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What does it mean when he puts his fingers in my mouth? Why didn't he try to kiss me despite all the touching?

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Question - (15 November 2008) 8 Answers - (Newest, 24 October 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hi, I am 22 and a virgin.

I'm not very experienced with guys - I've never been kissed or even had a boyfriend. A guy who I have been friends with for the past few years has started to be quite flirty with me whenever we meet up and when we are with a group of friends this never goes further than the odd touch eg. he touches my arm, face or hair. However, last night we ended up having drinks together at his place and eventually we were the last people left.

At first, he was just cuddling me and stroking my hair but then he started to stroke my neck and breasts and put his hands inside my bra. This is the very first time that I've ever been in this situation with a guy and I just kind of went along with it and didn't put up any protest. He put his hands inside my bra and then he was trying to put his hand under my skirt. He was stroking my face and then started to run his fingers over my lips. The next thing I know he is putting his fingers in my mouth and breathing heavily. What does this mean? I was really confused and just let him carry on doing it, but I don't know why he did it or what he wanted me to do. I also don't know where I stand with this guy. As far as I'm aware, we're just friends. Despite everything else he was doing, he didn't actually try to kiss me. Does that mean that he isn't interested?

Please help!

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A male reader, zeekay United States +, writes (24 October 2010):

If you still want to be friends with him, then that is definately not normal. It's often sexual, despite what these people say. If he was breathing heavily, then yes he was absolutely getting that kind of turn on from it. All in all, he wants to have sex. Especially with the breast touching. That is a major indicator.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2010):

fingertips are very sensitive, and they kinda get an idea of how good you would be at giving a b-job. i do this to my bf when I'm teasing him.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2009):

okay im a a good bit younger then you but i have experancerd this b4. he my like you and he may not. he could hvae just drank to much or got a little to carried away but iy soulds to me that he was just drinking to much but it is also a possibity tht me may like you. when he sticks is fingers in your mouth that is like him sticking him penis or dick in your mouth. it sounds to me that he is getting into you and wants to see how far he can get with you. two questions. first is when his hands went down did he like start to finger you as in put as meny fingers in you pussy as he can and bring them in and out? if he did that then he's getting into you but still trying to see how far he could get with you and second question is when his fingers were in you mouth did he wiggle them around and bring them out then out them back in again over and over again if so them he is definalty trying to see what you would do or be like if you were fucking i hope that answers your question good enough and sorry of it doesnt

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A female reader, aunty_rach United Kingdom +, writes (20 November 2008):

yeah i've never really understood the fingers in the mouth thing. it's just another wierd guy thing. if you are not comfortable with him sticking his fingers in your mouth then dont let him do it. if you dont mind it but dont understand it ask him why he likes it and please get back to but dont ever do anything your not comfy with.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2008):

From a guy's point of view, feeling and watching a girl suck on your fingers feels really nice. Not because of what can be 'put in there' but it just is a turn on in itself, it's cute in a hot way.

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A female reader, hlb01 United Kingdom +, writes (16 November 2008):

no need to worry about it. lots of guys do it, my boyfriend does it to me jus lick/suck them abit, its turns them on! no idea why tbh ?

but trust me im sure he is interessted!


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A female reader, BlueCherry Mexico +, writes (15 November 2008):

BlueCherry agony aunt... I followed, Miss birdy and I think that's what the guy meant to do.

I just hope he washed his hands before... yuck!

:) Cheers!

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (15 November 2008):

birdynumnums agony auntIt's rather bizarre foreplay, but I am imagining that he was fantasizing about putting something else in your mouth while using his fingers, if you follow me... I also find it odd that he didn't try to kiss you. If he wasn't interested, he wouldn't have been with you, but he is a little bit left of centre... Frankly, you can actually speak up and ask questions about your concerns. If you aren't comfortable enough to talk with the guy about what you are doing, that doesn't really speak well of the level of comfort that you are having in the relationship. Communication is a big part of sex. I'd just steel up my courage and ask him what that was. Good Luck.

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