He's 8 years younger than me and his grandmother told me to tell him to go away
Q. hello my name is Ashley and I really need your help. I am 29 years old with 2 kids and single mom. I met a guy two weeks ago and he is 21. I met him when I went to drop off my kids so his grama can watch them for me and she is the manager to the ...
A. 15 July 2020: Normally I would go along with 8 years is not really a huge age gap when it come's to dating. But in this case judging by what you have said he seems a million miles away from you as far as maturity is concerned.
Honeypie is right, he does not... (read in full...)
Dating a straight guy who regrets it
Q. So I’ve been sort of seeing this guy and his straight well bi but in denial And everytime we get in the deep at the end he says it’s wrong and it shouldn’t happen. His single but had loads of girlfriends. We have great chemistry and both just wa...
A. 15 July 2020: I don't think that this guy knows where he is at the moment. You start off by calling his straight, then bi but in denial.
He is obviously confused and is dipping his toe in the water seeing how he feels by being with a guy. He has had lots of ... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend in over a month I'm worried
Q. Hi my boyfriend when out of the country last March due to his dad being in COVID-19 we agree to email each other while he is away the recent email I received from him is May 26 which he told he will let me know first when he is coming back and then ...
A. 14 July 2020: Has he got a mobile phone that you could text or call?.
Do you know any of his friends or family that you could also call or text to see if they have heard from him?.
Did he give you an address of where he was staying when he went out of the ... (read in full...)
I’ve split up with my ex of 5 years but think I still love him
Q. I’m in a really tough situation. I’ve split up with my ex of 5 years but think I still love him. When we were together he suffered a really traumatic death in his family which has affected him badly. His whole personality and behaviour has changed, ...
A. 14 July 2020: I think that if you still harbour feelings for your ex, in a way that you think that you still love him, then I don't think that you should be dating this new guy at this stage.
You say that you would not get back with him unless he went to get t... (read in full...)
I love him but can't let him hold me back
Q. Well I’m not too sure how to start but here goes nothing.... I’ve been with my partner for coming on a year now, we’re both the same ages (24). We are exactly the same person in some ways, it’s great we’re like best friends but some days we do ...
A. 14 July 2020: You have chosen a career path, and this is a good thing. I think this is something that you should pursue and see through, as I feel if you diden't its something that you will regret later on in life.
It makes sense to be staying at your parents ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to spend every minute of every day together?
Q. Hello. I hope all is well. I’ve been dating this guy I met at school for five months and this is my first real relationship. I just have a question since I don’t have much relationship / dating / experience. Is it normal to spend every minute of ...
A. 13 July 2020: The answer to your question is I think its important to maybe have some space in a relationship and not be in each others pockets 24/7.
Having said that there are some couples that this works for being with each other all the time and are very muc... (read in full...)
We had a disagreement and now he's not texting me
Q. Hi I have a very new thing going on for 2 weeks to early to call it a relationship we had a little disagreement over something silly just over a week ago now he’s gone very strange on me not texting me hardly only if I have text him which has only ...
A. 13 July 2020: You have only known this guy for 2 weeks so you both really know nothing about each other at all.
Don'y know what your disagreement was about, but i assume that in the fortnight you have know him you can only have met up at least once or twice.
... (read in full...)
I am bigger than my partner and being on top is uncomfortable for me. Any suggestions?
Q. So I am physically the bigger bodied one in the relationship, I weigh a lot more than he does, and when it comes to having sex, me being on top is out of the question for me, I have got on top in the past but I am just completely uncomfortable, for ...
A. 12 July 2020: Apart from structural frame work that you can hang on to, there are not to many options here, apart from sticking to missionary.
With the riding on top position, i'm sure you can position yourself so all your weight is not totally on your par... (read in full...)
My fiance is very secretive and it makes me wonder if I am making a mistake
Q. Hello, and thanks! So I'm engaged but not sure if I'm making the right decision. My fiancee is very secretive. I find things out mostly by social media because I'm friends with his friends and they post and it comes up on my newsfeed. Th...
