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Archived questions from: 28 October, 2012 (see latest questions)

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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Will a time ever come where I can accept what happened and move on with my boyfriend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4190 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all, Ever since I aborted my unplanned pregnancy, I have felt such a great deal of guilt and sadness. I know this is to be expected but the feeling of resent and anger is becoming too much to handle. My boyfriend hurt me so much during the time we found out, he made ... (560 words)

Why do I not feel aroused anymore?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4194 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Right this is probably the strangest thing i've ever had to ask a stranger but basically i lost my virginity to my previous partner, when i was with him we had sexual intercourse nearly everyday and i got horny and wanted to have sex but since meeting my new partner who i have ... (179 words)

Is it strange for a good looking 24 year old girl to be a virgin?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4194 days ago

28 October 2012 (F) age 30-35 - is it strange for a 24 year old , good looking girl to be a virgin? Some of my friends laugh about it and have told their guy friends who then called me the virgin mary. I like the way I am and am proud, why do others think it strange?? They think i have no confidence in myself ... (85 words)

She broke up with me saying she felt smothered! What can I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4193 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Ive been dating a girl for the past 6 months (2 of which i just courted her). She never has boyfriends or even hookups and i had very strong feelings for her so i took things slow. Shortly after, she lost her job/apt so i had her move in with me. Everything seemed to be great, ... (190 words)

Who do I believe? My friend? Or the guy?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4194 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Sorry in advance, this is probably going to be long. I've been joking up with this guy since July. From the beginning we said it wasn't going to be serious and if either of us wanted it to end we would say it flat out. We got closer over the weeks and admitted that we both like ... (149 words)

He is confusing me with his actions, what does this mean?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Me and my ex split nearly 2 years ago. He had to move to another state hence the split. After the split i found out i was pregnant and had our baby. 4 months after this he got engaged to someone else. He was always in our babys life and helped as much as he could... (334 words)

How can I encourage a girl to love me again? Because she hates me now

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - there was a girl she loved me but i broke her heart. She told me her secrets and i told only my best friend. He told her. i love her so much and she hates me now i tried to talk to her but she dont want to talk to me now i said sorry to her and told her i will never do it... (111 words)

Married user man vs nice guy

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, I have been in an affair with a colleague of mine for about 5 months now. He told me he is having a really tough time with his fiance that he has known for 10 years and lived together with. They are separated now and live in different states. She comes to visit once a m... (505 words)

LDR--I always have to call and its costing me a fortune!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I am in a Long distance relationship for over a year , but I do most of the calling by telephone and it is costing me a fortune ! He waits on me to call . I have now decided to not call for a couple of days to see if he can be more assertive . He is travelling to see me a... (89 words)

Why do I always bleed after having sex with this man?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I have kids and havent been with the dad for a few years..so I started seeing this one guy for a while and when we had sex, I would bleed. Not too heavy, but enough to notice. After I stopped seeing that guy, I started to date the father of my kids again...when we have sex, no ... (68 words)

Choosing between 2 men

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Who should I choose .... One is attractive, financialy and career stable, more serious about me and the future, loved by my parents, love him but sucks in bed The other is less attractive, less serious, can make plans forever, my family dont like him however I love him and h... (156 words)

Should I be emotionally drained from a relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I just shut out my boyfriend .....I have gone completely silent ...because I am tired. ..I am tired of giving ....all my energy is well spent ....his a very needy emotional demanding person and before I wouldn't mind listening, giving, helping, offering advice, however it just ... (246 words)

Should I tell my guy that I might be pregnant?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I was with my last boyfriend stuart for 6 months. I have the contraceptive implant and when me and ever since me and stuart broke up we still sleep together. I have miscounted my last period as I bleed everyday and have for a few months. I am overally emotional all the time ... (97 words)

How to earn my wifes love back?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4189 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - my wife and i have been together since she was seventeen and she is now 21. we had a very passionate realationship before our marriage and before our son was born. i lost my career before marriage and went into the marriage depressed. i have not been able to hold a job down for ... (699 words)

I want to make new friends but can't seem to do so

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hi, this is just a list of my feeling and i would like to know if anyone has any ideas on how to help me get out of this rut. ok so i used to have a group of good friends but they went to university and i stayed here and its not easy to travel to see them. they are always ... (269 words)

