Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 2 February 2018: Honestly you don't have the right to tell him where he can and cannot go on holiday, if you are worried then it is obvious you don't trust him, and if you don't trust him then there really is no point in being with him. Also it is his money so it is ... (read in full...)
My friend wont stop pestering me
Q. Since mid December i decided to cut back on social media ( im not on it much ) i let my friends know i was having a break from it so they knew they wasnt being ignored. I really enjoyed having a break from it ive felt free and relaxed so this ...
A. 15 January 2018: ....and you still want her to be your friend?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 15 January 2018: If he is as controlling as you say he is then why on earth are you still with him? He CANNOT I repeat CANNOT tell you that you are not allowed to go away with your friends, he doesn't own you, you are not a child or his pet so stand up for yourself! ... (read in full...)
HE wants to play games with his ex, but I am not sure about it.
Q. Hi, I started an LDR a week ago, we talk every day, everything is good. But he just got out of a 3months relationship ( his ex gf ended it..) Now, she's texting him, and he wants to go with it. wtich means he just wants to make fun of her and make...
A. 13 January 2018: Relationships can be difficult at the best off times never mind adding long distance in to it. Are you hoping to actually spend quality time with each other or is it more off an online relationship?
From what you have wrote am not sure why you woul... (read in full...)
He communicates okay, apart from when I suggest we hang out!
Q. I have been talking to this guy for a total of two months, we met on a dating app and have gone on one date since then, I even met his grandparents lol. At the very beginning he was eager-- calling, texting, you name it frequently and now after ...
A. 13 January 2018: From what you have wrote it doesn’t sound like he is romantically interested but he might not want to say it so he still keeps in contact with you. I think you are doing the best thing by not contacting him and let him do the work. If you have only ... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating and we had unprotected sex!
Q. I posted a question few weeks ago about this guy that I’m seeing, a 46 years old physician divorced with no kids. From the beginning I made my dating rules clear and told him that I don’t want to have any physical contact or intimacy if he is seeing ...
A. 12 January 2018: I hope OP that you stick to your guns. Try and remember that even friends don't always know what is going on behind closed doors so I would take what they say with a pinch off salt. ... (read in full...)
I'm addicted to cheating
Q. Well my life is the biggest mess ever im in two relationships one long distance and one local. Yet i keep dating other guys and girls i just cant seem to stop cheating. What is wrong with me ? I have been abused alot by men i dont know if that has ...
A. 12 January 2018: End the relationships you are in at the moment. Being abused is not an excuse to go on and hurt other innocent people. The best thing you can do for yourself at the moment is end both relationships and seek therapy. You obviously have demons that ... (read in full...)
His work routine is disrupting our life
Q. Hi everyone. I’m looking for some advice on a situation I’m in atm. My partner has just taken a new job and hour and a half away but gives himself two hours to get there to beat traffic. He leaves at 6am and gets home about 8. An hour later than his ...
A. 12 January 2018: I don't see the problem here. If he wants to stay over a couple off nights a week so he does not have to do so much driving each day is that such a bad thing? I mean I get why you wouldn't want to uproot the children every week but why can't he stay ... (read in full...)
Help me find a way to choose
Q. I don’t know whom I love, both men have an effect on me and both are way too complicated. I really would love your insight so don’t read and run ?? I’m 30 years old woman, I am at this very moment torn between the love of my life and a man I bare...
A. 11 January 2018: I am married yet there is this man who I am very attracted to. Yet I don't love him, yes I may have grown close to him but I would never cheat on or hurt my husband you just need to learn how to control your feelings. ... (read in full...)
My friend wont stop pestering me
Q. Since mid December i decided to cut back on social media ( im not on it much ) i let my friends know i was having a break from it so they knew they wasnt being ignored. I really enjoyed having a break from it ive felt free and relaxed so this ...
A. 11 January 2018: If you don't want her in your life then block her mobile number, block her on social media and then you won't have the problem off your phone beeping every hour.... (read in full...)
Is there a way to make up for our different dimensions?