A. 10 July 2020: Probably one of the most important contributing factors that bind a relationship together is trust, and i'm sorry to say that this is something that this relationship in lacking.
He has got no respect or regard that he is engaged to be married,... (read in full...)
The man I am dating told me he still loves his ex
Q. Hi I’ve just started a new relationship I really like him I split with my partner a year ago he split with his 4 months ago we were in bed last night and he told me he still loves his ex so obviously now I am confused as to what to do I know I ...
A. 10 July 2020: What a time to tell someone they are still in love with their ex, when they are in bed with someone they have just started dating.
So many people come out of lenthy relationships and start getting into the dating scene way to soon. Its so importan... (read in full...)
I thought it was a golden rule, so why do so many people break it?
Q. I’ve always heard that one of the golden rules of first dates is to never talk about exes. But often on first dates (or during online dating app pre-date talking), I'm asked about past relationships like how long did it last? why did it end? etc. ...
A. 8 July 2020: I think its just the getting to know you phase, and someone is just trying to gage whether you are a good candidate to get into a relationship with.
With questions such as how long you been single, how long was you in a relationship for etc thes... (read in full...)
We are broken up but I still love him. Should I delete his number?
Q. I have split with my boyfriend and I still love him. He says he wants me to stop contacting him. But I think he's just angry at me and deep down he loves me. Should I delete his number as I won't be able to contact him ever again if I do...
A. 4 July 2020: How long was the pair of you together? What was the reasons for your relationship split?.
Without knowing anything about your situation here, it sounds like the relationship is over and he wants to move on. What happened for him to be angry at... (read in full...)
How do I handle this? A co-worker likes me but I am dating his friend
Q. Dear aunts and uncle, Last October I got promoted to a senior IT tech at my company and with the promotion i was assigned to a whole new team. Within a week of me being there one of my new coworkers ,lets call him Michael, started flirting with me ...
A. 2 July 2020: i always go along with its never a good idea to date and have relationships with co-workers. All is good when things are going well. But when/if things don't work out it can become very awkward having to still see them every day. Not only awkward ... (read in full...)
I'm 17 a virgin, he's 43 married and wants to have sex with me
Q. Hi, Im 17 and Ive recently come into contact with a 43 year old man who wants to have sex with me. He's married and Im a virgin. I want to have sex with him but Im worried it's illegal and I'm worried about what people might say if I tell them I l...
A. 2 July 2020: That's two downsides, yes he is married, and yes he is much older, 26 years older infact.
I think if you go through with this you will regret it later on and come to wish you haden't
The fact is you want to have sex with him because you beli... (read in full...)
Why would my sister ignore my emails but put on quite the show when my brother is privy to the email?
Q. Thank you in advance to all who take the time to answer here. I have one brother and one sister. I am in the middle in age. I find that if I send an email to my sister giving all my news and asking about her news lately she has been ignor...
A. 28 June 2020: Without knowing the past history of the last 50-60 years its difficult to say why your sister would ignore your emails, this is siblings for you i guess.
Maybe she is jealous of your relationship with your brother, which given the age bracket ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets annoyed with my questions
Q. My boyfriend gets annoyed with my questions. He says I ask a lot of questions but I think it's a way to keep up with a conversation. He says there's Different ways to communicate without asking. We are in a long distance relationship this really ...
A. 26 June 2020: How Long have you been in a LDR with your boyfriend?. How often do you meet up and spend time together.
I assume that being in a LDR you guy's don't see each other very often. So you would think that he would be happy to hear from you, and have... (read in full...)
How do I handle my uncomfortableness with having sex?
Q. Dear cupids, I've recently met someone whom I've made a great connection with. We met about a month ago and have had a great time getting to know each other. Last night was the first time we had sex. Why do I feel awkward about things? I've be...
