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writes:i really like my boyfriend and know that he fells the same way, he is a virgin and im not. he is 22 and im 24. we did some foreplay and even a bit more and i realized that he wasn't very confident. it already happened to me before that the first time the guy i was with felt a bit scared but this time it was different. he admitted to me last week that he was a virgin and new with all that stuff. he said he just didn't have need before and was cool with just hanging out with his friends. didn't feel the need of a girlfriend.I don't know what to do, he is very shy about this. i told him to take his time and that im ready to wait until he is ready. that it might not work the first time and that he shouldn't feel bad about it, it is normal and he will learn.and that he should not feel bad talking about it with me.But now i'm scared. i don't want him to have a bad experience and i don't know how to teach that kind of thing. i don't think he is ready yet so i'm giving him all the time and space he needs but how will i know he is ready.How will i know how to explain all that.I need help... please guys you've been there...how did you learn? i don't really feel like telling him to watch a porn but is there any way i can give him some hints without making him feel unconfortable.i want it all to go fine, the first time is important, i was 20 when i've lost my virginity so i know the need to wait. but i want it all to last so there is not just the first time that matter but the whole experience. i want him to feel confident and to love doing it. and i want to love making love to him too. i'm scared that if it doesn't go right it will ruin what we have.please help!!!
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reader, DV1  +, writes (24 May 2007):
 I'm 22, and a virgin... I'm really proud of it. I'll tell you what I would want for my first time. Tell him that if he's willing, you'd like to give it another try. This time, ask him to trust you, then lead him. If you really mean what you say, he will see that you want to love making love to him, because you love him. He'll start to feel more comfortable. Just lead him a little bit, and kiss him and tell him you love him, as you hold him while you begin making love to him. If you cuddle while you're doing it, he'll want to be in no other place in the world but in your arms. If you do that, I promise you, that will be the best experience of both your lives.
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reader, sleepyhollow  +, writes (11 May 2007):
I think I speak for most guys.... Our first times never go as we imagined it. We like to believe we'll be studs and that it'll be like a fish taking to water.
And then we discover the following:
1) Clothing is much more difficult to remove when rushed and excited.
2) Bra clips are nearly impossible for a guy to master in the dark.
3) We become self-conscious about slobber... Drooling bad.
4) Kissing... So much woman, where do we kiss, and what do we kiss first?
5) Breasts. Good God! What wonderful things! But what the heck are we supposed to do with them? Do we suck on them, do we nip them? We've all seen pornos or sex scenes in films... Seems like something always happens, biting, scratching, slapping, whacking, pushing, pulling... Who the heck choreographs all that stuff because once we're in the hot seat, we can't quite figure out how all is possible.
So, a word of advice. Don't rush it to the sex part. Foreplay is a lot of fun, especially for a newbie. Take your time introducing him to how to please you. Start with foreplay, clothes on, and slowly work your way along the various articles of clothing between you and him. When he's ready to have sex... well, you'll know.
Now, how do we get a moderator to make this post Rated "R" for Restricted?
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