Does he find my lack of experience a turn off?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing a lovely guy for a few months - we've known each other for ages and we get on really well and there is that "spark" between us. We've started to have sex and its seems to be really good for both of us (well it is for me, he seems to enjoy it lol). The only t... (214 words)

I'm planning on taking my 15 year old car on a 4 hour trip. What concerns should I have?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - This isnt a quetsion about sex or a relationship, its just a common worry. My car is a 98 ford, and im planning on taking it on a 4 hour trip, and im kind of antsy. ive never taken it more then 20 miles, but i dont have any problems with it. I take good car of it and the owne... (109 words)

I can't understand his "on" and "off" signals

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I am a gay guy having a crush on another guy.. but the problem is he was flirting with me for quite some time, and at the beginning I was not sure of it. From time to time he gives out certain looks at me. We enjoy being together, he calls me to go shopping, we stand very close ... (145 words)

My friend/partner took advantage of us while they were housesitting!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband, son and I went on holiday last month for 2 weeks to a family wedding abroad. Usually when we go away my mum has a spare set of keys and comes to check on the house etc... However this time she was coming with us so my friend and her partner offered to watch the ... (677 words)

Help!!! I'm so unhappy with myself... how can I pull myself out of this?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4192 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm so unhappy with myself. I'm a terrible person and have lost all the people from my life because of it. i had a best friend from 13 years who did a lot for me and gave me eveything i wanted. i betrayed him and asked him to leave when he introduced me to his girl friend ... (551 words)

Help!!! I want to be MORE than just friends with her...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4191 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I'm 34, only recently discovered I'm an introvert. I'm not much outgoing since I truly hate loud groups of people. I'm not a very quick speaker, or overly witty. But i'm a kind guy and I know who I am and I know I'll make a great boyfriend for someone who loves me back. ... (537 words)

He can't stand conflict and always leaves...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - hi.. I've been really down because me and my boyfriend just recently had a fight but this one was different. He said he was tired of having disagreements and he said he can't keep going through these kind of disagreements anymore. He's never had a girlfriend before le... (352 words)

Waiting for her email.... or taking action?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4179 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I had an amazing 3 month relationship with a girl. After 2 months she started pulling away, avoiding sex. After 2 weeks of that we had a confrontation about it and she said she still wanted to be together. She lives in another city so after 2 weeks of not seeing each other... (598 words)

I texed him when I was drunk and now I'm really embarrassed. Help!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Damn!! I feel like a complete idiot. I've been seeing this guy for a few weeks everything seemed great etc. And then last week he calls it off saying it's not me it's him and he needs to do things, like work gym. So I was like what the heck? But I did get some blunt advice f... (166 words)

I don't know what to think... Has he fallen out of love with me???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - I've dated my boyfriend for 4 years. All that time he was caring and sensitive. Recently for the past few months I just don't understand what is happening with him. He is forever busy on weekends. If I want something I must do it now. Today he asked me to bring him food from my ... (149 words)

Help!!! How do I take things to the next level?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - hello , added this girl on facebook about 6 months ago, messaged each other every day, got her number and started flirting and chatting each other up. Eventualy i ask to meet her so we met up, at the end of the day (we only whent to town) she sat on my lap and flirtly st... (494 words)

Is it normal to get on so well with a mother in law?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am getting married in six months to my boyfriend of 4 years. I have known my fiancé since we were toddlers, and know his parents for almost as long. His parents like me a lot, and mine like him. I get on really we with my (soon to be) mother in law. I pop in for a cup of... (214 words)

Is she hinting to me that she wants a baby?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid! I'm really needing some help here?! I met a lady back in February. She's a really, really nice lady. She's older than me. She's 39. I'm 34 in a few days. Anyway, it was one of those 'The minute we laid eyes upon one another we fell for one another'! She's tol... (357 words)

My husband sides with his sister not me. How do I end this argurment and not feel aggrieved?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age - I really need some help here as I am going round in circles. I have had a massive falling out with my sister in law and we have had nothing to do with each other for about 18 months. My husband sided with her in the argument so naturally things have been very frosty brtween ... (378 words)

Contraceptive ideas???

