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writes:She thinks about cheating on her boyfriend with me. We haven't done anything, yet. But the more we hang out, the higher the chances of something happening. I want to have an exclusive relationship with her. What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2008): demonstrate strength and higher social value by telling her that you like her but will not consider anything but a exclusive relationship.
go out and date some other women
this can probably be classified as a shit test to see how strong you are
seems like you passed by your response !
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Good for you, I think you have made the right decision. Seems if you got with her you'd only ever be second best. Hold your head high, won't be long till you DO meet someone who can put you first and love you exclusively.
~Eve~
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reader, agneeman  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 Don't be her doormat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all. She already knew how I felt about her and I reiterated it to her today. She told me that she's not willing to break things with this other guy. I'm going to try to move on. We had a brief relationship in the past, and we have so much in common, but it's clear it will never work.
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reader, rcn +, writes (21 November 2008):
 If she doesn't want to be with him, she needs to end it. With her wanting this shows an exclusive relationship with you may not be so exclusive from her end.
This is what you need to keep in mind, which is too often ignored by personal desire or whatever it may be. Behaviors in the way people treat one person, will not be so much different with the next. Her belief on how to deal with her current relationship is a behavior, that if with you, may repeat.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (21 November 2008):
If you want an exclusive relationship with her then you'll never have that as long as she's still with her boyfriend. What do you do??? YOU take the lead here and do the right thing. Tell her you'd love to give things a go with her but ONLY if she decides she really doesn't have feelings for her boyfriend any more and does the decent thing and tells him things aren't working out. Let her learn by YOUR example. Remember karma... what comes around goes around!
~Eve~
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reader, tbone79 +, writes (21 November 2008):
Well ask yourself this. What kind of person is she to be cheating on her boyfriend with you. Are you sure you want a relationship with this kind of person who is not responsible enough or caring enough to break it off with her boyfriend first?
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