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writes:I'd be interested on others views and opinions on this, please. A man living in a neighbourhood for two decades starts to look at a single, female neighbour who has lived there for the same time. They do not know each other but are of a similar age, although the female looks much younger. She catches him looking and he turns away quickly with a smile on his face. He is always on a bicycle. The next time she sees him she looks at him and he doesn't look back until he is almost out of view and then gives her a big, beaming smile. She has looked his way again, but he ignores her, even though she has caught him looking at her! She has always known him to be married or living with a partner, and he has never shown any interest in her before. What is he up to - if anything?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 July 2020): What does it matter? There's no law against smiling, nor looking at someone. He has said nothing and made no moves. You said he has a wife, or a partner. Smiles and stares mean nothing. He makes sure he doesn't lock eyes with you.
Maybe he thinks you're cute, but if he's taken...so what, if he checks you out? People often smile in-passing, and I smile in return. Especially neighbors and people familiar with my face. Happens constantly at work. If you pass-by every-time he's in his yard, or you're out every-time he cycles by; I think it's a natural-reflex to look at what's moving in your line of vision. He has never given you true reason to think he's flirting. You never seem to miss his stares. I think you're the one more interested.
I'd ignore him! Of course, I'd be neighborly; and politely speak, if spoken to. A married-man or guy committed to a romantic-relationship is not on the market. His roving-eyes or intentions regarding any woman outside his relationship; means he's disrespecting his partner and committed-relationship. To maintain your long-standing association as being good-neighbors (with him and his partner); you should simply keep your distance, respect the boundaries, and go about your drama-free life. It's not classy to be exchanging glances with another woman's man. Whether he's staring at you, or not. You wouldn't like it if it was your man and a female-neighbor!
All this time; and he hasn't said or done anything, but smile or stare. How do you even make anything of it? Why do you even care? If you're feeling a need to date, or would like some male-companionship; it might be time to look into some dating-sites. Maybe you should become more social and visible to attract available single-gentlemen, who have more distinctive ways to express their interest than staring, smiling, and looking away.
When you have eyes, you tend to look at things or people; having absolutely no intentions or ulterior-motives at all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2020): I think somebody is getting ready to cheat on a partner knowing fine well they are married, so because they BOTH know this beforehand, they have the opportunity to act with integrity and find somebody who is single and stop weaving a spiders web that will be difficult to get out of and will lead to destruction.
That is what I think is going on, an opportunity to change one's future to something truthful and meaningful that causes no hurt to others.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (20 July 2020):
 Maybe he finds her attractive? He might be married but that doesn't mean he can't notice attractive woman?
Also, why is this any of your business?
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (20 July 2020):
 Sounds to me that not an awful lot is going at all, apart from a few glances and smiles here and there.
Where are you observing all this, do you just happen to be out when he is suddenly going by?. Or are you watching all this from behind the curtain?. Or is the woman is your post actually yourself.
Which ever it is, I would not read to much into it, giving someone a beaming smile is nothing very suspicious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2020): So you are a female who has lived there for sometime. You do not know him but you do know he has a partner or is married and is older than you. You fancy him and he fascinates you -he must do or this would not have been a huge thing to you worthy of thinking about and sharing with us - you want to hear that him looking at you and smiling shows this? No it does not. It can mean that he smiles at everyone who smiles at him, it could mean he is having a great few days, it could mean he loves the weather, lots of people smile at others they do not know - only you want to believe it is more than that and it proves they want to get to know them and fall in love with them.
I went out for a walk with my dog earlier and smiled and said hello to at least a dozen people, that is normal for me, it does not mean that I fancy them or want to chat to them for half an hour or become friends with them.
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