A. 26 June 2020: Its good that you have found someone who understands how you are feeling and is also willing to wait until you are ready. Sounds like you have found a good one there.
That"s the thing about past relationships, we can learn from them, with the bene... (read in full...)
We had some good dates and now he messaged me and said he's not ready for a relationship
Q. I went on a few dates with a guy and they seemed to go really well. He’s very shy and has had a difficult life from the snippets he’s told me. He’s experienced a lot of loss and due to a rift between his parents, he doesn’t see much of either of ...
A. 23 June 2020: you don't really know much about this guy other than that he has had a difficult life and has trouble letting people in.
It sounds like he does like you, you both seem to get along and share chemistry.
Maybe he got cold feet, maybe he has got... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of a crush on a Co-worker ?
Q. I am crushing on this guy I met at work. He is an agreeable and friendly sort. But asking him out or expressing my feelings to him is out of question since he is a senior colleague. I don't want to make things awkward at workplace or put my job on ...
A. 22 June 2020: I think its good that you realise that he is a senior colleague, and that expressing your feelings for him would be a bad idea.
If your finding it difficult bumping in to him every day at work now, imagine how difficult you would be finding ... (read in full...)
I want to start living as a woman. How do I tell my wife?
Q. My wife started dressing me as a woman when we first started dating, we have since married and my dressing up as Joanne continues. About a year and a half ago, my wife brought up wanting to see me with a man while I am dressed as Joanne, I ...
A. 20 June 2020: I recall this post a few months back. diden't your wife want to record you being intimate with men, and the majority of the posts here all agreed that this was a bad idea.
I think with you dressing up as a woman, and now that your wife has seen... (read in full...)
Is it ok for my girlfriends male colleague to stay over at her house?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship where my girlfriend lives in England and I'm in Wales. I haven't seen her since the end of March due to lockdown and even though things are now easing slightly regarding lockdown, the rules/guidance a...
A. 20 June 2020: I can see why you are uncomfortable with this, who woulden't be, also coupled with the fact that he is 22 years younger than her.
Surely she must have female friends that she knows who she could share time with. Instead she has chosen a young gu... (read in full...)
I want to move on from a relationship that left me broken.
Q. This relationship has left me broken and I really don't know how to move forward. I was with him on and off for the past year and it was the best time of my life. We have so much in common, got along beautifully and never fought. He has a young son ...
A. 18 June 2020: No one really knows if they are a perfect little family, that's just pure speculation. No one is going to look grumpy and miserable if they are having their picture taken to then be put on social media.
Whether they are happy or unhappy is reall... (read in full...)
I want to move on from a relationship that left me broken.
Q. This relationship has left me broken and I really don't know how to move forward. I was with him on and off for the past year and it was the best time of my life. We have so much in common, got along beautifully and never fought. He has a young son ...
A. 17 June 2020: I know its hard, when you really like someone and have strong feelings for them its really difficult when it does not work out, or they leave you for someone else.
I don't think we are ever going to know the the situation he was in with his ex, ... (read in full...)
I've been in abusive relationships and worry the problem might have been me!
Q. The last four years of my life have been a world wind. I was in an abusive relationship which he was charged twice for assault and I still never had the power to leave. The last 2 year of the relationship (what I know of) I was cheated on ...
A. 14 June 2020: Its terrible what you have been through in your last two relationships, i feel for you, but you 100% did the right thing by leaving.
There is no way you are the problem so don't ever think that. You was just unlucky enough to meet some not nice... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, havent told hubby nor my sister in law
Q. I recently found out that I’m about 7 weeks pregnant. I haven’t told my husband because I don’t know how he would react. He Lost his job because of this pandemic. My sister in law has also been trying for a baby for many years and I don’t know how ...