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been with my bf for close to 3 years now and we've used condoms as a contraceptive. We got tested together and we're both sti free. Im really tired of using condoms, I'd like a different kind of contraceptive. I'm not a fan of the pill either coz i mostly meet my bf during ... (92 words)

She created a fake profile to talk with him after telling me she'd deleted him...

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - true issues. please help she made a fake profile on Facebook to talk to a guy behind my back, what should i do? Long story short, we had some trust issues because of this guy, she said she would block and delete him, she did that, then recently maybe a month ago she c... (196 words)

I'm getting confusing signals from her... is she interested, or not?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - Maybe you all can help me make sense of this. There’s this girl at school that I really like, but she’s being so confusing. I met her last year. We have some of the same friends, but have never really spent much time together one on one. We were at a party several weeks ago ... (545 words)

Is telling the truth one option? How do I get out of this tangled web of lies that I created? My Imaginary Gay Boyfriend is causing problems with my ex and I

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4194 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive. Firstly let me just say that I am a really honest guy, who doesn't normally lie (truth) (Hard to believe when you hear my story). But one lie I told recently has snowballed into hundreds of lies. OK - I... (896 words)

Am I drinking to the point where my caffeine intake is too high? I've switched to black tea now. is that better for my health?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I used to buy coffee from [biggest coffee chain in America] every day. I got hooked on the caffeine. The expenses were adding up so I switched to black tea by the same company which was cheaper. Now I buy black tea in bulk from supermarkets (100 tea bags for just $4) and bre... (222 words)

Just want to be friends. Should I be afraid to text him? Because I don't want to seem desperate.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4196 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So about two months ago, my crush's girlfriend broke up with him. Until then I didn't really know him, but we're in the same major and he likes to hug people so he'd always give me a hug. After a while I got his number and we talked and flirted a lot and hung out a coupl... (280 words)

She thinks I'm telling lies. So many misunderstandings. How do I convince her that I am the one telling the truth?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4184 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - i posted a question a couple weeks back and got some good feedback. i wanted to see if i couldn't get a few more opinions and elaborate on the most recent happenings. about six weeks ago, my girlfriend had asked to use my phone to look something up on the internet. i hand... (862 words)

What can I do? My love has faded. I don't know how to break up with him. And I cry just thinking about breaking up.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4190 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I need help..I've fallen out of love with my boyfriend. Been together for six months..i thought he couldn't handle commitment, and that he only wanted sex but he seems to put more effort into the relationship and i can see that he's really changing since i told him how i felt ... (132 words)

Why is it that black men or Indian men or Chinese men NEVER approach me to date me?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm of Indian origin but don't look stereotypically Indian. Most people find me too light skinned to be Indian and always think I'm half Indian. I'm pretty tall and have done ballet for years, so I'd say I have a pretty good figure. I'm quite skinny but I am very curvy. I h... (107 words)

I'm confused, because after 3 months she says she only wants to be friends. Why? is it just stress that's made this happen?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4196 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - I met a girl online. We talked on the site for over a month before she gave me her number Then after that, we texted and talked on the phone for 2 weeks before we went on a date. Sense then, we've gone out everyweekend for 2 months, sometimes twice a week. We talk every... (311 words)

Does he actually not like me and is he showing me that by pretty much ignoring me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I dated a guy for several months, we broke up for 6 months and I saw him again and we reconnected. It was what seemed a fresh start where we talked about how we hoped to have a future together. But he is in the military and got stationed on the other side of the U.S. H... (108 words)

What is the best way to support and deal with an emotionally damaged boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4188 days ago

28 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for two months. We met online and before I got into this relationship I knew he was damaged. All I know that one or more past girlfriends have cheated on him other than that I don't know a lot. He is very guarded to the point that he doe... (111 words)

Do you think my guitar playing can play a role in attracting a woman who will love me, into my life?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4189 days ago

28 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello ladies and gentlemen I have a weird question. How much does guitar playing affect in attracting females? I am a guitarist and I can shred, strum, sing and play ANY song. I compose my own music and cover many rock songs. I have been single for 2 years now and I have bee... (269 words)