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writes:I left my dog with my parents while moving to this country after marriage. I visit her once in four months. It's scary to transport overseas (because they would put her in a carrier and transport her like an object), my parents are attached to her and we might move back to India later. Considering these factors I decided against bringing her. But it's becoming very painful for me. I keep missing my dog, craving her to be close to me. It becomes unbearable when I start questioning why I'm here and why did I move. I have a good marital life. However, it's completely irrational but I sometimes compare my dog's love to husband's and think I shouldn't have left her behind and decided to move. I feel anger and guilt that I made a sacrifice. It's probably the biggest one. I want her so badly right now. I cannot measure the worth of her against anything- not even my own life. My heart physically aches when I think about it. What should I do?? Wait for a better timing? Wait to see if we are going back or staying here for the long term? She is seven years old. Reply to this Question
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (12 November 2022):
 P.S. Sorry about Harlotsghost's rude and stupid post. A troll who doesn't even know women don't have a penis, lol.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (12 November 2022):
I completely empathize how difficult it must have been for you, leaving behind a much loved pet. However, your dog is with people who love her, so is happy. This is her new life and she is lucky to have so many people who love her. Uprooting her, especially when you do not know what your long term plans are, would not be fair on her, or your parents who have grown attached to her.
Make the most of your time when you see her and hold off making any long term decisions until you know where your future lies.
Stay strong.
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reader, Harlotsghost +, writes (11 November 2022):
It’s a dog, get over it already. What has come over people who can’t seem to prioritize? Stick your d*ck in something warm and forget the dog.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (9 November 2022):
 At the end of the day although you are not with your dog, she is still very much in your family, and is with your parents still very much loved. It could have been worse, you might have had to put her into care, or give to a couple you don't know, so at least you know she is loved and you can see her when you go back.
At the end of the day you are in a marriage, you can't compare your dogs love to your husbands, that's absurd. So run into marriage difficulties because of your 7 year old dog back home seen ridiculous to me.
I know the love you can have for a dog, i have a dog myself and i know we get attached to our animals.
As i said, your dog is with your parents and loved. Have you considered the option of getting a dog where you live with your husband?. Not a replacement for your dog back home of course, but i'm sure in time you will start to love it just the same.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (9 November 2022):
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