Think I really hurt my friendship, what should I do?
Q. I’ve been friends with a male friend for a LONG time. I met him working at a GameStop and we became fast friends. However it turned out he really had feeling for me, I turned him down, (I’m gay) but he was really fun to hang out with and I wanted to ...
A. 6 December 2022: I think the problem is he developed feelings for you early on and probably felt like something could materialise as you both got on so well.
For no fault of your own his dreams of having you came crashing down when he found out you were off limi... (read in full...)
Blindsighted by breakup
Q. I want to know if I’m crazy for being totally blindsided by this breakup. I went on a date with this great guy about a year ago. Then we were talking, hung out together with our kids. And definitely had a connection. Then while I was out of town ...
A. 5 December 2022: I have got to be brutally honest with you here and say that you are better off without him in your life.
You had a family emergency which is important and took you out of town, and you get back to find he is back with an ex.
OP this should ... (read in full...)
Why does my partner say this?
Q. My partner regularly says hes going to do something that will put him in prison if he doesnt return to his home country soon. I pay all the expenses for my home and he spends his money in the first week and then lives off me for the rest of the m...
A. 5 December 2022: I have to ask the question, reading you post what what you mention why are you actually with this guy.
Are there any positives to this relationship at all?. He is ungrateful, spends all his money then lives off of you for the rest of the month.
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Why does my partner say this?
Q. My partner regularly says hes going to do something that will put him in prison if he doesnt return to his home country soon. I pay all the expenses for my home and he spends his money in the first week and then lives off me for the rest of the m...
A. 5 December 2022: test... (read in full...)
Former dating partner acts like he does not know me
Q. So a guy I was seeing ended things with me as I wanted commitment and he didn’t see me in that way. he was then with another girl and he didn’t want anymore to do with me even as a mate however that broke down within weeks. next thing he kept ...
A. 5 December 2022: I am going to be brutally honest here and say he is not someone you want or need in your life and my advice would be to delete and block him.
If you don't he will keep picking you up and putting you down, getting back in contact with you and bein... (read in full...)
I want my mom to stop talking to me she has a mental illness
Q. My mom she loves coming into the basement irritating me and threatening me and I don't want her coming to the basement I don't want her talking to me she has a mental illness and she doesn't want to admit to anybody she has one. ...
A. 3 December 2022: Do you work in the basement, or is this your bedroom?.
Have you thought about getting your own place and having your own space.
I'm sorry to hear she has a mental illness, but and the end of the day you are in your 40's and your mum should ... (read in full...)
I have no support around me when boyfriend and I argue
Q. I have being living with my boyfriend for the last three months. We have our ups and downs and arguments about day to day things. I live 5.5 hours away from my friends and family. My boyfriend lives about half an hour from his family. I lived away ...
A. 3 December 2022: They say that you never really truly know someone until you live with them.
It sounds like you have made a lot of sacrifices to set up home with him, while it seems he has made none. A lot of red flags are being presented here and you need to ... (read in full...)
Family always wants me to babysit
Q. I have a brother who is married with a wife and two kids. The problem is that my brother and sister-in-law are upset with me for always refusing to babysit. I have work, church and other activities that take up a lot of my time. My brot...
A. 29 November 2022: I think sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind and you need tell them that you are not happy babysitting every time they need you.
No you are not wrong for refusing to do so, far from it. Of course you love your Neice & Nephew which im sure you... (read in full...)
Afraid I’ll regret ending this friendship. Is this a friend worth keeping?
Q. Would you stay friends with someone who has the following traits? I need an outside person’s perspective: PROS: -Caring -There for you emotionally when need advice or venting -Helps in my mental health healing process -Feel less alone b...
A. 29 November 2022: There is no such thing as a perfect Friendship/relationship would be lovely if there was such a thing.
I think it's down to us as individuals to weigh up the pro's and cons and decide if they are worth keeping around or not, its up to us to decid... (read in full...)
Should I inform my ex’s family & friends that I’m he’s addicted to drugs in hopes that they’ll help him?
Q. My ex and I are very much in love but broke up amicably. He’s developed a drug addiction. He’s high functioning but it’s something I cannot accept. He’s admitted to his addiction and understands why I can’t be with him. He’ll be moving out this ...
A. 22 November 2022: I realise you are going to get varied opinions on this, but i am going to go along the lines of staying out of it and not informing them.
