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My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year

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Question - (24 April 2021) 6 Answers - (Newest, 28 April 2021)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My guy and I haven’t had sex in a year. At least since CoVid started. Since then we’ve goI believe I've met the love of my life, but he recently told me that I give bad head and he doesn't enjoy our sex. Can this be saved? through the stress of moving, buying a home and getting new jobs. A lot of huge life changes. We’ve gone on vacations and spend most weekends together but every time I try to make a move he doesn’t respond to it. He usually falls asleep before I do and in the mornings is never in the mood. I can please myself but I miss intimacy.

He won’t bring it up or talk about it even when I try to and it’s really staring to get to me.

He’s 33 and I’m 27 and I can’t live like this if he won’t even try or bother with me. It just feels like he’s always too tired for sex.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2021):

The bad head part. I wear a dental retainer at night. My oral blows the socks off my boyfriends and now husband. I lay him on his back and hover over him on my knees and forearms, squeeze his ass with both hands, hold his big dick in my mouth by slightly chomping on it with the smooth retainer. I adore, make love to that hard cock in my face. Also, you have to love doing it or it will be just a blow "job".

Get an athletic teeth guard, give it a try.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2021):

You are basically room mates and you wrote more in your second post. Lust is normal at the start of a relationship, it sounds like he is a commitment phobe, he likes the initial meeting with someone but then goes cold.

This is not about you personally and he isn't going to change, he needs to take a look at himself because he will go through his life in and out of relationship's.

When I was younger I placed more emphasis on first feelings for someone but the reality is until you really get to know someone you cannot know for sure if it's real and lasting love.

What he is telling you IS the reality, I don't mean about the blowjob but how he feels and his actions show also that his feelings for you are not reciprocated.

Again it's not about you personally but I'm sorry you are wasting your time continuing with him, hold your head up high and let him go, this can only cause you emotional damage

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2021):

Typo correction:

"He even gave you the royal kiss-off by telling you how badly you give oral-sex!"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2021):

I'd say it's over. He even gave you the royal kiss-off by tell you how badly you give oral-sex! Besides he rejects your moves, when you attempt to initiate sex.

After a year, you still haven't figured this out?

I think he has already answered your question loud and clear!

My dear, "infatuation" means only one person has feelings for the other between two people. Your situation now defines that word. I'm so sorry!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (26 April 2021):

Honeypie agony auntSeems like he is done with the relationship but is too much of a coward to end it. Or he feels he is in too deep financially to leave.

I can't imagine being in my 20's and not have a healthy sex life with my partner. While sex isn't the "be all end all" it seems like he just isn't into you at all, so why are you two still together?

He could have told you how HE likes to receive head, what HIS preferences are but he hasn't it was EASIER to just say you don't do it right...

Sorry, I think you need to accept it's over and then find a way to split assets in a fair manner and get on with life.

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A male reader, kenny United Kingdom + , writes (26 April 2021):

kenny agony auntSounds like the spark has gone out of your relationship.

Maybe try so do something romantic together, romantic meal perhaps, and maybe wear something a bit later on that might get him in the mood, maybe some role play as well.

If you find yourself keep doing all the leg work to get this relationship back on track then and he is making no effort at all, then you may have to be accepting of the fact that this relationship is over.

Relationship's are about working together, both making the same amount of effort. If its one sided and one person making all the effort it can be exhausting and energy draining.

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