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writes:I am 32 and have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years. We have had our ups and downs and I have caught him cheating three times (but who knows how many times he has actually cheated?). He used to put me down regularly and I am not happy with our sex life. I got fed up and tried to pay him back by sleeping with my best friend. He and my boyfriend are now good pals. They are golfing and bowling buddies now and basically inseperable. My boyfriend and I are now engaged although I am not sleeping with my best friend any more. What do I do about their relationship as friends? Do I end it? or do I let them continue to be friends? I feel bad about the situation but we both agreed we can still be friends and move past it but truth is can we?
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reader, crimson_kiss +, writes (2 April 2009):
 I have to agree with Gina. It is bound to come out sooner or later with as close as your best friend and boyfriend are. Do yourself a favor and just come clean. Living with this built up inside is bound to be torture, especially because you see not only your boyfriend, but your best friend on a regular basis. However, prepare yourself for the worse case sceneario, your boyfriend might just end the relationship over this. I would say if you were willing to forgive him for his infidelity, then he should be as well. Good luck with whatever you decide!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): two cheaters in a relationship doesn't make it right, this is a receipe for disaster.
I am hoping you are not wanting to get married to him as well......too many skeletons for you to hide, it will come out. the question is WHEN?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2009): I gotta agree with satindesire here. I mean, I know that you are on here wanting to know how to save your relationship but I just have to ask...Why? If he cheated, you cheated, you are unhappy with your sex life and he used to put you down regularly then I guess I dont understand what it is you want to save...
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reader, keepitreal03  +, writes (31 March 2009):
I think if u can trust ur bestfriend enough to know that he won't say anything then things should be fine. Plus there friends now and he will probley wanna kick his ass when he finds out so I don't think he will tell. And if u tell ur boyfriend he will call things off. I'm sure there are things u don't know so don't tell u will mess things up and trust me guys are not like women they don't forgive u will be just as bad as he is if u tell and it will be hard to work past this.....I think u shouldn't tell
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