I know that you split amicably, and that is a good thing, but you have still broken up, and he is essentia... (read in full...)
He lied cheated on his partner then told me he never had feelings for me
Q. I’m in a horrible situation and would love some help please. I started dating a man back in June. We’d known each other through work for a couple of years and there has always been some flirtation between us so I was thrilled when he asked me out....
A. 22 November 2022: I am going to get straight to the point and say it really does not matter what he thinks anymore,we both know what sort of person he is and you dodged a bullet if you ask me as he is not someone you want in your life.
When you found out he has a... (read in full...)
He lied cheated on his partner then told me he never had feelings for me
Q. I’m in a horrible situation and would love some help please. I started dating a man back in June. We’d known each other through work for a couple of years and there has always been some flirtation between us so I was thrilled when he asked me out....
A. 22 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
No sex is he cheating?
Q. Me and my husband hadn’t had sex for 3 days because of his busy schedule. And when we finally did it he did not ejaculate a lot like he usually does even when we do it every day. Is that normal or should I be worried?...
A. 22 November 2022: Personally i don't think you have got anything to worry about. As you say lately he has had a busy schedule and probably has a lot on his mind at the moment.
It was only three day's since you had sex, and then you noticed a slight change that he ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is more extroverted than me and we have a family party to go to
Q. Hi, As the title suggests, my boyfriend, 27, of several years is more extroverted than me and seems to thrive in the company of others. He has lots of friends from different groups and he loves going out and can easily make friends with any...
A. 20 November 2022: At the end of the day no two people are the same, each and every one of us is different and we have certain things about us that make us unique.
All you can do is go to the party as a support for your boyfriend, and just be yourself. Sometime... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is more extroverted than me and we have a family party to go to
Q. Hi, As the title suggests, my boyfriend, 27, of several years is more extroverted than me and seems to thrive in the company of others. He has lots of friends from different groups and he loves going out and can easily make friends with any...
A. 20 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
I think my husband likes our sons girlfriend
Q. Stayed over at our oldest sons flat for 3 days with my husband and younger son. Our oldest lives with his girlfriend of 5 years. I didn’t want to stay there as I prefer a hotel to do my own thing and I go to the toilet a few times in the night so ...
A. 20 November 2022: I'm sorry to say but i think that you way over thinking this and blowing it out of all proportion in my opinion.
You husband is a man in his late 50's, and she is in her early 20's, and your sons partner, the thought of anything going on seems absu... (read in full...)
I think my husband likes our sons girlfriend
Q. Stayed over at our oldest sons flat for 3 days with my husband and younger son. Our oldest lives with his girlfriend of 5 years. I didn’t want to stay there as I prefer a hotel to do my own thing and I go to the toilet a few times in the night so ...
A. 20 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
Getting over someone’s promiscuous past
Q. Hey all! I’m struggling with what seems to be a rather common mental dilemma. I’m (28M) in a monogamous relationship with a girl (29F) that I was friends with in high school. We both went away to college, didn’t really talk much for like 8-9 years, ...
A. 20 November 2022: At the end of the day we all have a past no matter who we are and where we are from. I think its important to look at the hear and now, and the future, and stop looking back at the past.
The past is the past, it can't be changed, how ever much we w... (read in full...)
Getting over someone’s promiscuous past
Q. Hey all! I’m struggling with what seems to be a rather common mental dilemma. I’m (28M) in a monogamous relationship with a girl (29F) that I was friends with in high school. We both went away to college, didn’t really talk much for like 8-9 years, ...
A. 20 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
All we have done is kiss
Q. My boyfriend who is 19 won't touch me even when I ask him to. We have been dating for a year now and all we've done is just kissing,we haven't seen each other completely naked I tried numerous times to make a move on him but he avoids me telling me ...
A. 19 November 2022: He is doing the right thing and respecting your age. He may also be weary of taking things further with you at this age as potentially it could land him in deep water.
Whats the rush, take your time and enjoy each others company, there is plenty o... (read in full...)
All we have done is kiss
Q. My boyfriend who is 19 won't touch me even when I ask him to. We have been dating for a year now and all we've done is just kissing,we haven't seen each other completely naked I tried numerous times to make a move on him but he avoids me telling me ...
