot as hell. there was no invas...

What can my friend do to stop having feelings for an older guy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 91 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - Hello. I have a friend who is 16 years old and she needs help. I've advised her the best way possible but want to get a bigger perspective. What the scenario is that she likes someone who is a 23 year old male and can't get over him. There is...

This girl said she only appeared interested, to get at her ex. What should I feel or do about this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 91 days ago

24 August 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid, I've never been good at talking to girls, so when if found someone who seemed interested in me, I went with it. I asked her out, but she always had some kind of excuse to get out of it. Then one day when I asked her out agai...

Should I try and make it work with my boyfriend of 2 years, or move on and see if me and friend have a chance together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 91 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - Ok I'll try and make this quick. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We've been happy throughout most of those years, but of course have had our downs too. He is a year and a half younger than me and I can definitely feel the ...

I'm in love with two men...and I need to choose. Has anything else been through this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 56 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - I am a 25 year old female that has been seeing a guy that is in prison for about 14 month's now.I love him so much and what to be with him in ever way I know this men for about 10 year's and when I was 18 we had been seeing one other for 3 year's ...

Married, but have a crush on a colleague! I'm confused about my feelings and what to do?!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 91 days ago

24 August 2009 (M) - Please help!!! I'm sooooo confused about what's happening to me. I'm married 4 years, in committed relationship for 11 years total. My wife is a beautiful, caring woman and recently we've been having a few problems. Most of the problems, lik...

Do you think this guy really even likes me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 89 days ago

24 August 2009 (F) - i started working at lunch with this one guy and began to like him. well after awhile i lost intrest becouse i thought he didnt like me at all. so i ended up get his number from a frined didnt call or text him just kept in my phone just because. ...

My ex keeps going back and forth between me and his new girlfriend. Should I tell him to get lost and let his girlfriend know he's cheating with me?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 73 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - ex spends time with me spends 3 to 4 nights a week at my place then he calls and come over we still go places together but then he dissapears and goes to his new girlfriend and wont answer his phone i think he is playing with my heart he dont ...

Is wanting t be friends with ther gay men a betrayal of my boyfriend?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 85 days ago

23 August 2009 (M) - I am in what feels like an impossible situation. I have been in a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend for five years. I never really had many friends but of late have started making them. I am gay and would like to have some gay friends as w...

Which one do I choose? My boyfriend or my soulmate?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 47 days ago

23 August 2009 (F) - I recently broke off a 5 year relationship with a guy. But it wasn't just an ordinary break up. During the latter part of the relationship, I kept ignoring thoughts that I was not in love with my boyfriend as much as I was when we were starting ou...

His ex is still in the picture. What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 93 days ago

22 August 2009 (F) - So I was seeing this guy in the beginning of the summer and things ended after two months because "the ex came back into the picture and he had to "figure things out." He confessed this to me out of the blue. I was so shocked I didn't say anything ...

Boyfriend's ex stalks me but I'm scared to tell him...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 93 days ago

22 August 2009 (F) - Hi, I have a bit of a bizarre problem and was wondering if anyone could give me some advice about how to deal with it. My boyfriend was with his ex girlfriend for 2 years and i know they meant loads to each other. they had a pretty rocky rel...