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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Three is a crowd category)

Three is a crowd: Help and advice

I'm in love with twin brothers

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - okay...so listen please, i am 15, and i am practically crazy over these twins. They are my age and i have known them since pre-kindergarten, or since i was four. so one of them is absolutely crazy over me and we are always looking for chances ...

I recently found out that my boyfriend is married with kids...and dating other women!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - well i have a big prob i don't know what to do. I have been dating this guy for nearly year and a half now, About 8 months in the relationship i found out he is married and had kids. I was so upset. I asked him about it which he denies at first an...

Am I overreacting about my boyfriend's eagerness for a threesome?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5228 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - Am I overreacting when my boyfriend is overly enthused about a threesome? I mean, I brought it up, but I just wanted to see what he would say. Now its all he can talk about, and he wants it with my best friend who is prettier than me and has bigger ...

My boyfriend's mum interferes with our relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4364 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - I need help you guys, im 17 years old and my boyf is 21. He lives at home with his widowed mum due to money issues (ie. she has none because she retired very early and now needs his). Over xmas he came to us on boxing day while she went to a mates ...

Engaged and attracted to another man. How do I overcome these feelings?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - there's this lady who is engaged and she's having deep feelings for another suitor. what can she do to stop these feelings? this guy is someone that they see each other almost everyday. ...

Can a relationship recover from infidelity if the cheating partner still denies it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I know that my husband cheated on me. However he denies it. I do love him and want to move past this but if he will not admit it can we move on? We have been together for 15 years. Now this just happened after he started this job about 2 years ag...

Why does my brother try to steal my girlfriends?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5225 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - why the hell is my brother tring to steal my girlfriend when he knows i love her and she loves me to make matters worse he has a girlfriend. my girl is not what he likes, she is not his type, but hes giving hints and shes falling for them....

Its complicated...please some objective input?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Hi there I've searched for and read so many of the emails from guys in the similar situation to me. I can never find one "relationship situation" that is exact to my particular situation, but at the end of the day, the expected answers I will g...

I like him but am afraid to be his girlfriend...he says he'll wait til I'm ready but he didnt....what do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - me and this guy have liked eachother for almost 7 months but havnt kissed yet but sometimes he holds me and when he walks me home we hold hands, but we havnt kissed because im afraid to cause im almost 15 and he just turned 15 this october but i ...

Is this a lost cause? I feel threatened by his best friend, she will soon come here and I'll study in another city.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Sorry about this being so long. I honestly didn't realize I went on this long rant until I was finished. Anyways, I hope you have the patience... My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now (January 1, 2010 will be our one-year). A...

My boyfriend wants to me to date another man as well

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5185 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - Hello, I've got questions for those who have lived this certain way. My boyfriend and I are very turned on by the idea of me dating another guy LTR - long term relationship. We have a second bedroom that we would decorate and setup, the ...

Girl texts my boyfriend at odd hours late at night. Is she more than a colleague or a friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5049 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for approx. 8 months now. We belong to different cultures. He is an introvert and likes his space. He does not share a lot about his friends. I assume that is because he wants to give them their privacy. Quite ...

I want to stop thinking about him sleeping with her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5230 days ago

29 December 2009 (F) - I need help and advice, something is playing on my mind and is detrimental to my relationship. My boyfriend has a good female friend, and they always used to flirt and I did wonder if anything was underlying. Me and my boyfriend had a month or so of ...

Unsure about bringing another man into the marriage?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

28 December 2009 (F) - I am confused as I said before I am married , and my husband has asked me several times about bringing another man into our bed. We even have named my dildo, at this point I am fine with the dildo in my mouth, or pussy while my husbands penis is i...

How do I be...just friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5226 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I've been friends with a guy for awhile now, he had a girlfriend of 7 months. (hes 22 I'm 20 and shes 18) we were just friends and stuff but developed feelings for each other and ended up fooling around before they broke up. (they did shortly after) ...

Girlfriend wants to videotape me with two other girls!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - When my girlfriend and I began to date, she told me she wouldn't mind if I had "women on the side" as long as she was #1. I laughed and dismissed the idea as silly at the time. She is from Indonesia (very smart and a citizen of the U.S. now) and I ...

My husband left me for another women on boxing day!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5215 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I'm not sure where to begin as I'm totally lost but to cut a long story short my husband and me have been having some problems over most of our marriage (we've been together for 22 years and got two children aged 17 and 19). He has always been ...

