What went wrong with our dating? I thought we were doing ok!
Q. I need advice on what went wrong with this guy. We met in April. He totally swept me off my feet I'm talking expensive dates,flowers a love story. He even gave me money when I was in need. It was long distance and he was coming to me every weekend. ...
A. 24 July 2023: I think that you had a lucky escape in my opinion, there are to many red flags with this guy
Stop wasting your valuable time and energy on this guy and move on.
I know it hurts so bad, but honestly time is the healer, just keep telling you... (read in full...)
How do I approach my girlfriend and tell her its ok if she's bi or a lesbian?
Q. Hello people, right so I think my girlfriend might be in the closet, or bi, or maybe just a free spirit, i don't know, let me explain. I know she's had 3 experiences with girls before but she always describes them as "just naughty" or play things, ...
A. 19 July 2023: Sounds like she does not know what she wants, by sounds of it she does not sound overly interested in you, but more interested in the opposite sex.
Whether its a male or female its still wrong to be going on dating apps and wanting dates with oth... (read in full...)
His remark has me wondering if I should end our friendship?
Q. I'm a 51 year old woman who is currently single (been divorced 10 years now). I had a relationship with another man two years younger than me straight after I got divorced - a rebound I guess - but this ended up with me finding out he had gone back ...
A. 19 July 2023: All sounds more like a convenience thing to me as neither of you have met anyone new yet.
You have been good to him, you have looked after him, and even now your willing to have a night at yours with him being picked up and dropped off as well.... (read in full...)
Why does this couple act this way?
Q. I really don't know what to think of these people's behavior. Can you help me make sense of it? This couple live near me. I have said hello to the lady, just in passing, 3 times (in case she maybe hadn't heard me for some reason). Both her and her...
A. 17 July 2023: I guess its like people you work with, some people are sociable, and some are not, and some are just odd balls. I guess we can't choose our neighbours, just like we can't choose our work colleagues i suppose.
I would not dwell on it to much, fo... (read in full...)
Should I text him and ask where we stand or should I end it?
Q. My boyfriend asked me for space and time after we had a misunderstanding and it’s been a month now of no contact. When I see him at public events he stares at me when he thinks I’m not looking but he makes no effort to come talk to me and doesn’t ...
A. 17 July 2023: I am sorry to say but i feel that this relationship is well and truly over.
You have seen him at public events and he make no effort to talk to you or even approach you, this in itself says it all really.
The 3am text i would imagine was a dr... (read in full...)
How would I even broach the topic of attempting to rekindle something with someone who once hurt me?
Q. Hi there - I have a situation who I don’t know who else to speak to about it. 3 years ago I was in a relationship with someone who I genuinely fell in love with. He had a lot of maturing to do and couldn’t quite seem to get to the point of saying he ...
A. 16 July 2023: I think that your family and friends are just worried about you and don't want to see you get hurt again, its normal, just means they care about you.
So he accepted a lunch date with someone he knew liked him, and never disclosed the fact he ... (read in full...)
I told my friend she was my forever crush girl
Q. I told my friend through text she is my forever girl crush (I am also a girl) and she didn’t say anything. She usually responds to my text within an hour or less. I have explained it means someone you admire etc. is she uncomfortable did I freak her ...
A. 15 July 2023: Yes is does sound like she is a bit freaked out by what you said.
There is nothing that you can do now, you have sent the text and there is nothing you can do. Unfortunately we can't unscramble scrambled eggs, so we have to live with the conseque... (read in full...)
Coworker questioning my virginity and sexuality
Q. Please help me address/respond to a nosy coworker. In the past I went to her about questions regarding guys/dating and that I told a guy something about me and I think it freaked him out. It was about my weight and how heavy I used to be-but she ...
A. 7 July 2023: Your life is none of her business, she is there to do do a job as are you and she really needs to stop asking you questions and being nosy about matters of a personal nature.
keep doing what you are doing and just deal with her of matters ... (read in full...)
He uses my secrets against me
Q. How do you deal with a bf who uses your secrets against you? We've been together about 2 years. Whenever he argues which is quite abit he decides to throw things on my face. For example I ruined all my relationships and I can't keep a man, I'm ...
A. 7 July 2023: Your post is quite short, and not much information given about this situation.
From what you have said he does not sound like a very nice person at all and sounds controlling and manipulative.
Well the truth of the matter is if you love some... (read in full...)
Dealing with a narcisstic man
Q. Has anyone ever dealt with a narcissistic man in a relationship? I am living with a guy who never says he is wrong. No matter what he does, it’s my fault, my mistake, my actions that has caused an argument or a disagreement. He’s always adding o...