A. 14 June 2020: I think you are going to have to tell your husband you are pregnant sooner rather than later.
Marriage is built on trust, and you not telling him that you are 7 week's pregnant is not good. Its better he finds out by you being honest and telling ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lives with his ex and I'm not comfortable with it
Q. Hello, I met my bf on a dating site and he is a pretty good guy. A few things I find a bit concerning though. He lives with his ex. Him and I live in different provinces so we dont see one another much. My bf and his ex are raising a child ...
A. 8 June 2020: Your right when you say that if anything where to happen with you two then he can't be living with his ex.
Yes respect that he is helping being a dad for the 12 year old girl, but he could still do this and not be under the same roof. So why is h... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my older girlfriend?
Q. Hey everyone, I guess I am considering breaking up with my girlfriend of 2.5 years. For the past 6 months I feel we have been drifting apart romantically. Sex went from once every 2 weeks to once every 2 months. I stopped sleeping in the same b...
A. 7 June 2020: It seems that you have both just naturally drifted apart, so probably best you just be open and honest with her and end things.
Normally i say that age is just a number at the end of the day, as long as its above the age of consent of course, ... (read in full...)
Should I talk to my neighbor about noise even though we've never met?
Q. Hello, I live in a students residence. I was trying to sleep, but I heard some noises coming from my neighbor's room. We don't know each other, never met. I am not sure if he is having sex with someone, or his bed is just very squeaky someho...
A. 7 June 2020: It's a tricky one really. I think if the noise was loud thumping music going on into the early hours, or an aspiring drummer practicing at night time that went on for a number of weeks is when i would go over and say something.
I assume as you a... (read in full...)
Why is this married coworker trying to come in between 2 single coworkers?
Q. So there is this colleague at work who used to be quite friendly. We both hail from the same city and had a good rapport with one another. We are both single. And we have been quite attracted to one another. I have been plannin to ask him out. But a ...
A. 3 June 2020: Its hard to say if he like's you or not. If you want to know his feelings for you find out when you are off duty and not on work time.
The female co-worker is just doing her duties of being the person you report too. If she see's you chatting... (read in full...)
Is this guy trying to make me pregnant?
Q. Hi everyone This is my first time posting on this, and my friend told me its very helpfull, im not sure how much details to go into but this has really confused me and have asked a few people but not really had a answer lol, So a guy im seeing af...
A. 31 May 2020: He had already ejaculated inside you, so once this has happened rubbing around it, or pushing it in further would not make any difference at all.
I assume that you are on some form of contraception?.
I think that maybe he was just trying to p... (read in full...)
My wife says my vest is embarrassing.
Q. There's a TV show about a motorcycle club called Sons of anarchy. I bought a vest like the ones worn on the show by the actors. I have a motorcycle and I'm such a fan of that TV show. My wife says it would be embarrassing to wear it as people w...
A. 31 May 2020: If you like the vest and want to wear it, it should not matter what anybody else thinks, just what you think.
I don't think people would make fun of you in secret, its a Sons of Anarchy vest, not an all in one clown suit.
Wear it, and ... (read in full...)
I've met a guy I like, but he is friends with my ex baby daddy.
Q. I’m trying to decide if a guy is interested in me. He is a divorced single Dad. The issue is he is friends with my ex baby daddy. We saw each other out with our kids. His daughter is friends with my oldest daughter. So I asked if she could come over ...
A. 31 May 2020: I think its all still in the early stages of the getting to know each other phase so would not read to much in to anything yet.
I may very well be that he does like you, you both do seem to get along ok and enjoy each other company.
I would... (read in full...)
What can I do about my life and wife?
Q. Over 43 yrs of faithful marriage she requires separate bedrooms handles all financial transactions accumulate over 100,000 dollars in credit card debts that I know of and no sex for 3 years now .... what to do No names please ...
A. 29 May 2020: Its a shame it ha taken 43 years for things to come to this.
Letting her handle all of the financial transactions was the first big mistake. The credit card bills were obviously coming in and she has been brushing them under the carpet and carr... (read in full...)
