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writes:I have a problem that's really starting to get to me. I'm 19 years old and been with my boyfriend (22) for 7 months now. We have a great relationship, very caring, loving, trusting etc, however our only problem is when I go out drinking...If I'm out with friends and I get drunk, I constantly text him and then the next morning I do not remember anything I've said, the texts usually start of nice and loving, but then when he doesn't reply (or I don't think he's replied) I start to get angry and say stupid things.Even when we go out drinking together, it gets to a point in the night where I'm quite drunk and get easily upset or offended with something he's said (even if it's nothing) I'll either argue with him or just storm off home.It doesn't happen every single time, but it's starting to annoy me because my boyfriend now feels that when I'm drinking he has to tip toe around me, scared that I'll just flip and go crazy at him for no reason.I was exactly like this with my ex boyfriend too, but it was so so much worse. I don't know what's wrong with me, at the start of our relationship we could go out and get drunk together and have such a laugh. I don't know what's changed.I know the easy answer is for me to stop drinking or cut down on alcohol to prevent this from happening, but we used to really enjoy getting tipsy together and I want us to be able to still have a laugh together when out at night.ps, when sober we very rarely argue as I don't get upset etc.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (18 February 2009):
 This is a common problem, and I would bet that most arguements start when people get drunk (especially when your young). Well I say that, but actually when your drunk it doesnt really matter how old you are, you can still act like an idiot.
I would suggest that you dont take your phone out, its probably safer. And when your together try to make an effort, and both not drink quite so much. Because if you value this man, and carry on like you are. You will lose him.
Good luck honey XX
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 February 2009):
 I think the simple answer is to take him with you as much as you can and drink less! I am the same as you, I always tend to send silly messages when drunk and cause problems with boyfriend even when they are there. But it has got less as I have got older (I'm now 21) - I think it is a maturity thing.
You have to be more aware of your limits - know that point when it goes from being tipsy to being drunk and annoying! Some people unfortunately are like you and me when they drink and there is nothing you can do about it, apart from drinking less.
Trying to be more aware when you are doing it too - try and stop yourself when you know you are arguing over nothing. The reason why it will have got worse is because at the start of a relationship you are always on your best behaviour and you are trying to impress. Once you let your guard down, your insecurities will come out and hence why you will argue.
If you are really concerned by this then a therapist might be the only way to solve it as they will be able to get to the route of the problem.
Good luck!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (18 February 2009):
 Sounds to me as if your drink consumption has gone out the window. You're certainly more than "tipsy" if you can't remember what happened the night before. I suggest you either NOT drink, cut the drinking down (know your limits), leave your phone at home or take him with you... simple!~Eve~
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