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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do I go to the next level without making him feel pressured?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello Aunts, so I think I finally met a keeper. I met a cute, dorky, funny, mature, and out going guy on a dating site three weeks ago. He stated he's only looking for friends because he just moved to this town, lets call it A, for school. I moved to a town, lets called K, t... (921 words)

I just want to know what I did wrong with her?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

10 October 2012 (M)

age 26-29 - Ok so i have talked about this girl a few times on here but now i am completely confused i met a girl online she is 13 i am i am 16. i told her i had feelings for her and she said she didnt like me in that way so we decided to stay friends well i dont know why but she is ... (278 words)

Does he have commitment issues and needs to be single?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

- hey, im in a dilemma, my ex i am still in love with dumped me in june because i looked at new farms and didnt want to go live with him in his dirty home(but it rly is). i need to make my own living, yes i didnt tell him i was doing so but now i am going to remain living l... (189 words)

We have no sex life and yet he paid for a lap dancer!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, from the ages of 18 to 20 and have never really had a normal sex life. He's pretty much a great guy besides this, we live together now because we wanted to take things to the next step, always being at each other's flats to ... (282 words)

I am wrong for her but how do I tell her I'm the problem?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4212 days ago

10 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I have been dating a girl for about 8 months now and at first it was great but I have grown bored. I know I am the problem because this has happened to me in the past I just thought I had grown out of that stage but it turns out I have not. I have previously cheated on her to ... (289 words)

Why would a guy break off friends with benefits?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have been hooking up with this guy for three months. Back then we agreed to keep it simple - no emotions, and if someone wanted to stop they would tell the other straight up I am a modest person by nature, but I feel like I need to mention that I am pretty good-loo... (212 words)

We were starting a family and I gave up my job to move. He left for his ex.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I had known each other through mutual friends and exes for years. We got along the first day we met, both having laid-back personalities. We never got the chance to really get to know one another because we both were with possessive, abusive, jealous people ... (1269 words)

Should I talk to him about the girls he's adding on his FB? He holds my hand in public looks me into my eyes and says he loves me.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4213 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - ok so i am in a relationship with a guy for about 7 mnths now. he does not belong to a vey rich family. he also had problems with his studies but crossing all the barriers he cleared a medical exam seat to be a doctor. before we had met he told me he never had a gf but used ... (363 words)

Is my boyfriend's ex a cause for concern?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - So I am dating someone new, and we've been together for about four months or so now. He is completely wonderful and I am very much in love with him. We started out both saying that we didn't want a relationship and wanted to just hang out for fun (he just gotten out of a ... (456 words)

Does my married father in law have a harmless crush on my aunt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - This will the second marriage for the both of us. My fiance's parents, 85 year old father and 80 year old mother live in the same small town as my widowed aunt. My aunt was widowed 2 years ago. She is 89. Since being widowed my fiance's parent's have driven my aunt to ... (405 words)

When do girls get past this immature rubbish?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

10 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Easy one, when do girls start to mature and stop messing nice guys like me around? I only ever seem to get "friendzoned" or they lead me on for a few weeks then have the whole "im a screw up, you deserve better" talk....seriously, it's ridiculous and makes your self esteem... (112 words)

How to stop my friend interfering in my relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My friend is starting to really tick me off! I've been with my boyfriend for two years, and though I wouldn't say I'm in love with him, I know I'm really crazy about him. He and I made a pact that we wouldn't just throw the "I Love You" around before knowing 100% that we mean ... (451 words)

Boyfriend is renting out spare room to another woman and I feel uncomfortable.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My fella of 6 months is struggling with bills even though he works. He has a mortgage to meet and has been worrying about winter fuel bills taking more. He cannot afford to go out except once a month, without me, so we stop in and one of us cooks, buys wine. He decided ... (157 words)

Lost my ex husband as a friend when he found someone else. What can I do to get the friendship back?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My ex husband and I were very close like best friends. He did a lot for me and loved and understood me deeply and unconditionally and was always happy for me. We had an open relationship which got messy and he fell in love with another girl. We had been together for 13 years ... (305 words)

