A
female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I met this guy(Let's call him Marco)5 months ago because he's my friend's ex-bf.They were still dating when I first met him.Marco is an asiaphile and he always says he's very interested in Asian girls and Asian culture.He said he finds asian girls attractive and he can't stay away from them.That's why all of his ex-gfs are Asian.I'm also an Asian girl.3 months ago,my friend(his ex)went back to her home country permanently so he broked up with her.I promise that I never had any feelings for him until 2 months ago he started talking to me on facebook chat every day for long hours.The more he talks to me,the more I like him.Now we become much closer like good friends.He definitely enjoys talking to me cos he told me I'm really good at talking.He told me he often waits for me to go online on facebook.I know he still misses his ex-gf and he still talks to her pretty much every day on skype.I don't get jealous or anything cos I feel very guilty.I know it's not appropriate to like my friend's ex-bf,but I can't help!Though my friend and I are not that close.She's just my normal friend(not good/close friend...as we don't talk that much.She's a very quiet girl).When they were dating a few months ago,Marco and I talked a lot more than I talked to her....(ok,i know this is weird).Marco has a low self-esteem.He told me he's lonely after his ex went back to asia.He told me a lot of times that plenty of girls forgot his existent.He told me he's very scared when it comes to asking girls out.He said he's also very shy to flirt with girls.He never intentionally flirts with girls.Once I asked him a question,"Do you think guys and girls can have a platonic friendship?" He said,"may be...it's hard for guys but it's easier for girls"Sometimes I find him very weird.I know he's a judgemental person.He said he dislikes a lot of people for no reason,especially the strangers.For instance,when I told him something about my previous crush who always treated me like a sh*t or a doormat,he said,"I hate him!He's such an ars*hole!stupid bastard!He's not nice to you!Please show me his picture on facebook.If he's not smoking hot,I'll get angry" When I showed Marco the picture of my previous crush,he said,"oh,stupid bastard!he looks weird.His hand reminds me of a spider...such a weird hand on your shoulder.He has a weird mustache going on!but you look so cute!I don't know what I should do now...Now we still talk to each other on facebook chat every day.Should I stop talking to him?I'm going back to Asia in 6 months anyway.....I'll definitely miss him...
View related questions:
crush, facebook, flirt, his ex, jealous, shy Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionalso,do you think the friendship of me and Marco is platonic? Should I stop talking to him on facebook chat?
A
reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer,but my friend is not close to me.We rarely talk to each other.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2012): please don't date your friend's ex. that's low. i know this will sound cliche, but think about how you would feel were it your friend thinking of dating your ex.
unless you talk to her about it and she TRULY is all right with it, then go ahead. but if you sense even the slightest hesitation or discomfort from her on the subject don't do it. be a good friend and it'll pay off in the future.
go with your 'feelings', whatever they might be for this 'Marco" and you could stand to lose a friend in the process. ask yourself this question: 'lose a friend, gain a boyfriend?'
Really think about it. is it worth it?
don't forget to talk to your friend about it. and let Marco know that as well.
...............................
|