A. 5 July 2023: I think its important in relationships to look out for what i call red flags, and from your post he is certainly displaying quite a few isen't he.
on top of being a narcissistic man, he is controlling your life, what you do and who you see. Als... (read in full...)
How to deal with a boyfriend who always asks for money?
Q. How to deal with a boyfriend who always asks for money? We've been together 2 years now and in this time he always asks for money. His latest request is his rent for $1500.00. He is always out of work. Some excuse. I need to focus on my own ...
A. 4 July 2023: He is not working, he is sponging money off of you left right and centre and i'm guessing you never see a penny of it back.
You have told him you are not his bank, but this does not sink in. Well I suppose he has got used to being a man of leisu... (read in full...)
I don't want to act jealous
Q. My FWB let his ex wife watch his cats while he was away. He has 4. I wasn't available. She stayed at his home 3 weeks while he was away, and I'm fine with that. She left pieces of clothing and incidentals in his home. She wants to pick them up she ...
A. 3 July 2023: Like the other aunts have already said you hold the FWB title so you can't really act jealous.
Its not like he even hid anything, he was upfront and honest with you.
Are you happy with being just FWB?. I get the impression from your post t... (read in full...)
What should I expect?
Q. Theoretical question. Say I meet a nice woman, and she eventually tells me that she wants to engage in sexual activity. Ok, cool, but, I don’t have much experience with sex, and I just want to know what should be expected of if I do the missionary ...
A. 3 July 2023: The only advice i can offer her is probably best not to over think things. The more you think about it and plan your every move the more difficult it will be.
Its all a learning curve, go with the flow, have fun and enjoy it. After the 1st time... (read in full...)
Confused but wish to see her again
Q. Dear Cupid, It is amazing to see this platform still standing. As it has helped me a lot in the past, back when I was still 16 years old and I haven't been here for a while. How time flies because I'm now 27 years old. Today, I am here bec...
A. 13 June 2023: I think you are lusting after her, and unlike the emotions of love lust is quite often short lived and these feelings will dissipate of their own accord.
And I think that's exactly what you should do, forget about her and let these emotions... (read in full...)
Does he see us s friends?
Q. I have being friends with a guy for the past 4 years. He’s 26 and I’m 31. We originally worked together as flight attendants and on our first trip, we just hit it off. It was like we’d known each other for years. We messaged a lot, have good banter, ...
A. 13 June 2023: Its hard to say how he see's it to be honest, I would guess he is thinking on the same lines as you are which is good friends that meet up from time to time with the occasional benefit thrown into the mix.
I feel if one of you were keener t... (read in full...)
Friends with an former fantasist lover? Bad idea
Q. Dear Cupid, Around a year ago, I made a new friend. We spent a lot of time together but it was for me purely platonic, never sexual or romantic though I enjoyed our friendship. Over time I suspected he might harbor deeper feelings but always assum...
A. 12 June 2023: I agree with YCBS, its unfair on either of you to continue this friendship.
The feelings he has for you are way greater than the feelings that you have for him. At the end of the day chemistry between a couple is a natural thing, if its not ther... (read in full...)
I want to leave him but I still love him.
Q. I have being living with my boyfriend for several months. We have a lot of arguments over small things but lately it’s becoming worse. He’s 34 and I’m 31. He doesn’t think he should help around the house and when he does he said he wants thanking ...
A. 8 June 2023: From your post i am hard pushed to find anything positive from your relationship with him. I know you say that you love him, but i wonder if you maybe you just think you love him, and that if you lived closer to home you would have left him a long ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him but I still love him.
Q. I have being living with my boyfriend for several months. We have a lot of arguments over small things but lately it’s becoming worse. He’s 34 and I’m 31. He doesn’t think he should help around the house and when he does he said he wants thanking ...
A. 8 June 2023: From your post i am hard pushed to find anything positive from your relationship with him. I know you say that you love him, but i wonder if you maybe you just think you love him, and that if you lived closer to home you would have left him a long ... (read in full...)
I want to leave him but I still love him.
Q. I have being living with my boyfriend for several months. We have a lot of arguments over small things but lately it’s becoming worse. He’s 34 and I’m 31. He doesn’t think he should help around the house and when he does he said he wants thanking ...
A. 8 June 2023: test... (read in full...)
Would you mind?
Q. Would you mind if your husband was looking at very scantily clad girls on Instagram? He only seems to do it when I'm asleep and has liked a few of the pictures. I know he's married and not blind and I don't have an issue when he notices a pretty ...
A. 7 June 2023: In my opinion i don't think it right or appropriate that he does this, especially when your asleep.
With porn these are fictitious characters, but the scantily clad woman on instagram are real, that he could potentially follow, or send messages... (read in full...)
