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writes: Hi everyone...I'm with my boyf nearly a year now and he's got a 7 year old son that he see's twice a week with out fail and I don't have a problem with that. I've met him a few times at family do's etc and he's a lovely little guy and I was thinking that since its christmas should I get him something for christmas as I'll more than likely see him over the holidays??I'm not thinking of anything mad or big but just more of a gesture........
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reader, stina  +, writes (15 December 2006):
 Hi Anon,
I think that's a really good idea. If you give him movie tickets, then he can still sort of pick his present! It will be a fun time for him, too, and give him good memories (which is probably better than a tangible gift, anyway). And treats out afterwards makes it even better - and will give you time to get to know him better, too. :)
Have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2006): Hi stina & everyone else who replied....
Thanx for your replies there all great ideas and yeah I think the best thing to do is just talk to my boyf about it.
The thing is my boyf see's his son 2 nites a week so I don't intrude on that time with them - just leave the 2 of them off to spend time 2gether so like I said I don't really kno the little guy too well... I just do kno he's farm & animal mad!!
I was thinking of getting him tickets for the movies and maybe goin to McDonald's or that after wards? I kno its not a "present" present but.... its just the thought I think?
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reader, stina +, writes (13 December 2006):
Hi again anon,
Have you tried to talk to your boyfriend about it? Maybe he would be able to tell you what his son would like. That way you would get him something that he really wants for sure, and if your boyfriend has any objections for any reason, then he could let you know before you get anything. Maybe you two could even say that the present is from the both of you, you know? (I wouldn't suggest that unless you feel totally comfortable w/ your boyfriend, though!)
Hope you're able to figure out what to get him, because I think it's a really nice gesture. Plus the son would be happy getting more presents in general, probably, too. :)
And I wouldn't worry about the mother - just talk with your boyfriend about it if you feel uncomfortable. See what he says. Because honestly, if you're going to be in a relationship with your guy and see a future with him, then it only seems natural to want to buy something for his son, especially if you think one day you might be his stepmother, you know?
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reader, emilyjonas +, writes (13 December 2006):
I think it would be a good idea to get him alittle something for Christmas. Nothing to big or expensive because you don't want them to think your trying to look better then other people. Find out what he likes and enjoys go from there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): There both great suggestions but I'm not sure how my boyf would feel about me bringing him off to the shop either!! I just feel like I'm stuck in a corner. I feel like if i don't get him something I'm doin the wrong thing and if I do I'm still doin the wrong thing!!
I'm so confused here!!! I suppose I'm thinkin of how I'd feel if I had a son and his dad's g/f was buying him something...
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reader, stina +, writes (13 December 2006):
Hi there,
I think David has a great idea. I actually did this with my little cousin when she was about the same age as your boyfriend's son. She ran around the store and picked out two of her favorite toys and I bought them for her. She really liked the idea of it - even just going to the toy store itself. lol :)
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): Find out what he really likes. Then find out what his mum and dad are buying. At that age he will have some favourites. That is a really kind gesture and i'm sure he will appreciate it. It is so hard for kids these days with these extended families.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006):
If he is into Thomas trains you can get him one of the wooden trains, but check with his mother to see what he needs- there are like 50 trains.
Zip Zap cars are also very popular: http://www.radioshack.com/sm---ra-zipzaps.html if he is into that sort of thing.
Yu-gi-oh cards are also if he is into that sort of thing with his friends.
Legos are also safe, although you would have to buy right now of you wanted popular things like Star Wars or Avatar tie ins.
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (13 December 2006):
 Try sitting him next to you and looking through a catalogue. Or maybe take him to the shops and let him pick something himself.
I remember when I was 7 and my cousin took me to the shops. I was madly into the Dukes of Hazzard at the time and I set my heart on this jumping car set. He bought it for me and became my greatest cousin ever, lol. I and bought the toy from ebay last year and the child in me came out to play. I cherish certain parts of my childhood, but few stick in my mind like that one does. Some memories live forever, so does the child in us all.
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