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writes: When I was 18 years old, I got my girlfriend, Stephanie, pregnant. She is the same age as I am.Due to different reasons, we choose to put our daughter up for adoption. Her family knows that she had a daughter and that I'm the father. Stephanie's cousin, who is about 15 years older than Stephanie and I, adopted our daughter. Our daughter's name is Sarah. Over the years, Stephanie kept me updated on how our daughter was doing. Sarah was raised knowing that she was adopted and her parents (adopted parents) gave her more information when she was growing up at different ages. She now knows that Stephanie is her biological mother instead of her cousin and that I'm her father. Sarah is now 18 years old. Stephanie called me the other day and explained that Sarah is curious on meeting her biological family from my side of the family. My brother and my sister also have children (Sarah's first cousin) that are also in their late teens and early twenties. The problem is that I never told my parents about Sarah. I know that Stephanie and I did the right thing for putting Sarah up for adoption, but I made the mistake of not telling my parents about Sarah when Stephanie was pregnant.How do I explain to my parents, siblings and nieces and nephew that I have a daughter that is 18 years old and she wants to meet them? Should I tell my nieces and nephew or should their parents (my siblings) tell them about their cousin?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (8 January 2024):
 Just tell them.
I think most would be happy for a new bonus family member. :)
You can't change the past or how THEY react.
Tell your parents first.
Then tell your siblings. THEY in turn can tell their kids.
Good luck !
This is NOT a bad thing. You did what you (felt) had to at 18.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (8 January 2024):
 It a tough one, but i feel here that all you can be is brutally honest, so i would choose the moment that feels right and just explain what happened then just let the chips fall where they may.
A lot of water has passed under the bridge, Your parents are older now, your daughter is now an adult, so I can only imagine your parents and other family members being happy for you.
I think that once you have told them you will feel a huge weight been lifted from your shoulders and you be glad you told them.
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