How can I stop being clingy and keep my boyfriend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - well thanks to my stupidity... My bf and me have been dating for 3 months now and about last month (over summer) things were getting kind of serious and we both we getting very close, but since the past month he has given me mixed signals and I feel like he has backed off m... (159 words)

I'd like to pay my boyfriend back vacation money without causing offence. Any advice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I was invited on vacation with my boyfriend and his extended family a few months ago. Since we went during the spring break, it was more expensive than I could afford so he offered to pay (not loan) the balance, which was a little under 500$. He makes a lot more money than ... (146 words)

Did I do the right thing in finishing this relationship?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear Cupid Here it goes, me of my bf (soon to be ex) were on and off for past 2 years. He never calls and when I do he always says he is bored to talk to me, picks up a fight and wont call or return my calls for a week. Sometimes even without a fight he just wont call. I put up... (244 words)

Should I try to sort things out with my difficult friend or just walk away?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4211 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have a dilemma. I have been friends with this girl for over a decade. But now I'm at the end of my patience with her. She can be so rude and a princess who wants everyone to jump whenever she says so. And I am tired of it, done with it. But she's also a friend, and someone I ... (393 words)

Keep trying to work on my marriage or just end it and move on once and for all?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4211 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband and I have been together for 12 years, we have a 9 year old daughter. I am 46 and he is 34. In April 2012, out of the blue my husband asked for a divorce. I knew our relationship had gone bad. I gave up and settled, he started hanging with his friends, fishing ... (586 words)

My brothers room-mate: should I ask him to be my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4214 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - My name is Heather. I'm 14, almost 15. I really like this boy I have met twice. He's 17. I think he likes me, too. He has seriously flirted with me, like swatting me playfully but hard on my bottom below my shorts and tickling me a lot and beeping my nose, and once we looked at ... (959 words)

Mum wants me to see her gynaecologist. I want to see a different one. Shouldn't this be my decision?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 18 years old girl and soon I'm going to have my first gynecologist visit. My mother wants to send me to her gynecologist, that she has been visiting almost all her life. I don't want to see her gynecologist, because I don't want a female looking at me like that. I know that ... (119 words)

Boyfriend has pics of hot girls at his job. Why? I feel bad and unsexy.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Guys, please fill me in on this subject? I pulled up at my boyfriend's job yesterday ( I needed service on my car ) He is a mechanic. On his toolbox, I noticed a couple of posters of hot girls with barely any clothes on and a swimsuit calender of Sports Illustrated girl... (178 words)

Confused by girls behaviour and mixed signals. Does she like me? Am I at fault?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi there everybody ME: I have a name but I’m not telling. I am 29 years old and I want to tell my love story, just to help me figure this girl out. I am an engineer so, I don’t except to find the answer here, I expect some statistics ;) I will try to be brief but I also ... (1594 words)

Period brought on by sex? It only lasted 1 day!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so I am in a relationship have been for quite a while, just the other day I was due on my period, at first it was late evening, after having sex with my boyfriend it was spotting and only showing when wiping which was fine. Next day I was at my boyfriends house and I was ... (139 words)

Is it weird that I'm not interested in sex anymore?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm quite young but old enough for sex. At firzt I liked having sex with my boyfriend but since it started hurting I don't like to have sex anymore and haven't for a few months. Is this weird? ... (44 words)

My boyfriend has a thing for pregnant women, so does this mean he has a thing for my pregnant 19 year old daughter?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Agony Aunts I need help please!!!! I just recently found porn on my boyfriends phone. I was looking for a pic I had emailed him of a rare protected snake so it coulr be forward to the DNR. The porn was in the downloads with the picture he downloaded from me so how could I not ... (289 words)

Should I date this guy with no job and who didn't go to college? I like him!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey guys,I've been friends with this dude since early this year.(March to be precise).Well, we exchanged numbers and really hit it off.Lately we've been spending lots of time together and i really like him and he feels the same way too.Thing is he does'nt have a job and hasn't ... (78 words)

