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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Can I trust my g/f not to cheat on me? She lied to me!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 36-40 - ok so i've been with my girl friend 5 months and she is the girl of my dreams and i believe she loves me also. thing is she was with somebody for 8 years and not been happy for a long time. we started seeing each other so she was cheating on this man with me and soon left him... (219 words)

21 and never been on a date. I'm worried I never will be!

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4200 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I am 21, I have never been on a date with a girl, never kissed a girl. My generalattitiude is "I can't do it, I am never going to find somene, so why bother anymore?" I know I am "attractive" I work out alot and my girl friends (notice the space) say I am hot/gorgeous... (131 words)

My feelings are turning into an obsession and I don't want them to!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - It's been a around 2years since I last saw him properly and I can't get over him. I eat sleep and dream him. I can't focus I text old friends to ask about him or to find out if he still talks about me or asks after me. I wait near school, drive round where he'll be I feel like ... (419 words)

Did I make a mistake by not kissing her on the first date

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I have been on a few first dates before. I have never kissed a girl or tried to make a move on her on a first date. One, I dont feel comfortable to try and to, I would want to show her im not trying to just get with her and that I want to get to know who you are.. I wen... (181 words)

Should I be worried if my boyfriend admits to cheating on past girlfriends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Should I be worried if my boyfriend admits to cheating on past girlfriends? I know it's not fair to hold his past that had nothing to do with us against him. I don't. I just can't help to be nervous though...because I was cheated on by my ex...and the heartbreak was s... (274 words)

Do you think my crush likes me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4160 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hello :) I posted a question about a week ago, but I only go one answer, so I'm posting it again. Do you think my crush likes me? I have two classes with my crush. First and second block. (by the way, we are both sophomores in high school) My first block has four groups, f... (467 words)

I get on really well with my boss. Why doesn't he make a move? Should I make the move?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I get on with my boss ridiculously well, we are completely on the same wavelength, both in our twenties and both single. For around 6 months we have been flirty in work (I usually only work with him on a weekend) and he often remarks that he thinks i look 'beautiful'. We had... (240 words)

Why is he texting me again and how should I approach him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex and I dated for around seven months. We spent a lot of time together and traveled together. Basically, he broke it off because he was hurt badly before by an ex-wife who cheated on him, and he’s been scared of relationships since then—until he met me, he said—at least ... (662 words)

My ex passed away and left me money, should I give it to his family?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone, I was dating this man for about 4 years after which we broke up,let's call him mark..so I broke up with mark cuz he cheated on me,and he begged for forgiveness I let it go once but I just cldnt get over the fact that he cheated and I left him..we had a wonderfu... (193 words)

Is my boyfriend possibly controlling and abusive? Is he playful or hurtful?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have a very playful relationship but sometimes he can take things too far. The other night we were playing around he hit my chest really hard so I backed if and that made him upset. So I pulled him outside to talk. And he was acting like he didn't even want ... (440 words)

Why am I never wet during sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - when having sex i've never been 'wet' and this makes sex VERY difficult and uncomfortable. Is this common or is something wrong here? ... (26 words)

Is my boyfriend a sex pest?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 4092 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Is my boyfriend a sex pest or am I just uninterested? I am a 42 year old divorced mother of two kids. I've been told I look young for my age and I think I do too. I waited two years before I "let down my walls" and just jumped head first into a relationship with a guy. He is 11... (485 words)

B/f has a darts night with a woman who is after him. How do I handle my troubled feelings?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi there Aunts, I have a continuing saga question...I can't seem to find my own way thru the fog yet have the nerve to give out advice to others that seems so clear to me. So humbly I need to ask how to handle myself, as I probably know what to do in the depths of my soul... (729 words)

What would you do about this over friendly teacher?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I wouldn't normally write something like this,but i need some type of advice. Last year i had a new teacher at school, at first i never exactly got on with him, but then he turned into my teacher and tutor. We didnt exactly get on but then he started asking me why i hated hi... (689 words)

Had a messy break up with my ex and he won't talk to me. What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I'm hoping someone could please provide me with some advice. I was recently in a relationship with my boyfriend for seven years - we got together when we were 15. The first couple of years were amazing, and we were very much in love. More than that, he was my best frie... (748 words)

Does this guy like me? I really like him!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi guys:) well i just want to know if you think this guy i know likes me because i am absolutely no good at this. background info- we both go to the same college and over the past year we have gotten really close, like he ll do/say things to me that he wont anyother person ... (303 words)