I'm not sexually attracted to my boyfriend, and I like the new guy, or is it just a crush?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5226 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I have been together with my boyfriend for just over a year now. Its been great - we've never argued, had any problems and we've got on really well. There's just a few personal issues I have. Firstly, we haven't yet had sex. In fact, we haven't ...

I have the most amazing boyfriend but I'm stuck on the military guy whom I don't even know well! How to forget him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - I can't get over this guy who I dated for only 2 months and it's driving me insane. We went out a few times (just dates, no sex etc) and he then went on a short deployment (he's in the military). While he was away he called every second day and w...

We are close friends but he has a g/f and I'm starting to develop feelings for him, help?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5231 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - It seems like nothing is ever simple for me when it comes to guys. Last year, this guy and I became acquaintances at school. We sat at the same lunch table and sometimes we would talk to each other. We said hi to each other in the hallways every now ...

Should I write to apologise for the past to my boyfriend's ex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5232 days ago

27 December 2009 (F) - In the summer, I was working away and had a very strong connection with a guy who was recently engaged. Over the summer months that we were working together 24/7 he began telling me he didn't have strong feelings for his fiance anymore, and he ...

Christmas Drama...?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - Need some advice! So my bf had his xwife come with the kids and his parents. We talked about this, he lead me to believe she'd be staying with relatives. He did not invite me for Christmas. Now he wants me to meet everyone next week for new ...

Is this situation with Andy, hopeless?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - hey guys and girls. my name is amanda. im new to this site, im 14 and hopelessly in love with a guy who has a girlfriend. this guy, we'll call him andy, has a girlfriend but hes in love with both of us. he chooses her over me but hes so adorable and ...

Sleeping with a friend who has a girlfriend

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - One of my best friends in the world and I have been sleeping together for a few years now and i am in love with him. He says i am his dream girl and wants to be with me but because of other circumstances (neither one of us drive, he has no job ...

I am in the friend zone and want to move out!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - Oh what am i to do? and why do i get myself in these situations? Ive been talking to a girl for a few weeks whom ive known for a while but just started to actually get to know.. i feel theres chemistry there but she has a boyfriend.. one who she ...

Girlfriend (Ex at this point?) likes another man.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5233 days ago

26 December 2009 (M) - To make a long story short, me and my girlfriend basically got into a really stupid argument. The argument consisted of her yelling at me, calling me names (stupid, retard, etc) and she basically said my view on the world was stupid. So in my ...

Should ex-wife tell "mistress" husband wants wife back?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5204 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - My husband left me for another woman back in 1991 and subsequently married the mistress. Afer 10 years of being divorced from each other, we reconnected and have been seeing each other since 2004. He moved from another state to be closer to me, but ...

How can she trust that guy again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5232 days ago

25 December 2009 (M) - I need serious help,um 20,single all the way. i love this girl ,she s my first love. I asked her out 9months ago. She rejected me. I was upset, life was hard. I was gettin over her. But failed ,couldn like any other girl .cant think of anyone except ...

If he cheats on her with me, doesn't that mean he has feelings for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

25 December 2009 (F) - I was dating a guy for around 2 years, and we have a 5 mth old baby together. We stopped dating about 6 mths ago when he got together with his current girlfriend. He says he has no emotional feelings for me, but has been cheating on his girlfriend ...

He is really hurting me!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - I have known this man for atleast 4 years we got really close within the first year and since then i have always been attracted to him about a year ago i fell in love with him but by then he had found a girlfriend we text and talk every day except ...

He's married but we love each other, what should I do?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5221 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Ive just recently started a new job. Me and the manager being very close he knows everything about me and my history of abuse and current abusive situation with my family. It was agreed during holidays i would come work for him to get some extra ...

Whom to choose: the one I'm with or the one I want

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - I'm with this guy who is 25 and we have been together for 4 years now. But there was this 20ish guy at college who i fancied but he didnt fancy me, he just didnt seeem interested, he always had girfriends who where on and off and after college i ...

She's having an affair with a married man. How can I make her see the error of her ways?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5203 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm hoping for some perspective. I've been friends with a girl from school for years. She's very clever, attractive, silly and ambitious. We don't have a huge amount in common but we've had common friends over the years, we've been on ho...

