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writes:I'm a straight guy and have ways been in relationship with girls. I am currently in a long term relationship. But lately I been have fantasies about giving oral sex to men. I'm not attracted to men and I'm not turned on by men. But the idea of it really turns me on. I feel like I need to try it but I don't want to cheat on my gf. And I'm also scared that if I try it once I will like it so much and want to keep doing it. Lately I have been very tempted to reply to an ad on a website. I know there may sociological reasons for this fantasy. But I don't know what to do about it. Do I just ignore it and get on with my life. My gf is very open minded but this may be too much for her.
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reader, Mains  +, writes (3 October 2012):
you're not gay just curious that's all. no worries at all
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reader, Tommy Crue  +, writes (1 October 2012):
Sorry dude, but if that is your fantasy, you're not as straight as you think you are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2012): Also face the same problem. I think it's natural to fantasize about this. As a guy we love our penis and have grown accustomed to it over the years. Also as a guy we are always horny, so it's not that weird to fantasize about something you love anyways and know well, in this case cock. My fiance and I do anal play but I've never thought about mentioning my fantasy, I don't think she'd leave me but it would be embarrassing. I could also appreciate advice on this by anyone who has gone through this conversation. Best of luck to you and stay strong.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 October 2012):
 As your gf to get a lifelike strap on and you can have your fantasy without cheating on her...
besides it's better to keep such a thing a fantasy
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reader, Peonysheart +, writes (1 October 2012):
 Sounds like your curious. You said your not attracted to men but the thought of it turns you on? Im not sure what the right move on your part would be. Maybe something has happened latley that caused this. Maybe the fellings will go away. Maybe they wont. If your in a long term relationship than I think its best to talk to her. Explain your not sure why but the thought turns you on. I would definatley not throw myself into a situation. The online ad I think would be a huge mistake if you have not spoken with your girlfriend. You say she is open minded however cheating is cheating regardless of male or female. Being curious is not actually doing it. If you do decide to try it you might find you hate yourself later or possibly wont even be able to go threw with it. If you cannot shake the thoughts I would definatley try talking to her about how your feeling.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (1 October 2012):
The key point here is you have a gf.
If you want to try this, fine but you cannot be with her - open-minded or not, this is cheating.
Do you know what has made you feel you want to try this and how long have you had these feelings for?
If you do end up doing it, only then will you know if it's a fantasy you just wanted to try or if it's something more.
From what you've said, it sounds more like a fantasy than you being bi or gay.
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