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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

I don't know how to feel about dating an army man. Should I?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I went out with some girlfriends to a bar a lot of army guys frequent; my friends really wanted to know what it was like to be with (i.e. sleep with) a military man. i wasn't so much into it because they kind of creep me out. but because i know my friends, i knew that if i ... (542 words)

One..two..I don't know what to do!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been with my bf for almost 3 years. He is a wonderful person who treats me really well and I have been happy. But the other night I was out with friends and I met another guy out. There was some serious chemistry and I ended up kissing him. I feel bad about what I have ... (146 words)

Can a women get really tight from doing kegel exercises?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife says she does the kegel exercise all the time but I can barely feel it when she squeezes. So I was wondering how strong a woman's vagina can actually get. Are there some woman that can squeeze so hard that it hurts him? Can some women massage him using just her ... (62 words)

Should I break up with b/f who swears he didn't put up a profile on a dating website? I know he did it!

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 4223 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My friend and I were looking at plenty of fish dating site today because we were really bored in work I've never been on there but she said she knew loads of people on there with cringey photos and stuff they'd written about themselves. Well I came accross my boyfriend on ... (244 words)

I messaged him on social media. I'm sure it's him, but he has not replied. Why would he ignore me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age - I'm just approaching 50,i've just seen a guy i knew over 32 years ago on a well known social networking site,i know its him,from the things he has said in a group on there,he's changed his surname though. I contacted him but he wont acknowledge me,was wondering why? I didnt a... (126 words)

Help! Any tips on making a presentation to my class on Thursday, and how to be confident and calm my nerves?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So i have to do a pitch in front of my class on thursday and i'm really shy and nervous. Any advice or tips on how to calm my nerves and build my confidence up for it. ... (38 words)

Date Suggestions Please!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I liked this guy in middle school for a year and a half. I got over him as I was too shy to do anything about it but now we are in the last year of high school and I think I like him again but I'm not sure. We are hanging out on Saturday. Where should I suggest we go? And what ... (70 words)

Extreme guilt after faking a pregnancy

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This is really hard for me to write about. When I was 16 I faked a pregnancy with my boyfriend at the time. I definitely had some sort of issues, I was cutting myself at the time and extremely depressed, manipulative, and obsessive. He had broken up with me but continued ... (627 words)

I love her so much that I'm scared to death to lose her

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - i've been dating my gf for two years now, and so far everything's been pretty great. really great. it seems to me like she is my first true relationship. i just entered my 30s and i feel like before that i was just drifting through the dating world with no real goal or woman in ... (373 words)

I texted him how I felt, and he never responded.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - A guy that I like and went on a date with texts me good morning and have a nice day often in the morning. And he always seems to do it right as I open my eyes and wake up. Well when he texted me to have a good day this morning, I just told him how I felt. I told him he makes me ... (134 words)

How do I handle this? He only comes around when he wants sex!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a heavy set woman that is very attractive and has had no problems finding ppl. But this one guy that I have been with only calls or comes around when he wants sex. How can I know if hes ashamed of me? Ive asked him over and over is he ashamed and Y when ppl ask him are we ... (81 words)

Could he care about our baby? Or is he just using me when he needs something?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello My name is Sexy C, I need some help I have been with this guy for about 17 years off and on. When he goes to jail im there for him when he comes home I might see him but he will go be other places and then when he needs something Im the one he calls. Ok heres the pro... (261 words)

Can blood tests detect an eating disorder?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F) age 30-35 - I haven't been eating properly and have been making myself sick for a few years now. I've recently had a blood test done at my doctors and i'm worried the blood test can detect eating disorders. I'd be way too embarrassed to discuss this with my doctor. Can blood tests detect a... (55 words)

Is a 13 year gap for dating really such a big deal.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4223 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've recently started casually dating a guy who is 13 years older than me, I'm 24. We're having lots of fun, i enjoy his company and its not serious. I get annoyed when we go out because people stare and comment, with one girl actually saying it was disgusting. I don't ... (191 words)

Does my ex still love me? Is my best friend right?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - okay so my ex and i have been broken up 6 months. oct 7 would have made it 2 years. we have a daughter he got married to a girl after being together a month and as from what i hear they have alot of problems, anyway when me and him were dating when i was still pregnant we had ... (415 words)

Should I tell my Fiance I made-out with another women?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello, feeling like a piece of crap and could use some advice. I've been with my fiance for 10yrs and we are planning our marriage here soon, and actually just had our engagement party with our friends last week. I love her dearly, we are made for each-other and I... (366 words)

