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anonymous
writes:I am a twenty five year old married Indian woman with no children. About two years ago I met Bryan (not his real name) a married Blackman at his sister's birthday party. My husband was away for the weekend.I could see that Bryan was attracted to me.After the party Bryan offered to drive me home and I accepted. Bryan accompanied me in. I did not resist when Bryan hugged me and then kissed me One thing led to another and I let Bryan have sex with. Bryan spent the night having sex with several times. Bryan spent the next day, Sunday, having sex with me. For the last two years Bryan has been having sex with me almost daily. I enjoy having sex with Bryan more than with my husband I have now reached the stage when I prefer having sex with Bryan rather than with my husband. Bryan wants me to divorce my husband and be his mistress. Bryan is forty five. Should I do as Bryan wants?Please adviseAthma
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2021): Tell Brian He's your FWB, you don't want to be his mistress. You can find a new FWB, or not. Sex with the new guy is always more exciting. Being married takes that up a notch, it will wear off -- trust me. Two lovers is fun if you can pull it off. I juggled three in my single 20s, Eeny, meeny, miny, moe-- briefly had a FWB when married -- almost got my roaming ass divorced --.. 20s are for having fun -- Settled down at 30.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2021): You're supposed to ditch Bryan; because he's already married. If you don't love your husband, you may as well divorce him while you're at it.
You didn't mention whether you love Bryan, or your husband.
Would you really end your marriage only because you enjoy sex with another man? Is there nothing salvageable about your marriage?
If you're just an unhappy or neglected woman in a loveless-marriage; then leave your husband, but don't become somebody's sex-slave. You can't possibly be that self-abasing, impulsive, or lustful.
My dear, incase you hadn't noticed. You're already Bryan's mistress. He asked you to leave your husband; but made no suggestion of leaving his wife.
I know you're only 25, and it seems your husband is away a lot. If you come from a traditional Indian-heritage, and you were placed in an arranged-marriage; maybe you've never developed feelings for your husband. Otherwise, you've married too young; and you're too immature to comprehend the dynamics of marriage and monogamy. However, you do know right from wrong; and know cheating on your spouse is of the highest level of immoral behavior. Furthermore, objectifying Bryan due to his race, as if deferring to a racist myth about black men; that is nothing more than despicable.
Nobody can subsist on just sex. Have you been tested on the autism scale, or do you have Asperger's syndrome? You don't seem to grasp the depth and reality of this situation; and you seem to just submit to Bryan without any awareness of the consequences, or ramifications of all this.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (12 May 2021):
 While affairs all may all seem fun and exciting in the beginning no good will ever come of them, people will get hurt, and the end result is bleak.
Have a scroll through previous posts on here at DC regarding cheating, affairs, mistress's etc, and the outcome is always the same.
He wants you to leave your husband to be his mistress, so there is no mention of him leaving his wife for you is there, just you being his mistress, what does that tell you OP?
What it tells you is that he will stay with his wife and have you on the side dangling, sharing you with his wife, and seeing you when he can succesfully and slimily sneak away to be with you.
Is this the life you want for yourself, being his mistress will be no fun, he will have ruined your marriage while he gets to sucessfully keep his.
It will be a life built on lies and deciept, and no good will ever come of it.
You are not innocent in all of this as you have now cheated on your husband.
Should you do what Bryan wants?. After reading the responses you will receive from Aunts here at DC and looking back at previous posts i will leave you to make your own mind up on that one.
The right thing for you to do here in my opinion for what its worth, would be to ditch Bryan, and come clean to your husband with what you have done and let the chips fall where they may.
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