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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Three is a crowd category)

Three is a crowd: Help and advice

How can he end things with her without hurting her? I want us to be together.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5321 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - 4 yrs ago I was dating a guy named Jay, we had a great relationship and we loved each other very much. We ended up breaking up because I was moving across country for work. We kept in touch and remained friends. During the next few yrs he went ...

Am I wrong for pursuing her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Weird situation I guess. There are two girls involved. I shall refer to them as just A and B. A I am very close with, and I once started pursuing her as a possible romantic interest which just wasn't to be. B I have started to really like, and...

I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5320 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I am inlove with my girlfriends best friend and i realy don't know what to do. I once kiss her, which has makes me fall inlove with her more. What must i do?...

How can I truly make this relationship work?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi...i'm an 18 year old female in a complicated relationship. it all started last year when i met a guy at my college. we clicked instantly and became very good and close friends. he had a girlfriend at the time, but told me they were on the rocks ...

I am attracted to a work mate, but he is dating someone else. What to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Ive been in my current job for about 12-18months, I work with a girl who is 3 years younger than me and her boyfriend always comes in when we work 2gether... we've recently been flirting alot and im starting to get feelings for him and im getting ...

Threesome but I don't want him to fall for the other girl!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5322 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Its bothering me.... My best male friend and i have been talking about a threesome, i would really love it i know he does too but the problem comes in that i'm afraid once we have actually had a threesome he will end up like or even loving this ...

How do I deal with the mother of my stepdaughter?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5323 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I have a loving husband and we have been married for a year now everything have been going very well until we started taling about staying with his daughter the stepchild(6) next year.I love the child to death but i dont want to deal with the drama ...

I know most of his friends, why don't I know her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5324 days ago

27 September 2009 (F) - Recently married but been with my husband for 10 years. We of course have been through our ups and downs, and even separation in our relationship after I found out he had a baby outside of me. After 2 years of being separated we had a baby and got ...

Should I stay and be with number 2 or go home and be with number 1???

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5325 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - My problem is that, About 4 years ago I was with a great man who adored me. We were together for 2 years but I really wasn't ready for the relationship at the time and made the worst mistake and cheated on him near the end of the relationship (which ...

Having an affair with my first love, but he confuses me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4199 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - Sorry a long question... i have been married for 22 years .. not always great but managed to bring up two kids. 12 months ago i meet up with my first love , he had split up from his wife ... we started a affair.. i know , stupid . at Christmas he ...

Jealous of the time he spends with this pretty popular girl

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5325 days ago

26 September 2009 (F) - i think i'm having a real issue with myself. my boyfriend has this one close girl friend, and whenever they are out together i tend to get upset/angry. she is incredibly gorgeous, talented and popular, and this makes me feel really insecure. it's ...

I have the perfect boyfriend, and instead I want Mr. Toothless! What do I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5280 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I have been with my bf for just a little over a year. We have been doing the distance thing for about 7 months of it... he's a very attractive, kind person. The problem is, I've been hanging out with this much older guy lately. I mean - he's the ...

Do I give my ex bf another chance?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

25 September 2009 (F) - I asked for advice at the beginning of this year when i had split with my ex boyfriend. I was in heartache and agony and was spiralling out of control, i had lost over a stone in weight when i discovered he'd been texting other women. this all ...

We don't spend as much time together...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5320 days ago

24 September 2009 (F) - Hi I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years, from the day i met him he has always been very busy with work, and i have always accepted that and more or less taken a back seat to it. i would see him at weekends, sometimes fortnightly if h...

I told my wife I would leave if my MIL moved in with us!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5312 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - my wife and i have been together for 6 years now. ever since we've been together either her sister, her brother, or her mother is living with us. we've been by ourselves for 5 months out of the 6 years of our relationship. her mother is 41 and she ...

Did she just use me sexually and will she ever come back to me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4835 days ago

24 September 2009 (M) - I know this is a long post, but I feel all the information in it is necessary. A year ago in August, I started my second year of college. It was at this time I met her. I had known her from when I was in elementary and middle school-she was a gr...

I stuck between my b/f and this new guy at college ...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - right, so i started college at the beginning of september and ive met loads of nice new people. Including this one boy, he is in my class and he makes me laugh so much, and in the last two weeks of knowing him ive become completely attracted to him. ...

He broke up with me, now he wants a second chance.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - I have a major dilemma. I was dating a guy for two years. After a year of dating, I moved to his city and we got a place together, where we lived for a year. We had discussed marriage, kids, etc. Well back in December his mother suffered a stroke ...

