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writes: i'm not sure what to do, i'm 16 and i'm debating to ask this girl out in my year. The thing is i have a growth problem (i'm about a head and a bit shorter than average) and it's always stopped asking any girls out because i'm worried she will just see my hieght. We get on fine and all, and it's not that i have a problem talking to girls... i was wondering would it just be best to end up being friends? maybe ask someone out when i'm a bit older and forget about her?
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reader, idoneitagain  +, writes (31 May 2007):
I am also pretty short, and from time to time I have felt insecure about it, but the truth is, girls will be attracted or not attracted to you irrespective of your height. For example, if you feel insecure about your height, girls can be put off if they feel your insecurity as a person. If you feel really good about yourself and feel confident, girls will be attracted to that. Confidence goes up and down in people for lots of reasons and is something you can work on. You can't do anything about your height, but you can work on how much you like yourself, accept yourself, love yourself, and your levels of confidence.
Another thing that helped me was realising that whether or not people were attracted to me sometimes has nothing to do with whether I am attracted to them. They can be beautiful or unattractive to me, tall or short, all sorts of things. Trust your instincts, believe in yourself, and if you have a feeling that a girl might like you, she probably does. If you like her too, ask her out, and if you were wrong, cry in a bucket for 5 minutes and then move on to the next girl you like. Eventually you will get it right!
Good luck.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 I'm five foot even, and I've dated girls a foot and a half taller! They care about you, not your height. Taller girls have a hard time finding guys, because taller guys generally go for shorter women...
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reader, crazyclemens2005 +, writes (30 May 2007):
 well in my opinion short people would not bother me and if this girl is anything you think she is she will give you a chance go for it and if she says no then ovously she isnt worth it theres girls out there that might be better and wont care about your height
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (30 May 2007):
 I don't see why you should forget about her, there is more to someone than just their height, im sure she will notice alot of other good qualities you have. I would still ask her out, if she says yes then all well and good, but if she says no don't put it down to your height, she would have probably said the same if you were 6ft.
You are still only young and have got a good couple of years of growing yet.
All the best
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Simply height doesnt interfer with dating.
If she cant get past your height then she wasnt for you.
FFind someone who will look past your height
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