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writes:hi i just broke up with my long term boyfriend of 6 years as we drifted apart he treated me great and he is still calling me and texting as he doesnt want to loose me im 23 and hes 30 i broke up with him because we drifted apart and i dont know if my feelings are 100percent for him as i was starting to have feelings for someone i work with and i still do i really like this guy we have a lot in common and he does remind me of my boyfriend a lot i really like him and often imagine us being together i dont know what to do i told my ex that we just need time apart so i can see if my feelings are the same. I dont want to break his heart its killing me to see what im putting him through Can anyone help me please
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reader, Nicole.x  +, writes (22 November 2008):
 Breaking up with someone is never easy, especially when you have been with them for a long period of time, whether it be your choice or not. I feel however you have done the right thing in a totally selfless way. If you don't feel as though your feelings are 100% there for him anymore, and he treated you great then surely it's best to let go, and yes... it will kill you to know that your hurting someone but in the long run maybe you are doing the right thing. If he treated you great then perhaps he deserves to have someone love him the way he loves you, even though it is hurting him now surely its better than hanging on in there so not to hurt him and then hurting him 10x more later on down the line. Try and think of it like this 'By letting go i am giving him the chance to find someone as great as what he is' :)
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reader, AskEve +, writes (21 November 2008):
 You were with him a long time so it will be difficult to get used to being on your own again. I take it from your age, he has been the most serious (if not only) relationship you've really had. You have a past together and even although you've now broken up, there will still be a fondness there. It's good you've taken some time out to get your head together. You might realise you feel more for him than you first thought and miss him more than you thought you would. Don't jump into another relationship too quickly, this would just be a rebound thing and would more than likely not work out.
Here are a couple of links for you to have a look at. They will help you sort your feelings out and hopefully decide if you've done the right thing.
http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up
http://www.wikihow.com/Break-up-With-Someone-Using-Style-and-Sensitivity
~Eve~
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): I have been through this, take time apart for maybe 2 or 3 months, then get back togather, and i tell you, your relationship will be stronger then ever. Dont go for the new guy, because that will just fail, as you see a resemblence in him that reminds you of your b/f or ex. Goodluck
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