A. 19 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
Made mistake leaving dog behind
Q. I left my dog with my parents while moving to this country after marriage. I visit her once in four months. It's scary to transport overseas (because they would put her in a carrier and transport her like an object), my parents are attached to her ...
A. 9 November 2022: At the end of the day although you are not with your dog, she is still very much in your family, and is with your parents still very much loved. It could have been worse, you might have had to put her into care, or give to a couple you don't know, ... (read in full...)
Made mistake leaving dog behind
Q. I left my dog with my parents while moving to this country after marriage. I visit her once in four months. It's scary to transport overseas (because they would put her in a carrier and transport her like an object), my parents are attached to her ...
A. 9 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
He gave me chance after chance
Q. I used to enjoy flirting on dating apps and kinda having text and online relationships. I was in love with someone at the time. He found out about it, left, came back after I had convinced him it was nothing which was exactly what it was and I ...
A. 9 November 2022: Well they say what goes around comes around don't they.
You ask if he still loves you, and is there anyway back after four years, and like Honeypie says i am going to go with probably not, infact almost certainly not.
He changed his numb... (read in full...)
Cheating with an unattractive person due to alcohol
Q. All the names in this story are made up. My female friend Kelly asked me a question: I didn’t know a good answer to give her. Background: Kelly is in a 2 year relationship. Kelly, myself and Devin (guys she slept with- weighs 300 pounds, u...
A. 6 November 2022: It all seems rather pointless if i'm being brutally honest.
She is not your partner, she is someone you have known for a while, and just had sex with a colleague at a conference, which as a consequence she regrets.
His unattractiveness... (read in full...)
Pregnant and sex uncomfortable. How do I make husband understand
Q. I am five months pregnant and sex with my husband has been very painful. He wants to have sex once a day which we did when I was not pregnant but the further I get along the more painful it is. I am not sure how to stop. I just want to cut it o...
A. 4 November 2022: I think he has got to understand that things are different now, having sex is not the same as before you are pregnant. If you are in pain when you have sex he has got to be understanding of this, he has got to man up, accept that sex hurts you, and ... (read in full...)
My Wife Was Used to a Huge Dick Before Me; I am tiny. Will it ever feel the same?
Q. When we first started dating, my wife hid a secret from me.....she didn’t know how to tell me that she can’t feel me and she was used to her ex-boyfriend's big cock and a guy who fucked her to the point that there is no comparison. She’s very loud ...
A. 4 November 2022: Firstly i think she is wrong to ridicule you like she is, she is belittling you and not helping your feelings of inadequacy. I would not mind betting that most woman apart from your partner that is would tell you that its not the size, but what you ... (read in full...)
Partner invited friend over to stay while I am away
Q. It being less than month since I moved in with my boyfriend and I’m thinking I’ve done the wrong thing. Last week, he blurted out in an argument that he had invited his friend over to stay for the night whilst I’m away working. I have never met h...
A. 2 November 2022: If you have only been living together for a month and your already questioning if you have done the right thing is not a good sign.
Ok it's good that you trust him, trust is an important key in a relationship. But I think that having a female t... (read in full...)
Partner invited friend over to stay while I am away
Q. It being less than month since I moved in with my boyfriend and I’m thinking I’ve done the wrong thing. Last week, he blurted out in an argument that he had invited his friend over to stay for the night whilst I’m away working. I have never met h...
A. 2 November 2022: test... (read in full...)
How to get over dissapointment of being so close to finding The One?
Q. I fell in love with a guy who has so many characteristics I am looking for. He is so much of what I’ve hoped to have as a husband but never thought would exist out there. Long story short, he has three big deal breakers to him. These things are...
A. 2 November 2022: I think that you have got to pick yourself up, dust yourself down and move on putting this down to experience.
So he was close to being the one, but he wasen't there were red flags. Its a good thing you found the red flags now and not further ... (read in full...)
Is 30 too old to date?
Q. Hi there, this is my first time posting on here but I see people give really great advice. I am currently going through a divorce with my husband of 9 years. Nothing messy, we have just grown apart over the years and I put that down to being so...
A. 2 November 2022: The answer to your main question is no 30 is not to old to date. If the answer to that question was yes then it would not leave to much hope for people in their 40's 50's and beyond.
i am 46, my marriage ended in 2016 and yes its a daunting... (read in full...)