How can I forget this teacher I fell in love with?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - I want to share my story I am14 years old and I am a girl , my female teacher she came new at school I first fell like I have a crush but then now i have noticed that I love her , so ofcorse I didn't tell her but unfortunately , she had to go out of school so when I sent her a ... (116 words)

I don't know if I'm still in love with my ex...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know if i'm still in love with my ex... We had 5 yrs LDR and broke it off a little over one year ago. since then, we both started new relationships, but mantained frequent contact. A couple of weeks ago, we both started flirting over e-mail and ended up meetin... (186 words)

He's perfect -- except that we can't have kids

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - Ok - I have a slight issue... lol I really like older men - like REALLY like them. 3 previous relationships have always had a 20 year age gap. Is this normal?? Now I've started seeing a guy who is early 40's and he's everything I am looking for. But I'm starting to... (166 words)

He's not interested in providing for me if he passes away. Is he being selfish?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4200 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age - Hi I remarried in May this year, we both have grown up kids,I have 4 he has 2, He owns our house,and is buying another house to rent out, we have no life insurance, and Im worried that if he dies before me, I will have nothing,he always said his kids would have the house af... (156 words)

We've been fighting and he's texting someone late at night. Plus he says we're "on a break'. Should we stay together?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - My boyfriend and I are on a break. However we are still living together, it's awkward. We have been fighting a lot, especially in the last few months, and we have only been together for 8 months, living together for 6. Tensions were high and I had so much resentment towar... (332 words)

I think my younger friend is trying to let me down gently. How can I expand my circle of friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age - Hi I am 61 and had a crush on a fellow half my age -and we became platonic friends and e mailed occasionally and WHEN he came to the city we met for a coffee or lunch which I always paid for-he did offer though. He is a singer and no qualms about knowing he is a jack the lad ... (321 words)

And I being selfish wishing to back out of being a bridesmaid? The bride's expectations are too high.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - A very rich close friend of mine is getting married in February and has asked me to be one of her bridesmaids. Of course I said yes as I've known her for years but here's the problem, she expects that I will pay for the following: My dress £210, Shoes £60, Nails £30 Hair tri... (585 words)

How do I proceed with a lady who has panic attacks?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

- I was in a long distance relationship with a young lady who I had met online. This lady(let's call her Julia) had been raped and confined for 18 hours so she had issues. I visited her in July for the first time and things went quite well but unfortunately, she would get se... (338 words)

Why cant I orgasm when having sex? Is there something wrong with me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - why is easy for me to have orgasm using fingering or by myself than make sex to a man...why i never comeout or have orgasm is man used me by his penis..is there something wrong to my body?pls let me know why?thanks... (42 words)

Long distance and little effort

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - I have been seeing this girl for 3 months. Now we are long distance. I suddenly had a job meeting in her city so I took a flight and got suddenly there. Upon leaving I told her I was coming. She said she was busy but she ll try to see me that night, my only night. Got there and ... (186 words)

We are great friends and he wants to be with me but I just don't fancy him, am I being too picky? Or am I right to not want to risk our friendship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - I have this friend - we have been friends for around seven years and I would class him as my BEST male friend. Anyway, we met seven years ago - he was my best friend's bf for around 2 years and they have a child together. I am actually god mother :D yay! Me and my friend ... (230 words)

I finally left him but he is begging for me to go back, did I make the right choice?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 36-40 - hello, am glad i met you guys.coz i have something in my heart i just want to get off my chest. i have known my boyfriend for 2 years now.he has a history of being a drunk but when i met him he had just broke up with his ex becoz he ignores her and goes out drinkin with hi... (313 words)

I want to be with my boyfriend, but at the same time I need a partner who can support himself!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone. Just wondering if someone can give me their perspective on my situation. I've come across similar situations, yet none quite like mine. Here it goes,... I've been with the same guy for almost 10 years (I was 20, him 21). We've def had our ups and downs, b... (305 words)

I don't know if I'm strong enough to split up with my girlfriend, please help

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - i think i should split up with my girlfriend. i wont go into details but shes been treating me bad and the relationship is really getting me down. the problem is i've never done the splitting up before. i've always been the one whose been dumped. iv thought about it a lot a... (189 words)