Shes dating a friend we work together. It hurts
Q. Hi Guys, need advise on how to move on from a woman who rejected me a few years back, we stayed friends for a while, but unfortunately some truths had to be said which made her lose trust in me, but the truth actually helped her navigate a few t...
A. 7 June 2023: Well this is the problem of dating someone you work with, when things go sour you then have to see this person every day, not giving you the chance to get over the relationship.
I think one of you has to leave and find work elsware, or block yo... (read in full...)
Shes dating a friend we work together. It hurts
Q. Hi Guys, need advise on how to move on from a woman who rejected me a few years back, we stayed friends for a while, but unfortunately some truths had to be said which made her lose trust in me, but the truth actually helped her navigate a few t...
A. 7 June 2023: test... (read in full...)
Questioning our friendship as she behaved oddly
Q. I’m probably overthinking this but it’s upset me and made me a little paranoid…. The other weekend my husband and I went to London for his Birthday - we were going to have a nice dinner, watch a show and see some of the attractions. ...
A. 22 May 2023: Well she did not make things easy for herself did she, as you say all she really had to do was just a simple text back saying have a nice time as well and catch up soon.
You have been friends with her for 14 years, has she ever done anything... (read in full...)
Want to leave my fiancé because of his rough family!
Q. ? ? ? ?Firstly I know this is going to come off as me sounding rude and snobbish but I need to vent. I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years- we are due to get married next year but I’m having second thoughts because of his family. His f...
A. 22 May 2023: Once you marry him i suspect that his family will be playing a huge role in your life.
You are not married yet, so if you are having second thoughts before you get married listen to your gut feeling and what your heart is telling you. If your havi... (read in full...)
Emotional friend demands loyalty with ex
Q. A good friend of mine broke up with his ex around 1.5 years ago. He has been struggling with getting over the relationship and often is hurting and perhaps also dismantling his ex. I've often supported my friend who is also an amazing kind person ...
A. 22 May 2023: At the end of the day you are loyal to your friend and have been there for him through troubled times.
I think he needs to understand that this is business, you will be letting your apartment out so its completely business related. As you say you ... (read in full...)
Images of him with my friend haunt me
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for around seven months now and I am totally in love with him. After we first met and had been ‘talking’ for a few months I completely freaked out and started ignoring him for around two or three weeks. During ...
A. 18 May 2023: I think that in order for you to be free from the stresses you are feeling you need let them both go.
I feel it was a mistake starting something new with him, it was never going to work as you are never going to be able to get over the thought ... (read in full...)
Wait for fate or risk it
Q. Heya All, This is a petty question compared to most on here but was just looking the best way to approach a lady I find attractive. She works behind where I work at a women's hair salon and now and then I have seen her out the back having a c...
A. 24 March 2023: I think that sending her a message on FB would be a little creepy so I would refrain from going down that route.
I would advise just taking your time and just take one small step at a time. We really don't know her current situation do we, she ... (read in full...)
Am I correct in my opinion
Q. Hello. I’ve been seeing someone who’s a bit long distance. We hang out every 3 weeks. We take turns driving. I’m supposed to go up this weekend. To give him a heads up, I informed him I’ll be on my menstrual cycle. He says, “Lol..Not sure how to ...
A. 23 March 2023: I guess that you did what you thought was right, maybe he thought it was a bit of a random thing to say over text before you left to go down to see him.
I would give him the benefit of the doubt, maybe he was just being considerate as his wife... (read in full...)
Is my partner trying to get me to leave him?
Q. My partner puts me down in public, calls me names and talks about his ex and how other women with different hair colour to me look better. When I'm out with him he is constantly looking at other women on purpose. It's starting to wear me down I'm ...
A. 20 March 2023: I have to ask but why are are you with him. This relationship brings more negatives than positives.
He wears you down, and as a consequence you are losing confidence in yourself and you see an unhappy woman when you look in the mirror, this is ... (read in full...)
Is she avoiding me now?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a little embarrassed even asking this because I think I know the answer but the mixed signals are confusing. I became friends with someone I used to work with and recently things progressed between us. As she's an ex-hairdresser I ...
A. 20 March 2023: You really don't know what's going on in her life, and under the influence of alcohol we do things that we don't normally do.
I am not saying that she never enjoyed the experience with you, or that she does not like you because she probably... (read in full...)
Girlfriend texted my friend for 5 hours. It was innocent but why 5 hours?
Q. Hello. I have been dating this girl for 3 months. We are in our late 30s. Initially it was her who fell in love with me and now I love her too. We meet like once a week and text from time to time. I introduced her to my best friend and we all hang...
A. 11 March 2023: You have known her for three months, you meet once a week, so i'm sorry but how can you possible be calling this love at this early stage?.
