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writes:can anyone help me please?I have been in love with my ex-husband since I was 15 (I am now 39). We had many break-ups due to his violence and alcoholism. I am now separated from him a year and a half but he still goes through my mind every single day. How do I put him out of my mind? Is it possible to be addicted to another human being?
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reader, DV1  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 Yes, it is. When you're with someone that long, you expect that the person will be there always. Has he tried getting help? A year and a half is a long time to be separated. You need to stop keeping things on a thread, and decide whether or not to be permanently separate. People change a lot over a year's time, and for all you know, he could be a whole different person.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 It is possible to be addicted to anything, but in the case of your ex it is normal to still think of him...your marriage may have been centred around emotional dependency. Victims of domestic violence often say that their partners tried to take away their freedom and independence as part of the controlling behaviours. It is hard to learn how to live a different way but you have separated now so you are in a better place than before.
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reader, nicola79 +, writes (24 May 2007):
 you have known eachother for a long time and even got married,so i think you have a right to think of him.
it must be hard to be apart from him but if there was the things you said in your marriage then i would count my blessings.
if you havnt already,then get your self out with your mates and have a good time. i dont think you will ever forget eachother but i think its time to move on flower.
i wish you all the best.xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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