Should I give him another chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

23 September 2009 (F) - I recently ran into a guy that a year ago I had a relationship with for about 6 months and I thought we could become more. We spent 4 days out of 7 together usually on a weekly basis and he called me everyday. He was married for 6 years and just ...

Relationship of three years and finding sexual texting from other women,

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5327 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Hello, I have been with my b/f for 3 years, We have been living together for a little bit over a year. Recently (4 1/2 months ago) I found texts from women on his phone to him. One girl wrote " No I wont allow it! Do what you want to do but I...

Met with an old flame after 7 years and have invited him and his wife for dinner... was this a good idea?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5329 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I have been married for almost two years. We have been together for 6. I am 27 years old and we have no kids. I love my husband but recently I have met up with an old boyfriend who also is married to an old friend of mine. First me and his wife ...

He won't have a child with me, so I'm refusing to deal with the mother of his children. Am I being terrible?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5288 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - My question could possibly be viewed as spoilt and childish but it matters to me so here goes. For a long time I have wanted a baby with my new husband. He already has three children and doesn't want anymore children. He made this clear prior to...

How can I trust a person without honesty?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5315 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - My BF and have been together for 7 months. I think he may be cheating. He still talks to his ex and doesn't see a problem with it. Some of the messages and calls between them have been very suggestive, I can feel that his ex is still loves him ...

A twin thing?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

22 September 2009 (M) - Hi, Please help.. I have been in a loving relationship with my girlfriend for a few years, she is completely different to anyone else I have been with, but I cannot help finding an attraction to her twin sister. I have never been someone to c...

Confused over two guys...I need help figuring out what I want!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5330 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - Yes, this is another of those "confused about which guy" questions...but it's not your typical question of based on these few paragraphs, which guy is better for me, who you've also never met... so please read on! I really need to sort this out ...

If a guy cheats on his glrlfriend every once in a while for six months, does he love her?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5329 days ago

22 September 2009 (F) - I understand sometimes if a significant other cheats once it can maybe be forgiven in some realtionships--and if he is truly trying to make the relationship work and tries to change his ways... but just curious what others think...If a sig...

Threesome is not working out for me and now she lives with us!

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 3605 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I am 35 years old and my husband and I have been happily married for 13 1/2 years (until recently that is). About two months ago, my husband and I started having threesomes with an 18 year old female friend of the family. Everything was going great ...

She's got a boyfriend but desires me

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5330 days ago

21 September 2009 (M) - I met this girl this summer. I'm extremely attracted to her. We have a lot of sexual tension or some sort of desire for each other. It's a radiating energy that we feed off. I've been single and met a lot of girls over the past 5 years but this one ...

Is he just seeking a friendship or is it more?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5331 days ago

21 September 2009 (F) - I am looking for opinions about the intentions of a guy I am interested in. I cannot tell if we have that special connection or if he just views me as a friend. I met this guy a year ago in the same building I worked in, he was nice, flirty, an...

He won't dump his ex or "put a ring on it", should I move out?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5330 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Last year I found out he had been emailing his ex the whole 2 years we had been together. I wouldn't have minded if not for the fact that he made me sever ties with all ex's and male friends from my past. He had been accusing me for months of ...

Why didn't he like me? He likes her instead.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5332 days ago

20 September 2009 (F) - Ok i have this problem, ALL my friends who are girls see that this boy "bob" likes me right, he is my best guy mate and i really like him. But my other close guy mate has told me that "bob" likes my friend "emily" , she has told me she doesnt want ...

I don't wanna lose him forever but I know I will if I leave.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5330 days ago

19 September 2009 (F) - Hey cupids, i hope someone can help me. I've been going out with my boyfriend for over three years now and I'm afraid I've just fallen out of love with him. I still love him, but I'm not in love with him.And its really difficult because recently ...

I love my boyfriend, but I still love my ex, too!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5330 days ago

19 September 2009 (F) - I hate this. Ive been with my boyfriend officially 5 months but really its been like a year. I love him sooooo much and hes completely amazing, hes helped me so much and literally worships the ground i walk on, hes basically perfect, but i still am ...

Suggestive text messaging...is it an affair?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5328 days ago

19 September 2009 (F) - My husband has a female friend whom he often goes out runing with. They have been exchanging dirty texts and jokes for the past year which I have expressed my disatisafction over however my husband continues to send and receive such texts. Rece...