Q. I had my eye on a guy at work for quite some time. He’s my age, works out a lot - has a great smile and easy way about him that I liked. But most of all, we have great chemistry. In fact there’s always been some sexual tension between us. A ...
A. 11 January 2018: I don't see why you couldn't have a satisfying sex life with him. There are more other ways to satisfy you than penetration. Off course it was probably going to be awkward first time, especially since you slept together so early on. Take it slower ... (read in full...)
I need help breaking the happy news to my partner!
Q. Hiya everyone I’ve been with my partner for 4 years we have a 2 year old son together the problem is I have just found out I’m pregnant which I’m over the moon about but the problem is he doesn’t want any more children ever he has said I haven’t ...
A. 11 January 2018: The best way to break it to him is to just sit him down at home and tell him you are pregnant. Remember you have had a chance to deal with it and he may not react how you want him to, but there is nothing you and he can do now, you have both made a ... (read in full...)
The conversation will revolve around babies, should I suck it up and go?
Q. I am a happily married 37 yo childfree woman. Next sunday two friends of my hubby - invited us to lunch. His pals are both married, so we’re talking about lunch with two couples. One couple has a three year old very lively boy and another has just...
A. 11 January 2018: He sounds a bit like my husband. If it was me I think I would go and try and change conversation to topics you are interested in every now and again. ... (read in full...)
Events of 30 years ago still hurt!
Q. my husband had an emotional affair with my mom, and this went on for four years, as she died in an auto accident. He claims sure was fun to be with and that all they did was kiss, no sex. #1 how could it last for this long with non sex, # how can ...
A. 11 January 2018: I need to ask have you just found out about this recently? Or has it been torchering you all this time?... (read in full...)
I found my best friends sex tape online
Q. This is unbelievable. There is a girl I’ve been friends with since we were two years old, and we are now 24. I recently found a video of her on a porn site (one of my friends who met her at a party sent me a link saying it looked like her). It 10...
A. 10 January 2018: If this was me in your shoes then yes I would have to tell her. Not many people talk much about their sex lives at your age so she might no it is there but if she doesn't then she needs to be told. No judgement should come from you, be a friend and ... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on a girl who doesn't know I exist!
Q. I am a shy boy of 16. A few months ago, I met a girl who studies in my school, just one grade below me. At first, I did not feel anything, but as time passed, I realized that I was falling for her - I started to like her very much. But, we have ...
A. 10 January 2018: Sweetie you cannot be falling for her because you have never even spoke to her, true feelings come from getting to know someone. My guess is that you find her attractive and you feel she looks nice. The only way to get her attention is to say hello, ... (read in full...)
I feel like the third wheel around my boyfriend and my friend.
Q. Hey all, I'm just looking for some advice on how to get a grip of my jealously and paranoia. My boyfriend and I have been official for two months now, when we started to date each other over the summer and at the beginning of our relationship we ...
A. 10 January 2018: From reading this I honestly don't think you are being paranoid, I think they are both over stepping the mark and that they are not taking your feelings on board at all. It seems the two off them are to blame here. I know if it was my boyfriend and ... (read in full...)
Will he break up with me because I don't like giving head?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now and things seem to be going well. However he keeps asking for a blowjob which I'm not keen to do. I've tried it with him for a tiny length of time but really really dislike it. I've told him this. ...
A. 10 January 2018: I am not a fortune teller but if he dumps you over this then you are both simply not right for each other. If it is important to him in a relationship to receive oral sex then yes he may look for someone who is open to giving it, but that is his ... (read in full...)
My best friend seems to want to end our friendship
Q. I've been friendly with my pal David for over 30 years. He drives a taxi for private hire for a living.I provide computer fixing services. A month ago, for the first time ever, he referred a customer of his to me who had a computer problem. The...
A. 10 January 2018: If this was me then I would call David and tell him exactly what you have told us, if he wants to let your friendship be effected then it is his losee. ... (read in full...)
I think he's cheating and we had unprotected sex!
Q. I posted a question few weeks ago about this guy that I’m seeing, a 46 years old physician divorced with no kids. From the beginning I made my dating rules clear and told him that I don’t want to have any physical contact or intimacy if he is seeing ...