My g/f is so mature that I feel like I need a "wilder" girlfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - my gf is just 22, so am i, and she's very mature for her age. maybe too mature sometimes. she's very responsible and she once told me she's had to be from an early age because her parents worked a lot and she's the eldest of her four little sisters. i get that, but there comes ... (393 words)

I am terrified of having sex,feels as if my whole life is going to crumble.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have joined this site with lots of hope. Since my younger days I used to be afraid of having sex but now it seems that I have succumbed to that fear.And I am unable to focus on anything now because of this pressure. I have been in love with my boy friend for several y... (269 words)

Why is my married ex calling me on the phone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age - My ex, who is now married, is flirting with me on the phone. I'm a little baffled because he dumped me after many years of living together and then married very quickly. My question is: is he trying to get me back or does he just realize he's made a mistake??... (51 words)

Partner wants a break, so scared I'm going to lose her. Please help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi, so confused and i'm a mess right now with the unbareable thought that my family could end up seporated. I will explain the story of whats led to this, and any constuctive advise i would be really greatful. I first met my girl 4 years ago and when we started we were ... (1693 words)

I couldn't orgasm even though g/f gave me hand job! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm a male virgin, and the other night i was with my girlfriend and things got pretty heated. She started giving me a hand job, but no matter how attracted to her i was, i wasn't able to orgasm!!! for some reason i just couldn't... i'm worried that she may be offended. So ... (79 words)

Can a guy change this much, to become so devoted to me? I'm worried my insecurities and jealousy will ruin it all.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Can anyone give me some advice on this Jealousy, It's getting me down. I have been wih my current partner for about 10/11 months. At the start he was a complete jack the lad, going out every weekend staying out etc. He had a few girl 'friends' that he would go training... (362 words)

If a man in a relationship had a choice of sex or a blow job, then why does he so often prefer the latter?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4223 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm trying to better understand men. Psychologically, what makes them more in the mood for a blow job over sex in the context of a relationship?... (26 words)

We broke up, but now she wants me back. Do I stand up to her? Usually she gets her own way.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4222 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello Everybody! Okay, I have a situation. I finished with my girlfriend a couple of weeks ago because she was cheating. Please see my previous questions. (Had really good advice as well. Thank you to all!) Anyway she got in touch the other day telling me how sorry she is ... (300 words)

How do I tell my sister and her husband about my new boyfriend? How can I get them to accept this relationship?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I live with my sister and her husband and am dating a guy they know the most. This guy usually fixes their computer and we fell in love. We are planning to tell them because we are not free because my sister and her husband have a business so they leave me with their children ... (166 words)

Should I send the evidence of his cheating to his wife? I wasted a year of my life with him and want revenge....

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4223 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age - I met a guy on a dating site who told me he was seperated, he told me he loved me after 2 weeks, he then told me he was still with the wife and begged me not to finsh it with him, he left her the week after, we had been seeing each other for over a year, viewing houses to buy ... (182 words)

Do good looking people stay single for longer because people are afraid to approach them?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4223 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it true that good looking people will stay single for a longer time periods than 'average' looking people, because other people (who are more insecure) won't approach them thinking they won't stand a chance anyway? I read this in an article a while ago. What do you guys ... (112 words)

Is this friendship with my friend's ex platonic? What should I do now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I met this guy(Let's call him Marco)5 months ago because he's my friend's ex-bf.They were still dating when I first met him.Marco is an asiaphile and he always says he's very interested in Asian girls and Asian culture.He said he finds asian girls attractive and he can't stay ... (468 words)

Straight guy having fantasies about giving oral sex to a man

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm a straight guy and have ways been in relationship with girls. I am currently in a long term relationship. But lately I been have fantasies about giving oral sex to men. I'm not attracted to men and I'm not turned on by men. But the idea of it really turns me on. I feel lik... (155 words)

Crush on former teacher is coming back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So recently my friend shared a video of our former middle school teacher on his facebook and my friend is a few years older than me so he doesn't know about the crush I had on that teacher because he graduated two years before me. Anyway... it's been 3 and a half years since ... (162 words)

I want to enjoy sex like my B/f does but I can't seem to because it hurts too much

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I want I know why sex still hurts for me. My first time with my boyfriend on June 8, it hurt a lot. On June 31st we did it again and it hurt a lot. On September 7th we did it again and it still hurt. Is there something wrong with me? I want to enjoy sex like he does but I can't ... (155 words)