Help! What do you do when you are in love with 2 men and a 2 year old is involved?

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19 September 2009 (F) - Hi there I'm 23 years old and I've pretty much made a complete mess of my life. I currently live with my boyfriend who I have been with since I was 16 but we were broken up for a year until just a few months ago. We have a beautiful little girl who ...

Is it possible to have strong feelings for two people at the same time?

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19 September 2009 (F) - My ex and I had been together for a year and 3 months. It had been a good relationship, we had our ups and downs but we were in love. However a few weeks ago he became distant and after asking him over and over why, he admitted he had feelings for ...

She's committed to him but we sleep naked together. What is going on?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5330 days ago

19 September 2009 (F) - I met a girl whom I honestly believe is The One for me. We were dating for barely 3 weeks when she told me that she was seeing another man. I accepted that and continued on with the "relationship" because we never said we were exclusive, and t...

I feel like a monster. How do I get her to trust me again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5332 days ago

18 September 2009 (M) - Hi. The beginning of the problem was the junior year of high school. I took *Alexis as my date to the homecoming dance and junior prom because she didn't have one. My friends thought that she liked me but I blew it off because it didn't matter if ...

I love him but I want to leave him. Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5333 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Dear Cupid I've been very upset recently. I'm in my mid 30's,married with 2 kids. I have extra marital affair for a year now with a married man who was once my ex-boyfriend during my school days. I was touched by his approached that I fell in love ...

Am I crazy? Or is he?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5330 days ago

18 September 2009 (F) - Answers from guys will be appreciated. I met a guy who was separated from his wife, but still living in the same house as they got along pretty well and saw no reason to rock the financial boat by running separate households. We saw each other fo...

Am I being selfish or is there something missing in my relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5334 days ago

17 September 2009 (F) - I have a boyfriend and we have been together for a year and a half. We just moved in together in July. We have good times and bad times, like any couple. We are incredibly attracted to each other, and have an awesome sex life. A few months a...

I think my wife is looking to replace me with this girl

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

16 September 2009 (M) - Okay, this is a very long drawn out story, but I don't know who I can talk to about it. And I think I need some advice from someone with a really open mind. First off, I've been with my wife for 10 years and she is undoubtedly (along with my k...

Is it wise to keep hoping something would occur between this married woman and I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - I fell deeply in love with a woman last year, but I've never confessed this, since she's already married. She's just one of the loveliest people I've ever had the honor of knowing. Inside and out, she's so beautiful - she has the most wonderful ...

Am I about to marry the wrong guy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

16 September 2009 (F) - I was in a relationship with this guy at the age of 16.We used to go to highscool together.Later we went to the same college.Somehow it couldnt work between us . We kept coming up with things to quarrel about.I always felt that he did not give me ...

My girlfriemd says she wants to be a one man girl but I don't think I'm that man!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5336 days ago

15 September 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been in relationship since 9 months. SHe is the first love of my life and i want her to be the last love and i love her more then anything in the world. so I'm ready to compromise on all fields. but talks about her ...

After one month apart she got a new boyfriend but I still want to marry her!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5335 days ago

15 September 2009 (M) - Me and my ex have been together for 5 years and after a month apart she got a new boyfriend. I had planned to marry her before we broke up and still I want to marry her. What should I do?...

Is she stalking him or am I going nuts?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5315 days ago

15 September 2009 (F) - I dont know what to do about this girl.... I started to date my current boyfriend about 6 weeks ago. When we first got together, there was a bit of a problem with a friend of his . She had a huge crush on him, though she knew it would never be m...

My LONG story and current situation!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5326 days ago

14 September 2009 (M) - Right this is a VERY long one.. Back in October last year i was seeing another girl casually, i had been single for a long time and well we began talking and a few things lead to another we never slept together though i told her i didn't want sex,...

Should I keep him or walk away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5317 days ago

14 September 2009 (F) - Well people are gonna think im a right bitch i just have to tell someone, im 17 years old, and having an afair with a man who has a gf and little boy! i feel really sick about it but i didnt know until about a week ago, i really liked this man but ...

I left my shy, dull wife for a wildcat. I feel like I'm on a rollercoaster!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5336 days ago

14 September 2009 (M) - Left my wife of 15 years because we grew apart and it seemed like we just wanted different things in life. The thing is, my wife has always been painfully shy. Always hates crowds, or parties or bars. I live for the crowds and the parties and the ...