A. 10 January 2018: OP if he really felt the way that he is saying he does then he would simply make it exclusive. He is using words to play you and is trying to manipulate you. Honestly you would be wise to end things with this guy and save yourself the heartache. You ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants to go away with his friends, not with me!
Q. Lads holiday to Berlin when in a long term relationship of 5 years??? My boyfriend of 5 years and his friends want to go on a lads holiday after we finish our A level exams this summer. They are thinking of going to Berlin however, I’m rea...
A. 10 January 2018: Just because you are both in a relationship you should never tell each other what to do. Same goes for him if he doesn't like you going on a night out without him. Honestly it sounds like the both off you might need some time being single and young ... (read in full...)
My LDR wants me to talk dirty but I don't know how.
Q. Hi, I had my first boyfriend recently, but it's a long distance relationship.. so we video chat.. However, he has no problem dirty talking, but I never done this; so i dont know how to talk dirty to him.. It was kind of weird the last time cause he...
A. 10 January 2018: How often do you get to meet up with your boyfriend? The reason I ask as it sounds like an online relationship and if that is the case NEVER do anything you are uncomfortable with. Do you know this guy well enough to be in a relationship with him?... (read in full...)
Did my husband realise that he was wrong or was the grass not really greener on the other side?
Q. I've been married for 8 years and a month or so ago my husband started hiding his phone and staying out all night until the morning. On top of that he was treating me very poorly. I knew there was another girl in the picture. I saw text messages but ...
A. 10 January 2018: Do you think he was thinking off his children when he was making future plans with another woman? I am sorry to say this but I would struggle to trust him after this. Maybe if he was more honest with you fair enough but he still seems to be hiding ... (read in full...)
Did my friend hook me up with a player?
Q. I am confused and need help to make up my mind and deal with my dented ego. A very good man friend hooked me up with his bestie. He knows us both very well. My friend is a very decent guy, he knows me since I was 11 and would not hook me up just ...
A. 9 January 2018: Honestly it does sound like he is now making excuses. You have sex within four hours tells me a lot about what he wanted from you. I know you agreed but I would never have had sex so early on. Him wanting you to spend the night also tells me a lot ... (read in full...)
We met online a week ago and already love each other
Q. I have been divorced for almost 6 months and have been dating. I met someone online and when we met in person we both felt an instant connection. He has already told me he loves me and I have told him also. It has only been a week. I have never had ...
A. 9 January 2018: I think you know deep down that it is crazy. I mean me and my husband moved fast and so did his sister and husband to be. But still you cannot add a child in to the mix off things when you barely know each other. You are both getting caught in the ... (read in full...)
Help me find a way to get our problems out in the open
Q. How do I speak to my partner about things that I'm slacking on? Short backstory, my partner and I have been together for a year and a half, we live together, I am disabled and don't work but can still do most things for myself, and he is pretty...
A. 9 January 2018: Maybe he doesn't feel the need to talk about it, he can see you have an illness and that you needed surgery so he is not going to push you, which is great. A lot off men would get fed up and would make you feel bad. It appears in this situation that ... (read in full...)
Are my husband's conditions unfair?
Q. My husband's conditions for our marriage were that I would never talk to men online ever (including my male cousins, childhood friends who were like my brothers and gay male friends), that I would cut off contact with all my male friends in real ...
A. 9 January 2018: My question would be why did you agree to these conditions? Personally if my husband presented me with those before we got married I would have kindly told him where to shove it. A marriage should be about trust. He cannot and should not control ... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my drunken night?
Q. I went out last night and got really drunk. A guy grabbed me and started kissing me and feeling me up and without thinking I started kissing him back. Then he said he would help to get me home safely but he got out of the taxi too and we ended up ...
A. 9 January 2018: I think firstly you should message the number that he left and ask him did he use protection!! Because if not then you could be looking at pregnancy or any kind off disease.
Secondly I would book in to an STI clinic to get checked and would also... (read in full...)
I am worried about oral sex and hygiene
Q. I've been in a relationship for a while now. She's coming over for the weekend. This will be the first time we'll be alone together in a private place. We've talked about being physical and we're both ready for it. I want to please her sexually. ...