I think I missed my chance to be with this great girl

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - I have no idea what to do with this girl. We'll call her Jane. I met her through one of my friends and we dated freshman year of highschool, it wasn't a very long relationship, we broke up because we could never see each other (going to different schools and both having ... (284 words)

Have you ever experienced such a terrible loss? If so, how did you survive?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi! I lost my beloved mom 1.5 years ago and I still miss her like crazy. I have an estranged father and a loving fiancé with a loving family. I've been through therapy for a while and found it very helpful, the shrink herself said I was good to go and ready to face life again- ... (196 words)

My professor almost slipped and called me cute?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My professor called me, well almost let it slip out, that he thinks I'm cute? He was saying some positive things about me and the word cute almost slipped out. I have a crush on him but I'd never do anything with him, My mom says our prior behaviors hint at us flirting with ... (62 words)

Pimples by my vagina?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - is it normal to have pimples by my vagina? i have shaved ever since high school so i know it's not those kinds of bumps. do i pop them? seems painful... (31 words)

Old fashioned b/f is not attached to his phone and is unreachable a good portion of the time!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I am in a relationship with a wonderful man and everything is in fact quite great between us. We have good communication and I have no doubt in his love for me. Sometimes, however, he is really unreachable. He is a full-time painter and is lately not having... (407 words)

My mom acts sexy in front of my boyfriend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3316 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Ok so i have been with this really great guy he is 26 and I'm 27, But i think that he checks out my mother. I don't really know for sure. I asked him about it and he says thats crazy. But here is something i do know for sure. My mother is 48 years old and she is attractive for ... (280 words)

What advice can you give for dating a younger man in university?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm a 22 year old senior and I like a 20 year old sophomore. I know age is just a number and whether or not the relationship will work depends on the two people. But does anyone have advice for dating a younger guy? Any insights or tips? Thanks! ... (49 words)

how can I make him talk/express his feelings, how can I stop him running away from me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4223 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My parner is a timid,fearful,coward kind of a person. He is a nice guy have feelings for me, bt never express them, never want to accept that he is emotioanlly connected to me! when ever there's problme between us, he just runs away... No reasons, no disucssion, no talks. ... (155 words)

Seperated for 3 months, both had sex partners, how do we move on???

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some serious opinions. I have been with my husband for 6 years. Rocky for last two years...since we got married. A year into the marriage my husband told me he had a one night stand. He told me a million times it was a mistake and he regretted it and was gonna change. I ... (273 words)

A man 40 years younger than me wants to marry me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age - I'm a 62 yr old black female who has a 23 year old black military male who wants to get married. I'm very fit and attractive. We are very compatible, get along great. What should I do?... (37 words)

I forgave my boyfriend for cheating on me but he cant seem to forgive himself and is left with a terrible feeling of guilt and self-loathing

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4226 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of four years cheated on me with a friend of ours about 4 months ago.. He was very drunk when it happened and he told me later that night when we were in bed together.. He is a very good and sweet guy.. I forgave him and said that it was only a kiss and that people ... (312 words)

Is it okay to have sex with my cousin's husband's younger brother?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (?) age 30-35 - I had sex with my cousins husband's younger brother. We are the same age(19) but now he says he wants to do it again. I'm kind of nervous about having sex again, yes we did it once but the fact that he is family now is getting to me. Is it wrong or okay in everyone's opini... (64 words)

Its been three months so why he doesn't go further than a normal kiss?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4224 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing this guy for three months, and we live about two and half hours away. We see each other on weekends. We have a lot of fun together and get along great. Just barely recently we had our first kiss. I'm just wondering why he doesn't go further than a normal ... (83 words)

I feel so empty inside and I'm rarely happy anymore

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I know this isn't something to mention on here and may be silly asking advice on, but I don't want to talk to my friends about this. I don't want my family, friends or anyone I know what i'm going through or how I feel. I don't know how i've actually got myself into this... (391 words)

I really liked this man but he did a 180 and I don't know why

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi everyone!, I met this guy online a year ago while I was going through a bunch of problems in my marriage with my ex-husband being abusive and all. I ended up losing contact with this person because I left my husband and went to stay in a shelter. I ended up calling the ... (257 words)

Is it too late to follow my heart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4225 days ago

1 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - My wife and I split up 10 years ago and the main issue was that I was focusing on my career so much that she felt neglected and finally had enough. From my point of view I was trying to make a good and secure life for us both and for a future family. From her point of view I ... (498 words)