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writes:Guys, please fill me in on this subject? I pulled up at my boyfriend's job yesterday ( I needed service on my car ) He is a mechanic. On his toolbox, I noticed a couple of posters of hot girls with barely any clothes on and a swimsuit calender of Sports Illustrated girls on display for everyone to see.I felt a little bit sad and insulted. He didn't have any pics. of me up there, not even of us together. How should I interpret this? I know he loves me and we have been together for over a year. Another thing rang my bell as I watched the show "Family Guy" the other night and one of the characters asked " Why can't our wives/girlfriends look as hot as the girls we see on television, or be as entertaining"? It made me think. Do guys really feel this way about their significant other? It just makes me feel badly and not sexy enough... Reply to this Question
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reader, Nime +, writes (11 October 2012):
 I don't think you should judge him for this since this is at his work place. Maybe your boyfriend's a more private individual than you'd think and doesn't want to display you and his private life with you at work. I've been in a wonderful relationship for 4 years with my boyfriend, but I only have pictures of my dog at work; it doesn't mean I love my dog more. Also, I was at my job for at least a couple months before my coworkers who I was friendly with found out I had a boyfriend. Some of these coworkers are the type who manage to slip the fact they have a significant other within 5 minutes of meeting you; others have a spouse and kids and you don't find out for months. It just depends on how personal you want to be at work. Some people just don't feel like discussing or displaying their family life at the workplace because it's personal and private to them.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (10 October 2012):
 Well first off don't listen to Family Guy. I love that show and have seen every episode so I know how their jokes are, it isn't real men's thoughts, just something meant to be funny. Like their various jokes about Jewish people- not how Jewish people actually act. About the calendars and pictures- those women are not real women and not looked at in that way if that makes sense. They are pretty and nice to look at, but any man with half a brain knows that's not what they really look like. It's fake boobs, air brushing, fake hair extensions, loads of make up, push up bras, etc. It's like if you find a male actor attractive. You don't compare him directly to your boyfriend. He's just a good looking guy. You wouldn't prefer him to your boyfriend, you don't even know him as a person, he is just good looking, that's all. And you know he's not like an average man, he has fitness trainers and loads of money to spend on his perfect physique, hair, skin. Like I think Ryan Gosling is one nice looking man. Would I leave my husband for him if he were interested? No, I don't even know the guy and I love my husband. It's the same way for your boyfriend.
Also he doesn't have pictures of you up everywhere at the mechanic's place because he's a guy. They are supposed to post that kind of thing in that environment. If he had pictures of the 2 of you I'm sure he would get picked on for it. So don't let it get to you. He doesn't directly compare you to them. And even if they look great it is with A LOT of work. I'm sure you could look just as good with an entourage of make up and stylists then someone to airbrush any imperfections.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 October 2012):
 oh please... you are comparing yourself to a bunch of overly skinny airbrushed models?
aren't guys in garages supposed to have pinup girl pictures?
I have no pictures of my husband on my desk... just my kids (he's not the dad)....
I think you are just looking for trouble and a reason to feel bad.
did you ASK HIM if you are sexy enough?
I know my husband prefers a different type of woman to me but HE MARRIED ME... he LOVES ME... I"M SEXY enough for HIM... even if other women are younger (I'm 52 to his 39) and prettier and thinner and sexier... he may look at them but HE COMES HOME TO ME.... and he's WITH ME...
your bf is with you why do a bunch of make believe girls make you feel so insecure... truth is if they look good in pictures then they are bone skinny in real life and they are lousy to hug...
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