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writes: I am five months pregnant and sex with my husband has been very painful. He wants to have sex once a day which we did when I was not pregnant but the further I get along the more painful it is. I am not sure how to stop. I just want to cut it off until the baby is born.When I tell him no to sex he becomes disappointed How should I approach him to tell him I need to stop. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (5 November 2022):
 OP,
YOU need to talk to him. He needs to RESPECT this boundary. Many (especially first-time moms) are terrified that sex can hurt the baby, and others are just not physically able due to the changes in the pelvic floor. HE NEEDS TO LISTEN and accept. The World isn't coming to an end because he isn't getting his wick wet!!
However, IF you at some point find that YOU want some intimacy of sorts... You might ALSO want to consider there are OTHER forms of intimacy that don't involve sexual intercourse or penetration.
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (4 November 2022):
 I think he has got to understand that things are different now, having sex is not the same as before you are pregnant. If you are in pain when you have sex he has got to be understanding of this, he has got to man up, accept that sex hurts you, and be supportive of this.
If you tell him no to sex and he becomes disappointed this just shows in my opinion unsupportiveness, and immaturity.
There are other ways other than sex that i'm sure a little bit of imagination you can work your way around this.
Communication is the key here, tell him that sex is off the cards until after the baby is born, and that's it. If he is a true gent, and a man worthy of your love he will be 100% accepting of this. If he can't accept this then i wonder if this is really the man you want to spend the rest of your life with.
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