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writes:Is my boyfriend worth fighting for is it time to quit? We have been together for over 4 years. We live together in his house that he owns. I don't believe we will ever marry because he reminds me all the time that I am not the perfect woman for him. HIs issues with me are that I stand up for what I need. His ex-wife did not speak her mind and even stayed with him after he told her he wanted to sleep with her sister. He likes women who are compliant and allow him to flirt. He had a relationship before he met me with a woman who allowed him to sleep with other women. When I met him after dating a period of time I told him I don't sleep with people who are sleeping with other people. We agreed to be exclusive. He has not been honest with me lately about his behavior so I told him that if he wants to be single be single and I will move out. The only time he is really nice to me is when we are alone. He rarely puts his arm around me in public. I see him trying to catch others eyes and he tells me he is just being friendly. He has relatively unhealthy relationships with his daughters. Allowing them to rely on him almost as a boyfriend. He tells me all men are attracted to other women and flirting is just being friendly. Then he accuses me of flirting.He is not nice to me lately. I am sad and tired. I have no money but would rather be homeless than live with someone who doesn't love me. He says he does but in the next breath will tell me to leave. I am worn out. He has some good qualities but I am emotionally drained. I am 52 and may never meet anyone else. I just want to be happy and in a tender relationship with someone who gets me.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (11 October 2012):
 All good reasons to get him out of your life.
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reader, Lola333 +, writes (11 October 2012):
Lola333 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am really ill right now and he doesn't call to check on me or even email me during the day to see how I am. He doesn't ask if I even need a drink of water when I am in bed. He once told me that if I asked nicely for what I need I would get it but that is crap. I don't get it. He doesn't even listen to my voice mails when I call. He cleared out 3 of them this morning while I was here.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (10 October 2012):
I agree with SoVery, I think you need to make a plan and leave. You are living on your nerves and things will just get worse and more resentful.
There is still time for you to find happiness so don't count yourself out of the game just yet. I think you are so downtrodden by this man that you have just lost a bit of confidence. Take control, maybe look for a better job and save some money.
Where there is life, there is hope xxx
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 October 2012):
 He is emotionally abusive .. you say he tells you basically he's settling for you as you are not "the perfect woman" well who is?
you want to marry based on what you said and he does not...
he lies to you (he's not being honest with you)
he's not nice to you
it's HIS house not a joint venture.
I am 52 and just got married on Saturday to my new 39 year old husband. 52 is YOUNG in this day and age...
You are not happy..
are you working and can you support yourself?
if so I would suggest making an exit strategy.
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