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writes:I like this guy, let's call him Peter. But I love my teacher, let's call him Mr.Dreary.I just met Peter, and we talk online sometimes. He's nice and seems cool. We like the same things too. But I have loved Mr.Dreary for almost two years now, but he has a wife..so, yeah there's nothing I can do about it. Some people just don't understand, I think i'm mature enough to know the difference between love and infatuation. Sure I have fun talking to Peter, but I love being with Mr.D. Mr.Dreary is amazing. He makes me feel like I can do anything. Well, sure, because All teachers should have a positive effect on you. Mr.D is always there for me, he's helped me through tough times. Usually around a person I like, when I do or say something embarassing, i feel stupid about it afterwards. I have never felt that way when I'm with Mr.D. Also, when I do something wrong, he doesn't make me feel bad about it.Sure, I've flirted with Peter a little bit, but there's just no natural spark between us. Mr.Dreary has flirted with me, there's no doubt about that. Sometimes he even makes a face when I talk about another guy or talk to another guy! Even some girls in my school have said that he always looks at me or smiles at me a lot. It's weird, because even some of them thought there was something going between us! Which is of course, absolutely nowhere near the truth. Mr.Dreary is no pervert, believe me. I think he has excellent teaching skills, and doesn't hit on the other girls. He's not the same with the other girls in my school, it's strange, because he seems to give more attention to me than everyone else. When he's talking about something important to another person, he'll always stop to look at me.I've tried so many times to get over my teacher. But then everything comes down to me and him.What do I do? How can I possibly pick?
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS  +, writes (9 June 2007):
 All i can say to this is it sounds that there is definatly some attraction between the both of you and if you still feel the same about him when you have left school, then tell him how you feel, you`ll get your answers loud and clear then but for now, just enjoy the attention. I fell for my brothers music teacher, we have been together now for 3 years. He wasnt married but he was still twice my age, so it makes your situation ten times more compicated that hes married. but i totally understand what your going through. Good Luck x
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reader, vim +, writes (28 May 2007):
 That is so strange I loved my teacher, and I call him MrD anyway I met this boy and when I started going out with him I forgot abou MrD.But then my boy friend dumped me now I love MrD again!!! LOL
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reader, DV1 +, writes (26 May 2007):
 One's married, and one's not. It seems like it's more than a logical choice to me. Is it worth destroying the man's marraige and career to get what you want? Stop being selfish. You're way too young for him as well. He's going to want a mature relationship, not a child's relationship. You aren't fully prepared for that yet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): Hi,
First of all, he is your teacher and you are a student of his. You are there to learn and not do have misconduct with some teacher just cause you have a crush or infatuation with him. Just remember infatuations doesnt mean love and it fades off over time.
Secondly, think about it...unless if you want to be the next person in the newspaper nationally. Oh and im not going into any legal issues that you may land up with cause of stupidity..cause it can happen.
Thirdly, he is married. Have respect and seriously get a life and think of dating guys your own age. Stop big a tease, cause in the end you will be the only one hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): The answer is simple.
You don't pick either of them. You don't really like Peter like that, and you should absolutely refuse to have anything overtly or covertly sexual with any of your teachers.
Flirting is fine. It is mostly harmless. When it advances beyond flirting, then you have a problem, he has a problem, and the school has a problem. And if you do love him, and there's a possibility that you do although I sincerely doubt you understand all the different nuances and types of love, then you don't want to encourage him to do something that will destroy his life, his marriage, and render him unemployable and probably put him in jail.
Think about it. Is love selfish or giving?
As you get older, you'll learn exactly how complex and hard to understand all the different kinds of love are. And as you mature, you'll be able to look back and your new perspective on your past "loves" will either please you or make you regret things you did or wanted to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2007): This teacher is married and in a position of trust, he should not be making eyes at you.
Is there really a choice to be made here? Nothing can happen with you and this teacher - his marriage, job and life would be in ruins if he did anything and i seriously hope that he isnt even having these thoughts. If he is he is abusing his position.
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