He's chatting to other girls online behind my back, is this cheating?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - i dont know how to word this effectively, my boyfriend and i have been together over a year and i thought we were happy, i know he has cheated in the past and im no saint myself but i thought that was all in the past, hand on my heart i can say ive been 100% faithful in the ... (143 words)

In a relationship. Is this flirting or being friendly, and is it wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4217 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi there, I am in a serious relationship with my boyfriend of nearly 4 years. I am from australia last night out of nowhere, the singer of one of my favorite bands (an american band who are quite famous and have played shows in australia with my boyfriends band) added... (307 words)

Do I not want sex anymore because I cant forgive him for cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, I was wondering if anyone can give me an insight on why I feel like this? Me and my hubby of 2yrs dnt really have sex, probably about 3/4 times a month if that. He wants it but I dont. Ever since I found out he cheated on me with my best friend (3yrs ago) iv not been... (169 words)

I fantasise about ugly old men! Is this normal?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm a 31 year old female in a relationship with a man a couple of years younger than me. But, by far one of my most potent sexual fantasies involves far older men, usually 60+, having sex with me or other women in their 20s or 30s. Usually the older and uglier, the better. ... (80 words)

Short term affair with girl from abroad. What are the rules?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Well, im peruvian and a girl came to my house to study abroad, she's living with me and my family. The thing is that i really like her and she also says that she feels the same way. Even though she also have told me that she loves me and I also feel the same way. The probl... (249 words)

Should I abandon ship or stay with a man who lately doesn't seem to like me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4215 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age - Is my boyfriend worth fighting for is it time to quit? We have been together for over 4 years. We live together in his house that he owns. I don't believe we will ever marry because he reminds me all the time that I am not the perfect woman for him. HIs issues with me are that ... (348 words)

Jealous room mate coming between me and my girlfriend.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello again Dearcupid! I've been going out with my girlfriend for now almost 2 and a half years, and everything is going great. My parents love her, her parents love me, my friends all like her, some of her friends like me. Except, at the start of this year she moved out wi... (870 words)

Illegal age difference but I like him! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am in a play and the accompanist is cute. I am however younger than he is and the age difference is 5 years which would be illegal for him since he's 21. I like him and don't know if he is interested single or not. I have had relationships with older guys before, however I am ... (120 words)

Abusive past and can't tolerate any porn. How can me and my partner move on?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in an on and off relationship with the father of my youngest son for 7 years. Things have been tumultuous from the beginning, us both being insecure and having other issues, mine being from an extremely abusive upbringing. My step father made kiddy porn in our ... (309 words)

I sometimes break down and cry because my daughter has ASD Autism Spectrum

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I know this site is for love, sex, and other questions such as this, but I have another heartache I would like to see if anyone can comment on. I have two daughter's 12 and 5 yrs old. My youngest has ASD Autism Spectrum Disorder. She was diagnosed right before her 3rd b-day. It ... (391 words)

We broke up a year ago and I still think of him, should I contact him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Its been a year now since my bf and I broke up. He cheated on me and shortly after we broke up he was in a relationship with her. We were together for three years. I haven't spoken seen or spoken to him since we broke up. It took me a while to get over the depression but I ... (113 words)

Is there any way to stop my period even though I'm already spotting?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4214 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I'm currently using the Nuvaring for birth control and started spotting this morning. It's brown and only shows up when wiping, which is typical for when I'm at the end of my period, but I'm thinking it could just be old blood since I didn't have a period last month. I sw... (155 words)

My parents have always been condescending and controlling and every attempt at a rational conversation with them turns into a huge fight

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4216 days ago

10 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - My relationship with my parents has never been very good. As far back as I can remember they have been little more than condescending and controlling. I am valedictorian and they tell me I'm not smart enough for the classes I'm in and when I am up late doing homework they are ... (239 words)