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writes:I'm like these two guys who both like me too. They have both asked me out but I don't know who I like more. It's weird because they are both not my usual type but I have fallen for them. I know that if I go out with one I don't want to lose the other as a friend. I'm so caught up in both of them that I've even thought about dating both to see which I would want to stay with but this seems mean to them. How can I decide? should i just forget about them about them as boyfriend material and just concentrate on being a good friend to both? This is the advice that my mum has given me, so i just wanted to find out what people think I should try? Reply to this Question
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reader, nologo  +, writes (31 May 2007):
 Partners are partners and friends are friends.
Of course, there are several exceptions here.
For instance, if you keep close friends since kidulthood...
Anyway, I should probably concentrate now on your question.
"they are both not my usual type but I have fallen for them"
I would understand this that you are not their type as well.
Dating both of them is acceptable for you, but not for them.
My view: if you "try" friendship - there will be competition.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 May 2007):
 It's not mean to date both of them as long as you are upfront about it. It's called playing the field and most guys can respect that. Nobody has to commit to one person at a time as long as they behave with honor and integrity. This way you can get to know both of them better.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (31 May 2007):
 You need to decide if you like them solely based on looks. I would suggest being a friend to both of them first. A true relationship is first based on friendship. If you're still stuck, I would find someone else, and walk away from both of them.
DV1
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