Does she really have to use everyone she knows, just to be with her girlfriend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4203 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I think being bisexual was just a phase for me. Now I just feel empty and im not sure if its relief or want? Plus this whole ordeal about my sister being bisexual and her being hooked on her girlfriend like thats the only thing that matters. It has really changed her and ... (112 words)

How to introduce myself to this cute guy or strike up conversation with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - So I just moved to university in August and I live in res and there's this one reallllly cute guy who I think I'd have some stuff in common with, based on the way he dresses and stuff (if that makes sense). Anyway, problem is, I don't know anything about him except which fl... (105 words)

Two teens madly in love. Do I stay or go? Or should I move on and try again when he grows up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - So my boyfriend and I had been together for a year before suggesting that we take a break from the frustration of not seeing each other and fighting about it all the time. I was upset but found out that he just wanted me to be happy with someone. I could see and he was movin... (403 words)

Is it possible to get back the person I love? How do I show I have changed? I promised to change in the past and I failed to do so.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am still in love with my ex boyfriend and I really want us back together. we been together for almost two years and we broke up three weeks ago. He is suddenly so distant with me and ignores me. I know the reason is because we always argue about everything that in the end ... (243 words)

My wife has secrets. Do I sit on this? Or tell her I know everything?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4195 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello everyone im back!!!! My wife and i have been together for thirteen years. I was her first for everything. The problem with my wife is she has regrets for things she missed out on. I know cause when ever she makes comments like how she wish she did this or she didn... (597 words)

Is my Gf into a new guy? I'm not a jealous guy, but something is not right. Any suggestions to resolve this please?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4201 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I know this may sound bad but I think that my girlfriend is into some other guy. They always seem to be laughing and having the time of their lives (which I do not mind) but it seems like there is something else between them. She has recently been asking him to do things that I ... (99 words)

Is it twisted that I have a boyfriend yet I have feelings for two of my cousins as well?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4199 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 22 years old. I am in love with two of my cousins from my fathers side. The first one we will call "Charles". Until recently in December of last year, I confessed to him over the phone that I have found him attractive, he told me he has had feelings for me for years. We ... (311 words)

I have major Trust issues due to past experiences. Can you give me advice to cope better at trusting?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - It involves my ex bf. We broke up because I was a bit closed off, guarded even. I have a hard time trusting people and I've seen friends get cheated on so many times, that I have had an issue with trusting men I date. So, we broke up and I take full responsibility for it. He d... (438 words)

I'm genuine and not shallow. But his performance recently? What could be the problem? Nerves? Or problems in the future?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi there, new here but I've lurked around for a while so I'll just jump in. I had sex with my new boyfriend for the first time Saturday night. Foreplay was amazing best I've ever had actually, but when he wemt to put on the condom I noticed he wasn't all that big... and wasn... (155 words)

Broke up, it was the right thing to do. Soooo Why do I miss him so much ?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - In September I broke up with a guy who I have been on/off with for the past year and a half. I know I have done the right thing as I wasn't happy and wasn't getting what I needed from the relationship. We had recently got back together at the end of July after being apar... (167 words)

I get Soooo nervous around him. So how do I behave near my Crush? What should I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, I am a very shy 19 year old girl. There is this particular guy I have recently developed a bit of a crush on. I noticed that when we are talking in person, there are a few moments of awkward silences, which make me pretty nervous. He usually takes charge of the ... (173 words)

Is it wrong to stay with a woman, even if you do not see long term potential?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 4202 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 41-50 - Basically, my GF of 2 years cheated on me with a stranger. She denied cheating and lied to my face until I confronted her with circumstantial evidence that eventually made her confess. Although she denies having sexual intercourse, she admitted to receiving and giving oral ... (355 words)

Why are girls not interested in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4203 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 30-35 - I really can't understand why no girls are interested in me at all. I'm a nice caring guy, so can often get trapped in the friend zone but I was thinking the other day, I'm 19 and not one girl has ever shown an interest in me. I look in the mirror, and I'm not bad looking,... (160 words)

How do I get my friends and family to see that the relationship I have with younger girl friend is real and that she's not a gold digger?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4197 days ago

16 October 2012 (M)

age 51-59 - How do I get my friedns and family to see that the relationship I have with younger girl friend is real? I am 39 and a very successful business man. After breaking off my long time relationship with my ex I started dating a much younger 22 yr old named Tara. When the relatio... (541 words)