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writes:I had sex on my period the other day and leaked all over my boyfriend's lower regions and our bed. He insisted he wasn't bothered at all and told me not to worry about it but I can't help it. I can't even look him in the eyes without feeling embarrassed.He'd been away for 3 weeks with work and got back on Monday. As you can imagine all we wanted to do was drag each other off to bed but a certain something was stopping us. I thought I could stick to just kissing and foreplay but we ended up both fully naked and me straddling him, so that went well.We were both so horny and he felt so hard I just couldn't resist so I rushed to the bathroom to take my tampon out so we could do it. There was only a tiny bit of blood on it and as I was on Day 5 of my period I thought I was over the worst of it already. I did tell him I might leak 'a bit' and he said it was fine.We then had amazing, mind-blowing sex and I had an incredible orgasm. He climaxed whilst I was on top and it all seemed so worth it in the end, but as I got off him he was covered in my blood all over his groin area. I then started leaking like a tap all over the bed. It was so embarrassing. My boyfriend just laughed it off and cleaned himself off in the shower before we changed the bed sheets. So no harm done right? Except I still feel mortified by it 3 days later. I don't know why either. My boyfriend literally hasn't mentioned it once, but I can't help feeling really insecure and that he's secretly gone off me because of it. Am I just being stupid?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2020): My boyfriend looked like he was mortally wounded after some of our period sexcapades!!! The sheets, the mattress and all!!! Honestly, it was the best sex ever. I was always horniest on my period. Both man and woman do MISS OUT when you limit yourselves. A period is a very natural thing and guys who get that and still want to get their sword bloody are to be treasured! So, ENJOY. There are no worries. It looks like you both are uninhibited enough to enjoy sex as it should be, in the moment, with no hang ups. And remember it is during that time of ovulation that a woman is most excited which means a good time for the guy too. So, understanding this is definitely key to a great sex life. Keep enjoying it! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2020): Oh sweetheart!Trust me, if your boyfriend says he doesn’t care - believe him! This has happened to me a few times too. But any mature man knows that periods are natural and accidents happen. I don’t know how long you have been with your boyfriend but believe me when I say you will encounter many embarrassing things when it comes to sex (not even just sex) with your partner. You may encounter fanny farts, actual farts, awkward fumbling, falling off the bed, leg cramps, men having trouble keeping it up - the list goes on and on. My partner had puked on me once when we were both drunk and having sex. He’s had to fish a tampon out of inside me once when the string broke as I was panicking (I have long nails and kept scratching myself). We also have sex on my period often. My point is, you will encounter many embarrassing things during sex. You need to realise that these things happen to most people and laugh it off. Your boyfriend is mature and probably hasn’t given it a second thought. He doesn’t care, he’s not embarrassed and has probably forgotten all about it. You should do the same. The human body is amazing. Woman have periods for a reason and an incredible reason if you think about it. Never be embarrassed by your body or what it can do. Mature men know this too. Your upsetting yourself for no reason.
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reader, 11muds11  +, writes (21 November 2020):
I think you need to look at it from a guy's perspective, and you might see it's the opposite. If you haven't seen your woman for 3 weeks, and she's still willing to do it with you, even though she's still on her period, even say she's on "Day 5", then she's a total keeper. He probably has more confidence now, that you did it.
And the way he's acted, he sounds like a keeper. This isn't negative if you think about it. It's actually can be a great relationship builder. You can even tell him your a little anxious about it, but make sure you tell him that the sex was "Mind blowing" and you just couldn't stop. That will make him feel even more confident, and so will you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2020): Never mind about men being put off by it, I have known men who get turned on by it and have fetishes over having sex with a woman while she is on her period, or watching her pee blood into a toilet, or using her tampon and all sorts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2020): He said he doesn’t care and if he doesn’t look or act like he doesn’t care then he doesn’t care. I’ve done it on my period too, I got it all over his lower regions as well and even accidentally got some on his bed, and he happily washed it. It’s ok, you’ll get used to it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2020): My husband likes period sex and tmi my bestfriend told me her boyfriend even eats her out while she's on it. Some men really don't mind
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2020): Hi
I have had sex during a period many, many times with blood absolutely everywhere!!
The men I have had this experience with couldn't have cared less and neither could I.
It's natural, it's normal. You are a woman and you bleed. Men know this and mostly aren't put off during this time in my experience.
Maybe just tell him, 'I don't know why, but I can't help feeling embarrassed about what happened the other night,' and see what he says.
