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writes:My professor called me, well almost let it slip out, that he thinks I'm cute? He was saying some positive things about me and the word cute almost slipped out. I have a crush on him but I'd never do anything with him, My mom says our prior behaviors hint at us flirting with each other soooo what do you all think?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 October 2012):
 i think it's very unprofessional for a person in a position of authority to exert any influence like this over an underling.
In addition, you are young enough that you will possibly read into any actions inappropriately.
thirdly, just because he thinks your cute does not mean he wants a relationship with you... I think ducks and puppies and 18 yr old boys are cute too.... does not mean I want to date any of them...
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (1 October 2012):
 I dont really think it matters if he thinks you are cute or not - professors cant date their students, so he would lose his job if he tried to take anything further with you.
Stop flirting with him, stop over-analysing every little thing he says and move on. There is no point to worrying about what he is saying, nothing can come of it so stop obsessing and find a guy your own age who you can actually date.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (1 October 2012):
 I think you should stop altogether flirting with your professors, when there are so many other guys that you can flirt with , without making them risk their job and reputation.
And I think that your professor is a fool. Professors are human, and they have eyes too, and they surely will notice and appreciate if there's a student who stands out lookswise. But, they should never let it see, even in a jocular way . That's most unprofessional, and can only lead to gossips, resentments, and jealousy that could impact the quality of his work.
Some professionals have got to be neutral and make themselves oblivious to the beauty of their students / clients / patients. Call it hypocrisy if you wish, but doctors know better than saying " whoa nice rack " to a busty patient , even if it's just what they are thinking- it just cannot be done.
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