A. 9 January 2018: You don't have to perform oral sex on each other!! You can have a fun and exciting time doing other things. You should be able to talk to each other about these sort off thing before you actually get down to it so you both know what you both want ... (read in full...)
Do I contact him over this rude breakup?
Q. I got in from work to find a email off my boyfriend saying because I'm not an animal person (he has a cat) it won't work out. I have a cat myself. He has blocked me off everything and I don’t know why so I can’t ask him. I knew he was having a few ...
A. 9 January 2018: I get you want to have your say really I do but it is not going to make a difference. He has blocked you because he is a coward who could not do it to your face. I would not give him the satisfaction off an email or even asking him if he was sure. ... (read in full...)
Can I really believe her?
Q. I was looking through my GF text messages one night because I felt something was different lately with her. So I found a text from a guy that she worked with. The text started out as I hear you are leaving the company for a new job and continued ...
A. 9 January 2018: Honestly this is a tough one, because I have been in your girlfriends position. I worked with a colleague who got another job last year and yes I do tell him I miss working with him. We did get close and the truth is I do miss him working in our ... (read in full...)
He's in jail, should I tell him how I feel?
Q. So, back in March 2017 I started meeting with a guy I’ve liked for ages! We met about 4 years ago because he is my cousins best friend and so he attended a lot of family events and things like that. We have flirted with each other for a long time ...
A. 8 January 2018: OP you may not feel that it was a big deal what he done, but driving so dangerously is a serious offence he could have killed the other innocent people that he crashed in to, and even worse is that he is dabbling in drugs. You have came on here ... (read in full...)
I'm extremely hurt that he doesn't believe I'm contributing enough!
Q. Hello everyone, I am a full time student with the occasional summer internship. I am studying a very rigorous major and while I've been in school for 3 years, it will take at least another two for me to finish my bachelors degree. I am a very good...
A. 8 January 2018: This is a point in your relationship that the only thing that is going to work now is to sit down with him and communicate with each other. I do understand why you feel hurt and I also understand his point off view as well. You need to just tell him ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to his personality and not so much to his looks. Can a relationship work like this?
Q. Hi Everyone! Can a relationship work on personality attraction alone l? I’ve met the most amazing guy I’ve quite possibly ever encountered before. We met in the gym where he works, I did NOT find him atttactive at all when I first met him. The...
A. 8 January 2018: For me personality wins over looks every time. We all look different as well get older but love and personality very much stay similar. My advice to you would be to try it and see how you get on, you have nothing to loose and so much to gain. His ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend planned a week long New Year's party at his parents' holiday home despite knowing that I wouldn't be able to make it because of my upcoming exams
Q. My boyfriend [24M] of 6 years decided to throw a week long New Years party with all our mutual friends (roughly about 20 people) at his parents holiday home, which is couple of hours drive away, while I [23F] stay back and study for finals for grad ...
A. 5 January 2018: You cannot help how you feel I understand that. But hey new year is over with now and does it still matter? He wants to party just like a lot off people in their twenties do, and well you need to study so therefore it seems like the logical thing to ... (read in full...)
I feel my girlfriend is cheating on me... With her ex husband's new wife!
Q. I've been dating my girlfriend, we'll call her "S", for about 11 months. She has a 4 year old son, I have no children. She's divorced, and it was rough. He was an abusive, meth-head a-hole. I've never been married, but I've been cheated on ...
A. 5 January 2018: Something sounds very off about this. I think you need to sit down and have a long talk with her and tell her how you feel. If she stopped in the middle off sex just to answer a message then there is something really wrong.... (read in full...)
Can this violent, abusive relationship be saved?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over two years now. We have a house together and before we moved in, we had a great time. However when we moved in, he kept throwing parties and his friends would strip naked and jump into our bed, be ...
A. 5 January 2018: What have your family got to say about all this? Really the only advice I can give you is to get rid off him and don't look back. If you let fear off being on your own rule out you ending this relationship then give it time and you will end up with ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mum that we're back together?