In the little time you have known her, what i call the getting to know you stage in a relation... (read in full...)
Wife gets spacey when I talk to her
Q. sometimes when i try to talk to my wife she pauses and looks out in space and say words that lead nowhere, can someone tell me if shes ok?...
A. 10 March 2023: There could be a myriad of suggestions and answers here, at the end of the day no one really knows.
If your concerned about this maybe get her to looked at by a professional. ... (read in full...)
My ex makes little effort with our son
Q. Hi I just need a bit of advice on what to do regarding my sons dad we split up a year ago due to him cheating on me with my best friend he has our son twice a week for 2 hours a day and also pays no maintenance the problem is he won’t do anything ...
A. 10 March 2023: I think that you should maybe seek some legal advice, and get some form of child maintenance plan set up as he should really be contributing to the upbringing of his child.
I fail to see why he does not do anything with his child, especial... (read in full...)
I'm in an unhappy relationship and feel trapped
Q. I’m in a 6 year old relationship and I’m trapped. We broke up 3 years ago and then she found out she was pregnant so we got back together and I love my boy more than anything in the world and would do anything for him. The relationship was never ...
A. 10 March 2023: At the end of the day like Honeypie says you are not married to her so stop giving her all your money for her to squander away on herself and nights out no doubt.
I know you got back together with her because you had a child with her, but you ... (read in full...)
I just want to get rid of my virginity and move on
Q. Heres my problem. I’m 20 and still a virgin and haven’t had my first kiss yet. For me personally it isn’t something that I’m purposefully avoiding nor do I have strong feelings about sex. Tbh I just want to get rid of it so I can just move on. ...
A. 6 March 2023: You have probably got it set in your mind what you are going to do anyway regardless of advice offered here on DC.
I will say that you should hold onto your virginity for as long as possible until you find that special person who you love with all... (read in full...)
Odd experience at a house viewing.
Q. I’m on here to see if anyone else has had odd experiences whilst viewing houses to buy? My fiancé and I are looking to buy our first property, so obviously we didn’t really know what to expect when viewing homes. None of our friends are home...
A. 4 March 2023: Well I have brought and sold and viewed many properties in my time, I can't say I have encountered any experiences like this.
I have heard of lonely people putting their property on the market with absolutely no intention to sell just to get s... (read in full...)
I have a crush on a bisexual man
Q. Hi Aunties, I have fallen hard for a guy, real hard. He is younger than me by 10years. He says he is straight, l am gay. We have kissed and cuddled and he sends me love messages and calls me his queen. He is real sweet with me. We stay in diff...
A. 3 March 2023: Maybe when his girlfriend goes home there is a slight possibility that you may be intimate again, but when she come's back he will then go cold on you leaving you feeling hurt, neglected and jealous.
I can't see things changing and i think he... (read in full...)
Former FWB still has feelings for me not reciprocated
Q. I’m not quite sure how to sort of approach this situation. It’s quite complicated but to go back to the start. 12 years ago I met my now husband - he was in a relationship so nothing happened between us at that time. I did however have a 4 year ...
A. 27 February 2023: Its a tricky one I must say, I know the right thing to do would be to tell your husband what happened. But as you say it would put their relationship of 3o years in jeopardy, and also your friendship with his wife no doubt.
For this guy to come ... (read in full...)
My bf is very dirty. What do I do?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. After 5 months in the relationship I slowly started unraveling a kind of lie by ommission. Turns out he is a very dirty person. He doesn't wash his teeth. Takes baths once every two weeks and wears ...
A. 27 February 2023: Like the other aunts said this could be a sign of depression. Also it could be all he knows, it could be growing up he was never told to wash, or look after himself and he has taken this into adulthood.
Its good that he has got you to look out... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend I'm gay?
Q. How do I tell my girlfriend that she was right to be worried and that I am actually gay? Long story short my girlfriend always had this 'feeling I was gay' because I've had sex with men and I've always denied it, I don't know maybe I was hidi...
A. 27 February 2023: You need to tell her the truth sooner rather than later. Its not fair on her to keep going on living a lie like this.
I think she kind of knows that you are gay, so yes she will be upset, but she will get over it.
You really need to step up ... (read in full...)
My wife is cheating with former threesome partner
Q. i recently discovered that my wife has been seeing a man that in the past we had two threesomes with.. these threesomes ended or so i thought,when i had to have pelvis surgery due to a car accident..... unfortunetly the surgery affected my ability ...
A. 27 February 2023: I am sorry about what you are going through, this can't be easy.
Unfortunately this is the result of involving a third party within a marriage, looking back at previous DC posts threesomes never end well. You are potentially risking bringing... (read in full...)
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