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Am I forcing a relationship?

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Question - (19 May 2022) 6 Answers - (Newest, 21 May 2022)
A female South Africa age 18-21, anonymous writes:

Everytime when i touch my boyfriend he will always take my hand off him and push me away.

When we sleep he does not even hug me .

When he talks, he always yells at me.

He doesnt come to see me, if i go to see him, he will always be on his phone or he will leave me in his room alone, He would threaten me if i try to talk about how he treats me, like he will tell me to leave his room.

Am i forcing a relationship here?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (21 May 2022):

Honeypie agony auntI agree, you do not have a relationship at all.

He treats you like a dog, stop talking to him, stop sleeping with him, stop visiting him, block him and move on. Don't date someone who doesn't treat you well.

He sounds like scum.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (20 May 2022):

kenny agony auntThis is no relationship, you are treated like dirt, he makes no effort with you, and is abusive, so why are you still with him calling this a relationship?.

Leave him and get out now, like YCBS says, this man is not for you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2022):

There is no relationship,why can you not see this yourself, it is as clear as the light of day. You throw yourself at him and let him use you for sex and as a punch bag. He uses you because you hand yourself on a plate over and over again continually putting up with his abuse and disinterest.

You cannot change him by saying you want to talk. Moaning at him and nagging him won't change him into a nice person or a person who loves you. He is what he is. You change what you are doing, not what he is doing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2022):

YCBS said it.

This is NOT what a healthy relationship is.

Why are you accepting this?

Is this how your parents treat each other?

Are you affraid of being alone?

I would cut all contact with this person.

Don't look for reasons why he's treating you the way he is. There are no JUSTIFICATIONS for this. I don't care about his potentially hard life, childhood, thefact that maybe he has issues with his sexuality and is trying to hide it... whatever. Stop contacti,g him and never answer his call or messages again. Block him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2022):

Obviously yes , since he made very clear that he is not i to you and he did everything he could, short of physical abuso, to keep you out of his life. The real question is WHY would you want a relationship with someone who does not love you, does not treat youbright, and, i fact, does not even bother to be vaguely polite.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (20 May 2022):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntWhat relationship? You don't actually HAVE a relationship. Is this how you want to live? Sort out your finances and get out. Find someone who wants to be with you, who treats you well. This is not the man for you.

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