Sounds to me as if he would rather have great sex with some blood at the end than no sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2020): A little too much info, but that's OK.
I had 4 longtime girlfriends, 3 loved it during. So does my wife. One thought it was gross. To each her own.
It was a perfect time not to use a condom in my late teens.
We keep a big thick towel just for that time.
It's nature's way. Get over it.
Be prepared, have fun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2020): From a male's perspective I really wouldn't worry. I've done it with my girlfriend whilst on her period in the past and it looked like a murder scene afterwards but it never bothered me. If your boyfriend was gonna be grossed out by Period Blood he wouldn't have taken the risk of doing it in the first place.But the fact he just laughed it off afterwards is a sign he was OK about it. Hell you even warned him you might leak and he said it was fine! Just relax, he'd been away for a long time and you were just acting on natural urges. You're young, I'm guessing he's a similar age. What you've described happens to loads of couples I'm sure!Just focus on how amazing the sex was. I'm sure that's the main thing he'll be remembering. But if you still can't shake it off then TALK to him! Obviously don't make it known about your insecurities about him going off you because of it but just kind of bring it up casually in conversation and say 'We probably should have waited until my period was over' just to gauge his reaction. I'm pretty sure he'd just say it doesn't bother him, but it would put your mind at rest.You two sound like you're in a good place. Good luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2020): There is nothing to be embarrassed about. It has happened to me few times and he knew I was on my period but didn’t care. One time it got to a point that we stopped because of bleeding. It’s just natural! You will laugh about it when you get older trust me!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2020): Hi
Some men mind, and some don't, he knew you were on your cycle, never be embarrassed by nature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2020): It has happened to me a few times, like you got to the end of my period, very little or no blood and then whoosh, one time all over a hotel white bed sheet. Yes it's embarrassing and you think he must think you are dirty, could have waited, but honestly any mature male and especially your boyfriend will not judge you and think beyond what it is, yes woman have periods!! Try not to worry, he is not judging you, these things do happen
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2020): I've been there! Day 6 of my period, I thought it was all over, but when I got up afterwards I realised there was a pool of dark red blood on my boyfriend's bedsheets, and all across his thighs. I was so mortified and upset I burst into tears, so he took the sheet and scrubbed it with baking soda and got the stain out while I just sobbed uselessly. Once I calmed down and he showed me there was no lasting harm done, I don't think we ever really discussed it again (except maybe to say "Should we put a towel down...just in case?" if my period has just finished). It's been three years now.
Your boyfriend sounds like he was just as mature about it as mine was. It's understandable to feel embarrassed, but these things happen! You'll look back some day and feel empathy for your past self, but also know that it really wasn't that big of a deal! Chin up and try not to worry :)
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (19 November 2020):
 You can't change what happened but you can change how you view it. Why not try to see it in a funny way? Many people manage to turn embarrassing episodes like this into funny stories which make people laugh. Listen to your boyfriend when he tells you it didn't bother him. Sounds like it seemed a lot worse to you than it did to him.
I could so easily turn this into a funny story if it had been me in your situation, exaggerating the amount of blood and the mortification I felt. Many women, especially when they are younger, view periods as something "dirty" when, in fact, they are just natural. Yes, some men might be grossed out by it, just as some people might be grossed out by feet or body hair or anything. Your boyfriend sounds quite mature and laid back. All he will remember will be the amazing rampant sex. You are the only one who is bothered by what happened.
Stop beating yourself up and just put it down to experience. I bet your boyfriend has forgotten about it already.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (19 November 2020):
 Eh, there isn't anything you can do to change what happened.
It's NOT uncommon for you to seemingly bleed MORE after an orgasm while on your period, after all, the muscles of the vagina and uterus produce powerful, rhythmic contractions. When orgasming. So any... drop of blood from the lining being "flushed" (period) will come out in one "gush" as the muscles STOP contracting from the orgasm. NORMAL!!
Let me repeat - TOTALLY normal!
So Either STICK to ORAL or maybe? Shower sex? When you are on your period.
But there is nothing dirty about it. Unless he is grossed out by blood (which it doesn't sound like) I don't think you have anything to worry about.
DO talk to him. If you can HAVE sex, you can TALK about sex. Tell him you are mortified.
I get why you feel that way, OP (think most women can) you didn't think that you would bleed all over him. We tend to all be a little worried about bodily fluids as it is.
He hasn't mentioned it because he KNOWS it embarrassed you. So he is being a gentleman about it.
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