My husband has become too close to another woman, how can I stop this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - My husband likes to be dominated .right now he seems like he is at the point where his friend who is female has control over him ( they met online and have met in person) . I can't get him to do anything and he and she talk everyday for long periods ...

I just need to find a way to get him to trust me, help?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Hey I've been in a relationship for 9 months, when it started out I was just getting out of a bad relationship and my current boyfriend helped me through, he helped me with my University work and my relationship problems. So I broke up with t...

I'm becoming violent and very angry because I suspect of him cheating, are my fears justified?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - hello i really need some help i dont have anybody to talk to. i just got married 4 months ago,my husband is 33 years and i'm 21 years old.my problem is that i can't trust my husband at all. i have been for a while obssesed with him cheating on me. ...

My friend's ex is sending me messages on Facebook, is he interested in me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - ok, about a month ago my best friend went out with this boy who isnt that close a friend of ours but still a friend and he started messaging me on facebook. I thought it was just because he was going out with my best friend and he wanted us to get ...

Did my husband rape my sister or was it consensual?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - i found out that my sister woke up to find my husband on top her having intercourse with her. shes saying this is what happened and she pushed him off and that he kept calling her BABE referring to me. for some reason he hought it was me. yeah ...

How do I fix this problem with my wife?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - My wife was not so happy with me so I invited my friend to have sex with her. but a year now I feel I am not happy at all. she always likes him, I feel depresed with the way my wife behaves with me.......

My marriage is going downhill and I have met somebody who I can love as I once loved her!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5077 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - I have been married for twelve years, and before we were married we dated for ten years and lived together during those times. We have two beautiful children nine and eleven years old. My marriage has been going downwards for the last five years. I ...

My boyfriend is 10 years older, and my male friend called him a cradle robber!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5236 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - Earlier today, my boyfriend and my two best friends were hanging out at my house. My boyfriend was playing with my hair and watching my friend playing video games. My other friend was being very emo (aka emotional) and he wouldn't look or talk to ...

Summer Lovin' .. I want my summer romance back

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5235 days ago

23 December 2009 (F) - This passed summer my best friend's brother and i got really close and ended up together, well the whole time she and i didn't speak because of a few other issues. We had this amazing relationship for about a month and then suddenly he just stopped ...

How do I find out if my new boss has feelings for me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5237 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - I am a married woman, and share a good relationship with my husband. Just moved jobs,and my new boss is a really attractive man. While we behave really professional at work I feel he has feelings for me. How do I find out?...

Gay and in love with a straight friend, he says there is hope, but what about our partners?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5238 days ago

22 December 2009 (M) - Dear Cupid I'm 30 and gay. I'm still in my first relationship of three years. He is 22. We are happy with no more problems than any other relationship. But I have met a straight guy that has befriended us and he and his girlfriend have become our ...

I honestly believe him with all my heart, should I go back to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5238 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend were dating for about 3 months and things were going great like we never got into one fight or anything. But about a week ago i hear things going around that he wants to break up with me and im so upset because i dont understand ...

Will I have to wait until the baby is born to see who the father is?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5239 days ago

20 December 2009 (F) - I have found out that I am pregnant. I was with my ex boyfriend for 2 years and we broke up in September, to help get over him I started dating someone else. While being with my new boyfriend I had a 1 night stand with my ex partner. I am now ...

Anti-Monogamy: why be faithful?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5239 days ago

19 December 2009 (?) - What is so great about being true to your girl?I was in a situation where I had 2 girls within my grasp( both are awesome hot might add) and they live so seperately that they would never heve met.Perfect dual relationship conditions( i dnt call it ...

I like him but he has a girl, but he still invites me to his gigs!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5240 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - I like this boy,he's a year older than me and i really like him,he's the only boy i have shown an interest in and [as silly as it sounds] he's the only boy i see myself with.Problem is, he has a girlfriend,and he sometimes seems happy with her,yet ...

I have some problems with a housemate!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5237 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid, I did a favor to my cousin and helped a woman he knows when she was in the town where I live. Until she gets situated, or her so boyfriend that she is madley in love with returns from overseas. she is living in my Apt, paying symb...

I got myself into an awful mess with two guys!

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19 December 2009 (F) - A few days ago me and my boyfriend of 2 and a half years split up. Lets call him Bradley. He is the sort of person who cares very much but doesnt really know how to show it. Because of this I didnt feel loved and I could feel that somethin...