Q. I've been through a bit of a messy break-up in the last 6 months. Naturally I turned to my mum for advice/someone to cry to. I've told her a lot of the problems me and my bf had been having, and how he'd been treating me. As far as she's concerned, ...
A. 5 January 2018: You say it was a messy break up, would you like to give us more details? The thing is your mum will hold on to the things that you told her about your boyfriend and she won't forget so if I am being honest it will be hard for her to accept him back ... (read in full...)
All he wants is sex, what should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together since July and I don’t know him he loves me he says he does but all he wants is sex I love him with all my heart but do I stay or leave should I wait a year ...
A. 4 January 2018: How do you mean you don't know him? Is this an online boyfriend or is it someone you actually do see from time to time? You need to give us more information so that we can give you more advice. ... (read in full...)
I'm ready to get back into the dating scene, but there are a few bridges to cross first!
Q. So, to start off, I haven't dated anyone or pursued anyone in any way for over a year now, but recently, I have been thinking about getting back into the dating world now that things have been going great in my life as far as my health and financial ...
A. 4 January 2018: I think it is a really bad idea pursuing a co-worker, even if she is interested in women it could all still go horribly wrong and you would need to face each other on a daily basis. Do all your family and friends know that you are a lesbian? I would ... (read in full...)
His depression is sending me back to my depressed days
Q. Hey everyone . I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months at first everything was great as usual , weve got to know each other really well in that time and hes told me he suffers really bad depression .I have tried my best to support him in any way ...
A. 4 January 2018: I will give you the same advice as last time and say end it. I mean he cannot offer you a reliable future if he keeps disappearing. Depression is tough yes but he cannot keep using it as an excuse to do this to you. There is no future here between ... (read in full...)
Why me? Why now?
Q. I probably sound pathetic but sometimes things get to me and usually I have no-one to talk to because no1 understands. This week I told my boyfriend I would see him this weekend we both agreed (it fits in with us both). I called him. He answered. I ...
A. 3 January 2018: I think hold back on the children until you sort out these issues. I would never imagine my husband to ignore me like this nor me to him. It is quite cruel ignoring someone you love for no reason. It could be his mental health but he needs to let ... (read in full...)
I feel that my boyfriend's ex wife was living my dream life and I'll never match up to her
Q. Dear Cupid, I am off for the next week due to holidays and as my boyfriend is working, I offered to work on clearing out his storage. Now he has an ex wife of 10 years(divorced in 2009) and I brought home a ton of boxes that were never unpacked. ...
A. 3 January 2018: OP you need to get rid off him, he is not the man for you, you are to jealous to be with someone who had a past.... (read in full...)
Can you help explain my boyfriend's strange behaviour?
Q. I have a bizarre problem! I've been seeing my boyfriend for ten months and we often go away and stay at hotels but the thing is he picks me up after work about 3pm then when we arrive at our hotel he wants to literally go to bed straightaway and ...
A. 3 January 2018: Have things changed yet or is he still making the effort? I mean your original post made him sound like all he was wanting was sex but your updates said something completely different. Can I ask what is it that is stopping him from staying with you?... (read in full...)
I feel that my boyfriend's ex wife was living my dream life and I'll never match up to her
Q. Dear Cupid, I am off for the next week due to holidays and as my boyfriend is working, I offered to work on clearing out his storage. Now he has an ex wife of 10 years(divorced in 2009) and I brought home a ton of boxes that were never unpacked. ...
A. 1 December 2017: Firstly I would suggest that you get your anxiety and alcohol usage under control. Once doing that then maybe you can look at if this relationship is enough for you. It is clear you want the wedding, the firsts and the whole package but you need to ... (read in full...)
Can you help explain my boyfriend's strange behaviour?
Q. I have a bizarre problem! I've been seeing my boyfriend for ten months and we often go away and stay at hotels but the thing is he picks me up after work about 3pm then when we arrive at our hotel he wants to literally go to bed straightaway and ...
A. 1 December 2017: Why can you not both stay at each others houses, does his mum disapprove? Your parents? I mean this sounds like a very strange set up for people in there thirties. Or is that your real age?
For me it sounds like he just wants sex from you, this does... (read in full...)
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