I have an enormous crush on my doctor. What do I do now?
Q. So here's my situation. I met my new GP a few months ago and she's been amazing. She's a great doctor. She gives me prescriptions for my current health issue. She sends me to specialists when I need them. She's always available for appointments. She ...
A. 26 May 2020: Its really not uncommon to develop infatuations with people in high powered professional positions, such as doctors, teachers, etc.
This is a crush that you are having, and crushes don't tend to last forever. She sounds like she is very good at ... (read in full...)
My wife and I fight about laundry! I mean REALLY fight about it!
Q. My wife doesn't like to do laundry. She says she doesn't like the noise (we have a small house so doing a load of laundry permeates) and apparently doesn't like any other aspect of it either. She will let her laundry pile up until she has nothing ...
A. 26 May 2020: I think a marriage should be equal, normally in a marriage you have his and her jobs and are performed on a regular basis, sometimes even alternating jobs.
It might be the mans job to take the trash out every thursday morning, and mow the lawn... (read in full...)
Blocked, I'm angry at how all the blame is on me, should I send a letter and a gift?
Q. I was seeing a girl and she has a boyfriend, who she got just a few weeks after we met. Turns out she wanted to see both of us. But recently finally, the boyfriend found out her secret. She was out with me, and he got security to bget into her room ...
A. 25 May 2020: I think you should forget about this woman and move on.
You started seeing her, and she met someone else a few weeks after you met. Well if that is not enough to make you want to walk away i don't know what is.
The other guy got security to ... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend is moving to Panama for 6 months and is leaving me behind. He wants me to wait for him. Should I?
Q. I know I won't get any sympathy here but I am looking for some advice. Mistresses have nowhere to go. My married lover (he is more like a boyfriend now) is going to Panama with his wife in September to spend 6 months out of the year there, ever...
A. 23 May 2020: This is all part and parcel of being a mistress. I assume that you knew he was married when you first met him, if you did you must have know what you would have been getting in to.
He can spin you all sorts of lines, and i'm sure that you have hea... (read in full...)
Does this man like me or need space?
Q. This boy told me he likes me n he started holding me n kissing me. He stays the night n hold me. In morning he left early n didn't hear from him in a couple days. He came up to me n I said u didn't say nothing just left. He said I need to get on my ...
A. 23 May 2020: OP are you sure you have got the age brackets of 36-40 correct.
From the limited information you have provided for this post its hard to say if he likes you or not.
It sounds like the relationship is in its early stages, and sounds like he i... (read in full...)
Why did he ghost me after acting so insecure ?
Q. For the past 4 weeks I have been going on dates with a guy I met in a grocery store in March. At first i was a little skeptical because he’s a tad bit older but not by much. On our first date we met up at Dairy Queen. We talked for three hours , ...
A. 22 May 2020: You have only been dating this guy for 4 weeks and already he is being insecure and asking you lots of questions.
We don't really know much about his background, or his relationship past, it could very well be he has been cheated on previous... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to discuss our relationship.
Q. My girlfriend got drunk one day after an argument. She met up with a friend and they took a guy back to her place. Her friend left but the guy stayed. The next day she said nothing happened and told me they were both naked in the bed. She also told ...
A. 21 May 2020: That's probably the most truthful thing she has said in this whole thing in saying you both can't get through this, i would take that on board and move on.
She has not spoken to or been in contact with this friend. Given her track record how do y... (read in full...)
Girlfriend refuses to discuss our relationship.
Q. My girlfriend got drunk one day after an argument. She met up with a friend and they took a guy back to her place. Her friend left but the guy stayed. The next day she said nothing happened and told me they were both naked in the bed. She also told ...
A. 21 May 2020: The most important aspect of a relationship, the thing that binds a relationship together over all else is trust, if there is no trust then a relationship is doomed to fail.
She was naked in bed with another guy after a drunken night which sh... (read in full...)
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