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writes:I've been with my husband 6 years we got married 4 years ago. I moved in with him 3 days after we met,mad I know. The first 6 Months we're great. Then the bomb shell dropped,he had a mental health problem,he had been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. The true him started to show. He had a drink problem this has been going on for years even before he met me. Past relationships he has had ended because of drink, it's caused him to be sent to prison for 5 years before he knew me. He wonders why I look so unhappy lately,and is trying to turn the tables to blame me saying I bully him,which is stupid because I'm not. It's come to the point now I want to leave but I have no where to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2021): Call a local church and see if they can find you temporary shelter. You give no backstory about yourself. You moved-in with a man 3 days after you met him. You're only now discovering he suffers from borderline-personality disorder six years in?
Everyone has an origin, history, and a past. You left somebody, or your family, behind when you met the man who is now your husband, and must have burned some bridges behind you. There are very few people on this planet with no family anywhere. They will say they have no-one, when they really mean they don't want to deal with those they've left behind. Separated by feuds, old misunderstandings, unforgiveness, or harm they've done and have yet to atone for.
Were you homeless when you met your husband, or dealing with alcoholism or drug-addiction? No-one without some serious problem, or running from something, would move-in with someone they've just met.
You would have been in your 40's. There is so much left-out of your story, and it seems you turned to him to rescue you from something. How did you survive the past six years with this man? Did he just develop alcoholism and borderline-personality disorder all of a sudden?
I suspect that you might have someplace to go, if only you reached-out. Did you burn all your bridges behind you? Did you runaway from your past, and decide to write-off your family? Did you have past addictions, or where you a victim of abuse and forced to flee? It would serve you no purpose to hide anything. We don't know you, and nobody can judge you. There's a huge blank space to be filled.
Maybe it is time to reconnect with your kinship; and resolve some past issues. Then you won't be left all alone out in the world, at the mercy of an alcoholic-husband with mental-health issues. You've let six years pass you by without making a friend, or keeping in-touch with even a single family-member who would take you in or support you during a time of crisis?
If you do find shelter, and I pray the good Lord will help you; I strongly suggest you mend some fences, make some friends, and rebuild some family connections. If you are withholding forgiveness of someone close, or related to you, from your past; maybe this situation is God's way of making you reach-out to offer your forgiveness, or to seek it. Maybe this is a time of reparation and a new start. Maybe finding a church or place of worship will be a lifeline to all your troubles.
God be with you, may He bless you; and may you find peace and safety.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (10 March 2021):
 It is a shame that you moved with his after only 3 days, if you had waited it out a bit then maybe you would have found out all this stuff about him before hand, rather than moving in then getting married, then finding out all this stuff.
Anyway pointless going over all that now, what's done is done, unfortunately you can't unscramble scrambled eggs. You main concern now is getting a divorce and getting out of there.
I think that your first port of call should be to seek legal advice and find out where you stand with regards to your marriage, and also the house that you are both currently living in.
Confide in family and friends, don't go through this alone. You are very unhappy in this marriage, so its in your best interests to get the ball rolling sooner rather than later with ending this marriage.
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