Lost attraction to my partner
Q. I'm really struggling with what to do and how to handle this situation. I've been with my partner for 4.5 years. She's very emotionally supportive and is my best friend, but I have lost all of my physical attraction to her at this point and it kills ...
A. 27 October 2022: The truth of the matter is we can't change people, we can offer advice, suggestions, or even drag them to somewhere they don't really want to be. But at the end of the day the only person that can help your partner is your partner herself, she has ... (read in full...)
How do I come out to my female partner
Q. How do I come out to my female partner? Hey people, any help will be appreciated, I'm looking for advice on how I can get out of a situation I've stupidly got myself in. So, I'm gay but have a girlfriend and I really don't want to hurt hurt, but the ...
A. 27 October 2022: Its good that you know you need to tell her, so i would not waste anymore time in doing so.
She is a human being with feelings, and i'm guessing that she has feeling for you. I feel the longer that you leave it the harder it will get, and the ... (read in full...)
What if you are turned on by your physical therapist?
Q. Hi. My first name is Tanner. I injured my right shoulder in a fall trying to do parkour on some concrete structures. I am obviously not as good as I thought. I had other injuries but the shoulder is the big deal. So right now I am doing physical...
A. 26 October 2022: This is just a school boy crush and nothing more. Unlike love crushes don't last forever and are often short lived.
I would refrain from thinking this is anything more that her being a professional body giving you PT therapy in order to get y... (read in full...)
Why won't he block her
Q. So I’m in a new relationship and things are amazing he’s the most amazing man I’ve met. We have such a laugh together and he says he hasn’t felt like this in a long time and we had a mini break together which was fantastic and we message all day ...
A. 24 October 2022: I think that ex's are ex's for a reason, and i think that if he was 100% in to you he would not keep her around, not keep liking her social media, and not keep in contact with her.
How would he feel if you had a hot ex that you kept in contact ... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating
Q. Been seeing a guy on and off for almost 2 years met through online dating. My friend is also on the site I was on. She told me a guy matches everything that my boyfriend is its certain things only he does its very rare things. The profile matched ...
A. 24 October 2022: You are two years into a relationship and its still on and off, he has met your friends, but you have not met his, and you are suspecting him of cheating.
There are a lot of red flags being displayed here, enough to make most people run for the ... (read in full...)
Should I marry him? Wait or leave?
Q. My fiancé and I have been together for 7 years and I’m still afraid to get married. He purposed at 6 months and I said yes because at the time things were going good but as time progressed it seems to have gotten worse. We are so different. He’s ...
A. 20 October 2022: As i was reading your post I noticed that everything to do with this relationship was negative, there was not one positive. I think that just on this basis alone is enough reason not to tie the Knot with him. Infact I think you have listed all the ... (read in full...)
Son not going to college or working, does not help around house
Q. Hi and thanks So my son is 21 years old. After he graduated at 17, he's had no motivation to get a job or attend college. I have tried countless times to talk to him about it. I believe he suffers from anxiety. He's always over think...
A. 19 October 2022: I think that you need to sit him down and have and have a chat and get some rules in place. Draw up a type of rota where he has some set tasks to do during the week, maybe jobs like taking the rubbish out, mowing the lawn, sorting his own laundry ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to attend our high school reunion. I am worried about how we will be treated
Q. My husband. Zach, and I graduated from a all boy Catholic school in 2003. We didn't know each other was gay in high school since we both didn't come out of the closet until after we graduated. I always love spending time with Zach, even in hi...
A. 13 October 2022: I think that you should just go and enjoy yourselves and hold your heads up high and be proud of who you are.
It's a school reunion, people that you went to school with years ago, who cares what they think. You will go there, have a good time, ha... (read in full...)
Did I answer her question wrong?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing someone for around 3 months everything is going great and im starting to really like her, however the other day she asked my if ive ever had a one night stand and immediately got up and left afterwards, I answered honestly and ...
A. 13 October 2022: Ok so you have been dating her for around 3 months which is fairly early days, but long enough where you can get away with asking these type of questions.
Maybe she really likes you, maybe she see's a future with you and is just interest... (read in full...)
Did I answer her question wrong?
Q. Hi, I have been seeing someone for around 3 months everything is going great and im starting to really like her, however the other day she asked my if ive ever had a one night stand and immediately got up and left afterwards, I answered honestly and ...
A. 13 October 2022: test... (read in full...)
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