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writes:ok so i meet this guy through mutaul friends it wasnt planned , and i wasnt looking for anything or even thought anything of him but bam we hit it off like right away he took me home that day and he asked for my number so i gave it to him and 2 days went by and i called him ..ever since then we were like i dont know how to explain it his best friend so happens to be my best friends boyfriend and he told both of them that he feels like he has known me forever and that i was an awesome girl granted i have only known him a month but he has treated me better in that short month then anyone i had ever been involved with.Well about right after a month after we met he got a call from his recruiter for the army he had tried to join about a year ago but he was too heavy and was told he needed to lose some weight so he was like eh watever but this time he was asked to come in and try again so he did and made it... and he told me that he had always wanted to and when i asked him where we stand at he told me that he will be gone to bootcamp for 19 weeks then when he comes home he will be here for only 2 weeks then after that he will be gone to where ever they send him for a year or longer and that we didnt really have enough time together for it to be logical for him to ask me to wait and i respect that and knew that this is problay the right thing .. and his has told his whole family how he feels about me and all my friends that it was real but for some reason after that day he got very distant and never really called cept like twice and was really short with me after he asked for my adress so i went to his best friend and asked if he knew why he was being weird and he said thats is becasue he really was starting to fall for me but realized he really wanted the army thing to and he would rather avoid u or be short with so that i wont get any more attached and be more upset and just to let it go wich he made a comment before saying you will thank me later when i asked why he didnt want me to wait for him .. we were sexually involved but i really dont feel like it was all just about a guy getting laid because i really feel it was real and he was sincere but at the same time i have been through so many kinds of relationships where its always casual and never gets to that dating point but with him, the way he was with me i knew if things were different we would be together.I just wanted your advice and opinion on if you think he is full of poo or if its actually possible that he is being the logical and smart one out of the two haha becuase i have 2 opinions from everyone his family says he is right but others say pfft he was going into the army and knew he wouldnt be getting laid anymore and striahgt up used you... ahh what do you think? thanks ..monica
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reader, DV1 +, writes (22 May 2007):
 I know this may sound crazy, but-wait for him. If you really like him, wait. I know that you two aren't going to see each other a lot, but if he's even telling his family about you, it's something special. I believe in love at first sight, and I'm thinking that he does to. It is almost innappropriate for him to ask you to wait, but on the other hand, the final decision goes to you. If you believe that he's what you've been waiting for, then finally seeing him will be that much sweeter. It's not like you can't send letters and packages, or make phone calls. You can keep in contact, he just can't always share his location.
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reader, Jendorset  +, writes (22 May 2007):
I really dont see why he would even tell his family about you if he didnt have proper feelings for you.
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (22 May 2007):
 He is going to be gone for a long time. You hardly know each other and to ask you to wait for him is unfair and burdensome to you. If the two of you were a long time couple then to ask you to wait would have been reasonable, but under the circumstances I dont think it would be. I know this is dissapointing to you, it is very romantic to be asked to wait. But I agree with him, you need to be free to pursue other interests. That said, it is not unreasonable to keep in touch with each other and to see him on the rare occasion when he is in town. Tell him you want to keep in touch, but with no expectations. See how he feels about that.
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