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writes:Am worried bout my friendshes 16 and has been spending alot of time with an older manhes 48 - thts older thn my dad!!few months ago her parents found out - she was still 15 thenanyways they contacted the police n he was gunna b done for being a perv but all charges were droppedi met him todayhes really sickatleast three times he made references bout having sex with her, she didnt seem 2 happy although they were flirting like me n my bf doi know shes 16 and technically a consenting adult but i cant help being worriedi would say something to her but shes da kind of girl who really freaks at you if you raise something with herhow can i do something to help? or should i leave her be?i don't know what i would do if something dangerous happened
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): How about your friend's feeling? I found some younger girls who are under 18, they go to Agematch.com to find their sugar daddies. I don't know whether your friend also just find sugar daddy, or she just like the age gap relationship. What you should do is ask her to be careful and give some suggestions if she feel not good. Anyway, never leave her.
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reader, Phil and Kayley  +, writes (26 September 2007):
 This is a difficult one, but feel compelled to answer.When I first met Phil I was 16 (well a couple of days off 17 but still) and he was 48. We were great friends with loads of things in common, same interests, likes, attitudes to life etc....My family found out, and so did the church I was attending and things really 'hit the fan'. Everyone around me was telling me that what we was doing was wrong (even though we were just friends), and what a bad person Phil was, and what a 'young niave girl' I was that didn't know what she wanted or what she was doing.Anyway to cut along story short, we are now happily married (almost twelve moths!!!)All I really want to say is that things might not be what they seem. Whether your friend is happy or not, you telling her what to do and what not to do will not help, it will only push her away.Stand by your friend and support her where possible. When she feels she can, or wants to - she will talk to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2007): her parents dont know - shes meeting him in wen shes got frees in college
i hav her mums number should i give her a quick ring 2 let her know???
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reader, On Cloud9 +, writes (20 September 2007):
 I understand you are extremely worried about your friend and it is a very large age difference. I personally like you worry about a man of 48 being interested in a 16 year old girl. Never a great sign, they should really know better. I mean if nothing else what kind of life will your friend have if she starts a relationship with this man? - I think that she will realise not a very good one. It's not like he will want to do the things that normal teenagers do and she will get bored of this, assuming that there will be an intimate relationship at all.
Her parents are aware, so I would assume that they will be watching this mans intentions towards their daughter very carefully and there may be more to this that meets the eye.
I would suggest that you mention it to you friend that you are worried and that you will be there for her and leave it be. You have done everything you can.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (20 September 2007):
 It seems to me you don't know all the facts here. The best thing you can say to her is to look after herself and be careful. Let her know you're there for her if she ever needs to talk and leave it at that. She's continuing to see him desite what anyone says. Sometimes we just need to leave them too it and find out the hard way. It's called tough love.
Eve
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